Venting Thread

[jellybean953]

new to forum

new to this forum, but I needed somewhere to vent.

Today, a mom dropped off her son as usual and passively aggressively asked me to change her son's diaper because he peed on the ride over. I hesitantly agreed and then she watched me change the diaper. If she was not in a hurry and had time to watch me diaper her son, why couldn't have she changed her kid's diaper herself? I am so tired of parents thinking the minute they walk into the center, they have no responsibility over their kid! Yes, my job is to provide care for their children, but I feel resentful when parents do crap like that. :confused:

[lovemydaycare0912]

Hello! Came to see what you guys were venting about. For me? Hmmmm nothing too crazy today. I explained to a dcm i will be closing in 5 weeks just 15 mins early as I have a doc appt 1 hr away. She then goes yeah I was wondering why dont you just clise early when you have your appts. This is the same mom who freaked out about my addition of a vacation and anytime I can't help her past my closing time. She goes you know im flexible as long as you can help me out somehow too. Blah blah blah

[MunchkinWrangler]

Tired of pointless, waste of time interviews. I really need to fill my last 2 spots! Everyone is looking for infant care in about 4-5 months. I'm clear about my full charge holding fee because I cannot go without the income and I've been burned twice before. Had one on Monday, emailed her twice and told her over the phone about the full charge fee. Get through most of the interview, and they say the holding fee is a dealbreaker. :confused:
Have a referral coming tomorrow, super rude over the phone. Looking for temporary infant care. Seemed like she wanted to be in control on when to set up the interview. I gave her one option instead of 2. I'm already not feeling it, as I am not impressed with her teenager/Kardashian sounding talk over the phone. UGH!!!
Hoping for a good family soon!!

[Leigh]

I've always wanted to be a foster parent, even 25 years ago. Then I went to a training on foster parenting, watched films and was soooo eager to apply and take classes. Then we found out at that same meeting home providers aren't allowed to become foster parents? So this was a couple years ago.
This a.m. I'm having a really good talk with a dcm who fostered for many years and ended up adopting 2 of their foster kids(who now come here for dc). Evidently 1 of these dcgs has brothers who were in the system too, don't know if they've been adopted or not. But dcm saw 1 of them, sitting in a car at Home Depot, for 45 minutes, with another child of about 5-6. After watching a few minutes to see if an adult was coming out, she called the cops. Then dcm and the cops waited awhile longer. They ended up having to page the people who owned the vehicle. But the 2 kids had been left in there for at least 45 minutes. Why oh WHY are we lowly dcproviders not allowed to foster children????? And she said this person is a business owner in our town.
So dcm and I were talking about leaving kids in cars and how paranoid we both are about it. Another time she was in DD, a mom went into DD to grab a coffee, left a child in the car screaming his head off and when she came back out to the car, yelled at him for screaming. Yeh she might have been in there 5 minutes but still.....was that cup of friggin' coffee more important than her son??

How sad. BTW, I am a foster parent-it depends on the state you live in. Check again to see if rules have changed or exceptions are granted?

[finsup]

I don't care if we're acquaintances, you will not be dropping your child off to me for free. I was not impressed when you changed from 2-3 hours a day to 6:45-3:00 and yes you will absolutely pay a high price for that early. Your child will also not bring his tablet, his own food or stay up at nap. And no, you will not be dropping off tomorrow as you have neglected to come over, fill me in on your kids allergies/issues, signed any contact or filled out any paperwork. Sorry lady, the answer is no. Guilt trip me, give me every sob story you can think of, the only reply you will be getting is "I don't feel we are a good fit for your Childcare needs. Thank you for your interest and good luck in your search!"
*sigh* why do people seem to think their entitled to free care and rules don't apply to them?!

[Miss A]

Dear DCM- Please do not ever contact me at 5:00am again, to ask if they have plowed my highway. Use the DOT website that tracks where the snowplow has been, or, use common sense! I do not know at 5:00am if the road has been plowed, as my alarm does not go off until 6:30am. Oh, now that I am awake you want me to check on the road? No. You are a grown-up big girl. Do what other grown up big girls do. And at drop off, do not act pissy with me because I would not go out and check on the highway at 5:00am, and do not complain about there being "drifts" on the road to me. I do not control the weather, nor do I control the DOT snowplows.

[DaveA]

Why is it the child who normally I spend half the time telling to stop running in my house suddenly makes a comatose snail look like Mario Andretti when the bus shows up 5 minutes early?

[Josiegirl]

I've always wanted to be a foster parent, even 25 years ago. Then I went to a training on foster parenting, watched films and was soooo eager to apply and take classes. Then we found out at that same meeting home providers aren't allowed to become foster parents? So this was a couple years ago.
This a.m. I'm having a really good talk with a dcm who fostered for many years and ended up adopting 2 of their foster kids(who now come here for dc). Evidently 1 of these dcgs has brothers who were in the system too, don't know if they've been adopted or not. But dcm saw 1 of them, sitting in a car at Home Depot, for 45 minutes, with another child of about 5-6. After watching a few minutes to see if an adult was coming out, she called the cops. Then dcm and the cops waited awhile longer. They ended up having to page the people who owned the vehicle. But the 2 kids had been left in there for at least 45 minutes. Why oh WHY are we lowly dcproviders not allowed to foster children????? And she said this person is a business owner in our town.
So dcm and I were talking about leaving kids in cars and how paranoid we both are about it. Another time she was in DD, a mom went into DD to grab a coffee, left a child in the car screaming his head off and when she came back out to the car, yelled at him for screaming. Yeh she might have been in there 5 minutes but still.....was that cup of friggin' coffee more important than her son??

[Josiegirl]

Working with infants has the opposite effect on me. I spend the entire time being mildly annoyed that they can't do anything for themselves. I like them a lot more once they start walking.

As for my vent, today DCG4:

• slapped me because I told her she had to sit in her chair at the table
• attempted to climb onto the top of the cubbies because she wanted to take her name off the bulletin board because "it's stupid"
• kicked the floater (teacher) in my room because her pants were gray (?????)
• threw a nap mat at me
• started screaming about 15 minutes into nap for no obvious reason
• escaped from the director's office and came running back to my classroom door during nap and started kicking said door (while screaming "you can't catch me")
• hit her mom with a book when she was being picked up

On a completely related note, DCG4 will not be back.

Oh MY! I've had kids do those kinds of things also. BUT not all in the same day and done by the same kid! Yikes!
Thank God it was Friday and she won't be back.

I have nothing to complain about. I just wanted to come and see what everyone else was dealing with. Hope you all have better days ahead.

[Febby]

The only sad/bad thing about working with infants is that it makes you miss how little your kid use to be. It makes me ovaries cry (aka baby fever!).

My daughter use to be so helpless and lovable back then. Now she practically lives in her bedroom with the door shut playing online games with friends and barely tells me about her day. She's an 8yr old with a 15yr olds life already. ~sigh~

I would love another one but there is no way my always financially worrisome husband would ever agree. He says he's "good" and doesn't want to go back to the times we "struggled". He rather have money and a new bathroom or new couch....
OH well. Other people babies will have to do.....

Working with infants has the opposite effect on me. I spend the entire time being mildly annoyed that they can't do anything for themselves. I like them a lot more once they start walking.

As for my vent, today DCG4:

• slapped me because I told her she had to sit in her chair at the table
• attempted to climb onto the top of the cubbies because she wanted to take her name off the bulletin board because "it's stupid"
• kicked the floater (teacher) in my room because her pants were gray (?????)
• threw a nap mat at me
• started screaming about 15 minutes into nap for no obvious reason
• escaped from the director's office and came running back to my classroom door during nap and started kicking said door (while screaming "you can't catch me")
• hit her mom with a book when she was being picked up

On a completely related note, DCG4 will not be back.

[Annalee]

Sent dcg home with a temp of 101.00 yesterday. The rule is 24hrs fever free no meds. DCM sends text last night asking if dcg can come today. She didn't have a temp after yesterday morning and ran around and played, according to DCM.

Really hacked me off. She knows the rule. She knows that I have sent two kids home this week with fevers, she knows that their is something going around. Really frustrated me that she even asked.

:hug:I am right there with you! These parents just make me go :confused:

[Jack Sprat]

Sent dcg home with a temp of 101.00 yesterday. The rule is 24hrs fever free no meds. DCM sends text last night asking if dcg can come today. She didn't have a temp after yesterday morning and ran around and played, according to DCM.

Really hacked me off. She knows the rule. She knows that I have sent two kids home this week with fevers, she knows that their is something going around. Really frustrated me that she even asked.

[ChelseaB]

I am so miserably sick. I almost NEVER call off work unless I am vomiting or if I know for certain that I am contagious. However, I believe that this may be a cold of sorts that the DCK's shared with me....and instead of getting better, I'm definitely regressing.

Oh, please let me get through this day quickly!

[MsLisa]

The only sad/bad thing about working with infants is that it makes you miss how little your kid use to be. It makes me ovaries cry (aka baby fever!).

My daughter use to be so helpless and lovable back then. Now she practically lives in her bedroom with the door shut playing online games with friends and barely tells me about her day. She's an 8yr old with a 15yr olds life already. ~sigh~

I would love another one but there is no way my always financially worrisome husband would ever agree. He says he's "good" and doesn't want to go back to the times we "struggled". He rather have money and a new bathroom or new couch....
OH well. Other people babies will have to do.....

[Blackcat31]

Is it a terrible thing to tell a child you're busy and cannot help them right at that moment but will when you're done?
Dcm comes in this a.m. and says have you heard J tell you she's too busy when you ask her to do something? I kinda chuckled and said yeh. The dcg is 2 yo. 'I wonder where she gets it from?' asks Mom. I say 'I don't think they need to 'get' stuff from anywhere, lots of times they come up with it on their own'. Dcm hoped she hasn't been saying it and dcg heard it from her because she'd never be too busy. Then dcm kinda gives me a look so I am honest with her and say 'well, if I'm in the middle of something that I can't tear away from, I'll tell the dcks that I'm busy right now but will help as soon as I can'.
I truly do love her dd so much and think she's a sweetie pie but she can be very demanding and want people/things/time all to herself a lot of the time. It's evident with how she acts here. I truly don't think it's a bad thing to not always be available every single moment of one's day, even if she was the only one here.

I would have told mom that one of the fundamental requirements for surviving adulthood is learning how to wait.

Bank lines
Check out lines
Restaurants
Traffic lights
Doctor's appointments



I can think of hundreds of other situations in which some one must wait so I am seriously dumbfounded that a parent hasn't grasped that concept yet.