Venting Thread

[Alwaysgreener]

I requested a sleeper, wipes and diapers for the 9 month old. DCM sends a sleeper and onises. I marked off the sleeper and requested wipes and diapers for the next day.

DCM sends a sleeper and onises, then ask what is a sleeper? I explain, the one piece outfit with feet and zipper that he is wearing. Then ask what does she call it? Pajamas.

Yes it is pajamas. But they are called sleepers or sleep n play.

This is the same DCM that brought diapers weekly for months, I had so many that I was stashing them around my house. She continued even after I explained that I had limited space for every child and dcb diapers have over flowed my over flow.

Then one week she brought a full pack and stopped bringing them weekly. Now I have asked twice and keep getting sleepers and onises that I didn't ask for.

[Alwaysgreener]

I got bitten yesterday by a 4yo. I know he has autism and he did it in response to the environment being loud but it still makes me mad. It didn’t break the skin but it did leave a mark. I’m beginning to think this child needs to be in special ed not a regular classroom. I can’t give him the one on one he needs. He’s fine when he’s with me by himself or with one or two others but when the classroom gets busy all hell breaks loose. He opens doors and runs out of the classroom or starts throwing things across the room. None of the other children like him and are starting to call him mean names or tell him he’s stupid or bad boy and this only makes things worse. His parents know he has special needs but therapy is expensive and I don’t know what their financial situation is.
Hope I don’t get bitten by anything other than my new kitten today.

Are you a home day care or center?

If home, call American disability act and ask what you can do legally.

What they told me is that I can have the parents hire an assistant to give the child one on one and require the family pay for my service and wages of the assistant. They of course did not want to do this so they pulled their child.

Here the school system evaluates children, then they are given free schooling. Example my sil had her dd evaluated and she started school at 2 years old for her autism, this was done at no cost to sil.

You could call in a referral to the child school to get the ball rolling.

[CeriBear]

I got bitten yesterday by a 4yo. I know he has autism and he did it in response to the environment being loud but it still makes me mad. It didn’t break the skin but it did leave a mark. I’m beginning to think this child needs to be in special ed not a regular classroom. I can’t give him the one on one he needs. He’s fine when he’s with me by himself or with one or two others but when the classroom gets busy all hell breaks loose. He opens doors and runs out of the classroom or starts throwing things across the room. None of the other children like him and are starting to call him mean names or tell him he’s stupid or bad boy and this only makes things worse. His parents know he has special needs but therapy is expensive and I don’t know what their financial situation is.
Hope I don’t get bitten by anything other than my new kitten today.

[Alwaysgreener]

He comes for naptime and then goes home. I teach my own kids during nap, so I need him to quietly rest while I am teaching my kids not taking a break. Even when he is the only child, he still needs to nap because I schedule my day around him coming and napping, not me playing with him while I get my stuff done. So PLEASE do not nap him before he comes because he then screams during nap and disturbs naptime for the other kids.

[Alwaysgreener]

Next one, DCM comes in today. She is in the middle of a sentence when she entered and says that her hours have changed. She is now not working every other Monday but she thinks she will bring dcb anyways, to nap! He comes after lunch and is gone shortly after nap. Some days, that is all he does because he falls asleep late and does not wake until just before his pick time. So she is going to bring him to sleep, no meals or play, just to sleep.

[Alwaysgreener]

My mud room is my entry space, I do not keep the light on in that room when it is not in use. On most days I have a 745 family and then this family at 8. Today this family was the first family, so the light was off when they arrive, this happens every week (but DST just happened) but this week DCM was super focused on the fact that the light was not on when she arrived.

She then tells me that she put shirts in the bag for the baby because I requested them, I had seen the shirts but thought it was by mistake because I DID NOT REQUEST ANY SHIRTS. I told her, oh I was wondering why they were in the bag because they are smaller then what he wears. She insist that they still fit him.

She is the same dcm that sends diapers weekly even though I do not request them, every week I have to find a place to put them because both diaper storage areas are full, which I told her.

I also need a policy stating that if a child shows up in a larger size diapers that I will send home the smaller size. She brought me a huge sleave of size 2 diapers that lasted me more than a month, meanwhile the diaper that I take off the baby that morning was a size 3.

[Alwaysgreener]

She is still doing it, I am gaining diapers every week. HELP

[Alwaysgreener]

Naptime is over, so I send potty trained 4yo to the bathroom which I do every day before and after nap with everyone. He sits on the toilet for a longer than normal and then gets off. He starts crying because he can not get his pants to pull up, they have a button but he has gotten them up and down all day. I make him sit down, to calm down. He is almost calm but I have to step away to care for another child. I come back to an hysterical little boy, that is focused on getting the pants unbuttoned which he did not have to do earlier. I ask him to remove his pants, after a few minutes, he complies and the pants are wet. He had peed himself during nap and was trying yo hid it from me but failed because he could not get the wet pants to pull up. UGH. I think he was in the bathroom for about 30 minutes to avoid telling me that he was wet. Top it off, when I went to wake him, he was already awake and sitting up on the mat waiting for me. AND before nap I sang, If you gotta go potty go right away, flush and wash and be on you way. (insert head shake)

[e.j.]

Lately, it feels as though some of the parents are worse than the kids. They don't listen, follow instructions or use common sense. I have a teacher parent who just returned some registration forms. She didn't follow the instructions I gave her and failed to completely fill out all areas on the forms. I laughed to myself thinking, I'll bet you give your students such a hard time when they don't follow instructions or complete their assignments. If only they knew you weren't any better at it!

[e.j.]

It doesn't solve the problems you're having with this consultant but it does have to feel a little better knowing it's not just you.

[Alwaysgreener]

DCM keeps brining more diapers every Monday, I already commented that I have an overflow spot but that it is already full. I use daily connect to let families know when I need supplies. So I will let her know when I am running low.

FFWD she brings clothes for both kids because she did not have time to read which child needed clothes. Maybe note which child had soiled clothes sent home.

She also comments that she could e pay the last provider cause they used procare, well she could pay me through daily connect but it would take me a week to get my money from daily connect so I do not use the option. Plus I pay less than 10 a month and procare is 25. So no I do not plan on changing .

[Alwaysgreener]

Just talked to another provider that told me "hearsay" that there is another provider near me that is also having trouble with the same consultant, so I am not alone.

[Alwaysgreener]

I had one do that once, she was late paying and drop off the money then went home and emailed me a list of reasons why they no longer needed my services. Can't look me in the eye, then you got something to hide.

[girlmomma]

I can’t stand when parents wear sunglasses in the house.

[Alwaysgreener]

I had a tour with a dcm at the mid July, I held the tour on Saturday because she worked second shift but had her mom planned to pick up the child by 4:30. Dad came with her to the tour but mom couldn't make it.?

i told them that I couldn't start the child until he turned 18 months and until I came back from vacation, plus all the paperwork had to be done before I left.?

About a week went by and I heard nothing. Then she messaged July 30th saying she was ready to enroll, I try to respond as soon as possible but I had scheduled a day off and I was busy all day (the next day) I messaged that I was out of town and would respond when I return.?

I sent her my enrollment packet on Friday with a 72 hours window of time. The following Wednesday she says she is sick and will get started on it soon. My vacation starts Monday and she starts the paperwork then. She sends me a message and I respond back that I am on vacation and the daycare is closed, that I will respond to her when I reopen on the 19th, the day that she was asking to start.

Today, a Saturday, I am still on vacation, she text asking again, when can I meet her mom and does this mean he can't start on Monday.?

i haven't responded and do not plan to do so until Monday morning.