Venting Thread

[Miss A]

My Granddad passed away last night, and services will be tomorrow and Wednesday. I informed families this morning that I will need to be closed for a family services and funeral both days. One mom text me, 'can't you provide a back up care provider?' My response "I am sorry, but as you know, my family is my back up. They are unavailable to assist at this time. Here are 2 other local providers that may be able to assist. As a reminder, as stated in your contract if is the parents responsibility to line up an alternative care provider". Mom 'oh, okay. I guess I will have to figure something out.'.

I am sorry, but some days I get tired of parenting the parents. Read the contract, and please do not make me feel guilty for taking time off that I need to spend with my family!

[Controlled Chaos]

My Granddad passed away last night, and services will be tomorrow and Wednesday. I informed families this morning that I will need to be closed for a family services and funeral both days. One mom text me, 'can't you provide a back up care provider?' My response "I am sorry, but as you know, my family is my back up. They are unavailable to assist at this time. Here are 2 other local providers that may be able to assist. As a reminder, as stated in your contract if is the parents responsibility to line up an alternative care provider". Mom 'oh, okay. I guess I will have to figure something out.'.

I am sorry, but some days I get tired of parenting the parents. Read the contract, and please do not make me feel guilty for taking time off that I need to spend with my family!

:hug: I'm sorry for your loss lovethislovethislovethislovethis

[Annalee]

My Granddad passed away last night, and services will be tomorrow and Wednesday. I informed families this morning that I will need to be closed for a family services and funeral both days. One mom text me, 'can't you provide a back up care provider?' My response "I am sorry, but as you know, my family is my back up. They are unavailable to assist at this time. Here are 2 other local providers that may be able to assist. As a reminder, as stated in your contract if is the parents responsibility to line up an alternative care provider". Mom 'oh, okay. I guess I will have to figure something out.'.

I am sorry, but some days I get tired of parenting the parents. Read the contract, and please do not make me feel guilty for taking time off that I need to spend with my family!

:hug:I had this happen to me when my dad died....even had one parent call the others to try and get them not to pay for my time off! I was more hurt than mad....You learn the hard way this is a business and you can't expect clients to make the right decisions so set your contract/policies and stand by them!!!

[Blackcat31]

My Granddad passed away last night, and services will be tomorrow and Wednesday. I informed families this morning that I will need to be closed for a family services and funeral both days. One mom text me, 'can't you provide a back up care provider?' My response "I am sorry, but as you know, my family is my back up. They are unavailable to assist at this time. Here are 2 other local providers that may be able to assist. As a reminder, as stated in your contract if is the parents responsibility to line up an alternative care provider". Mom 'oh, okay. I guess I will have to figure something out.'.

I am sorry, but some days I get tired of parenting the parents. Read the contract, and please do not make me feel guilty for taking time off that I need to spend with my family!

I am sorry for your loss :hug:

Great response to your DCM though!!

[finsup]

So tired of this...

Dcb (almost 3) enters house with a huge meltdown...again. He's been coming since he was 2m old, is fine within minutes of dcd leaving (does a very quick goodbye, dcd is great about that) but those few minutes of crying etc wake up my own kids and are completly unnecessary.

Meltdowns because I don't respond to "demands" of wanting his cup. Cups are out at meal times, with water. Not his precious juice that gets dumped for water or milk every day.

Meltdowns over lunch because, well, I don't really know why on this one. Probably because he's not getting his juice.

Calms down from lunch meltdown, nibbles food which makes a mess and takes forever to eat. Is told for the millionth time, real bites only. Meltdown number 2.

Gets over lunch meltdown number 2 and instead of nibbles he shoves a ton of food in his mouth, coughs, spits it out, and huge meltdown again.

Now it's nap and oh yeah, already had to go in there to tell him to stop whining. I don't care how much you "don't want to" its nap time, rest, sleep, I don't care, but you're not getting up until 2:30.

Playtime this morning? Spent tattling or taking toys from people. Project time? Meltdowns because he refuses to take the cap of the glue stick himself (yes, he can do it, and easily, when he wants to).

And this has been the past month with him *sigh.* I really like the family but their discipline is so inconsistent. One parent allows child to do whatever he wants whenever he wants. Other parent tries to discipline but is only sometimes, depending on how tired they are etc. Here, well, its a very different picture. Dcb is not liking it at all and well I'm just burned out on the same thing day after day after day.

[Miss A]

Potty training. Enough said.

[Snowmom]

Potty training. Enough said.

Ha. That's mine today too.

That and "tell your kid no, it won't scar them for life".

DCB2 comes in the same Spiderman sweatshirt he's worn for the last 3 days now. Covered with food stains and stinks. But he "just won't wear anything else".

[Rockgirl]

Ha. That's mine today too.

That and "tell your kid no, it won't scar them for life".

DCB2 comes in the same Spiderman sweatshirt he's worn for the last 3 days now. Covered with food stains and stinks. But he "just won't wear anything else".

Or wash it at night!

[MsLisa]

I really worry about myself sometimes...or at least my "quirks".

I haven't even started working yet and I’m already starting to mentally plan out ways to better the room. For example, I noticed right away that there were no baby books to read to them. I read to my daughter every day/night while holding that bottle and up till she turned 8. I think its a wonderful thing to do when they're young and really helps them. Heck, I will go out and personally get them myself if needed cause it makes me oddly happy. But I don't want to step on toes right out of the gate, being just an assistant. They could use some better toys, the teacher is a little meh about the messes....but anyway! I'm already jumping ahead of myself and that's what gets me in trouble. I am a seeker of "better" and its frustrating to hear it nag me in my mind. I can't do that any more.
Must. Resist.

[Play Care]

The 3 yo who refused much of his breakfast is now insisting on sitting in his chair and demanding snack. I put him down and said its not time, come play! Only to get back up in his chair grunting at me.

The 4 yo DC girl always to do other things. It's only 9:30 and I've been asked 347 times if we are going outside. The thing is as soon as I introduce one activity she's quickly bored and asking for another. It takes longer to get out/set up then she actually plays. And as soon as we get out, she'll be the first one wanting to come in.

My favorite 21 month old is getting "handy" with the other kids.

I really want a day to just hide under the covers.

[Josiegirl]

Is it a terrible thing to tell a child you're busy and cannot help them right at that moment but will when you're done?
Dcm comes in this a.m. and says have you heard J tell you she's too busy when you ask her to do something? I kinda chuckled and said yeh. The dcg is 2 yo. 'I wonder where she gets it from?' asks Mom. I say 'I don't think they need to 'get' stuff from anywhere, lots of times they come up with it on their own'. Dcm hoped she hasn't been saying it and dcg heard it from her because she'd never be too busy. Then dcm kinda gives me a look so I am honest with her and say 'well, if I'm in the middle of something that I can't tear away from, I'll tell the dcks that I'm busy right now but will help as soon as I can'.
I truly do love her dd so much and think she's a sweetie pie but she can be very demanding and want people/things/time all to herself a lot of the time. It's evident with how she acts here. I truly don't think it's a bad thing to not always be available every single moment of one's day, even if she was the only one here.

[Rockgirl]

Is it a terrible thing to tell a child you're busy and cannot help them right at that moment but will when you're done?
Dcm comes in this a.m. and says have you heard J tell you she's too busy when you ask her to do something? I kinda chuckled and said yeh. The dcg is 2 yo. 'I wonder where she gets it from?' asks Mom. I say 'I don't think they need to 'get' stuff from anywhere, lots of times they come up with it on their own'. Dcm hoped she hasn't been saying it and dcg heard it from her because she'd never be too busy. Then dcm kinda gives me a look so I am honest with her and say 'well, if I'm in the middle of something that I can't tear away from, I'll tell the dcks that I'm busy right now but will help as soon as I can'.
I truly do love her dd so much and think she's a sweetie pie but she can be very demanding and want people/things/time all to herself a lot of the time. It's evident with how she acts here. I truly don't think it's a bad thing to not always be available every single moment of one's day, even if she was the only one here.

I say it all the time! Heck, when are we NOT in the middle of something?

[mommyneedsadayoff]

Is it a terrible thing to tell a child you're busy and cannot help them right at that moment but will when you're done?
Dcm comes in this a.m. and says have you heard J tell you she's too busy when you ask her to do something? I kinda chuckled and said yeh. The dcg is 2 yo. 'I wonder where she gets it from?' asks Mom. I say 'I don't think they need to 'get' stuff from anywhere, lots of times they come up with it on their own'. Dcm hoped she hasn't been saying it and dcg heard it from her because she'd never be too busy. Then dcm kinda gives me a look so I am honest with her and say 'well, if I'm in the middle of something that I can't tear away from, I'll tell the dcks that I'm busy right now but will help as soon as I can'.
I truly do love her dd so much and think she's a sweetie pie but she can be very demanding and want people/things/time all to herself a lot of the time. It's evident with how she acts here. I truly don't think it's a bad thing to not always be available every single moment of one's day, even if she was the only one here.

So dcm thinks we should all drop whatever we are doing to help her snowflake? Does she have more than one kid? I can only imagine being in the middle of changing a poop and having to stop just for her child!:: Oy! Parents never cease to amaze me! They do realize the Earth revolves around the sun and not their child right? ::

[Blackcat31]

Is it a terrible thing to tell a child you're busy and cannot help them right at that moment but will when you're done?
Dcm comes in this a.m. and says have you heard J tell you she's too busy when you ask her to do something? I kinda chuckled and said yeh. The dcg is 2 yo. 'I wonder where she gets it from?' asks Mom. I say 'I don't think they need to 'get' stuff from anywhere, lots of times they come up with it on their own'. Dcm hoped she hasn't been saying it and dcg heard it from her because she'd never be too busy. Then dcm kinda gives me a look so I am honest with her and say 'well, if I'm in the middle of something that I can't tear away from, I'll tell the dcks that I'm busy right now but will help as soon as I can'.
I truly do love her dd so much and think she's a sweetie pie but she can be very demanding and want people/things/time all to herself a lot of the time. It's evident with how she acts here. I truly don't think it's a bad thing to not always be available every single moment of one's day, even if she was the only one here.

I would have told mom that one of the fundamental requirements for surviving adulthood is learning how to wait.

Bank lines
Check out lines
Restaurants
Traffic lights
Doctor's appointments



I can think of hundreds of other situations in which some one must wait so I am seriously dumbfounded that a parent hasn't grasped that concept yet.

[MsLisa]

The only sad/bad thing about working with infants is that it makes you miss how little your kid use to be. It makes me ovaries cry (aka baby fever!).

My daughter use to be so helpless and lovable back then. Now she practically lives in her bedroom with the door shut playing online games with friends and barely tells me about her day. She's an 8yr old with a 15yr olds life already. ~sigh~

I would love another one but there is no way my always financially worrisome husband would ever agree. He says he's "good" and doesn't want to go back to the times we "struggled". He rather have money and a new bathroom or new couch....
OH well. Other people babies will have to do.....