Venting Thread

[laundrymom]

Life just makes me want to scream some days. Anyone with me?
Just life in general.

[Blackcat31]

Will I ever be able to please these parents?!

Last week, DCM was in a tizzy because DCB wasn't eating the pureed food she sent. Even though he was drinking all of the milk she sent, that wasnt good enough because "he gobbles his food up at home".

Yesterday he ate everything that she sent & STILL she sends a note with DCD this morning! Now she's not happy because I didnt follow the "exact" feeding schedule that she has him on. (I fed him 10min. early so that he wouldnt be screaming for a bottle on the car ride home ) Of course she threw in a couple "oh but I trust your judgement..." But do you? Really? Because if you did, you'd stop micro managing me!!!!

Stop trying to please parents.

It's less stressful that way.

Do things YOUR way (in your daily routine according to your program schedule) and let mom do things her way.

Tell her the ONLY option she has in this situation is choosing whether or not YOUR daily routine/schedule works for her.

She absolutely gets to dictate the child's diet (as long as it meets food program and/or licensing requirements) but she does NOT get to dictate your actions in forcing a child to eat a specific amount, when he gets to eat (down to the minute like that..) and she can write all the notes she wants but you are under no obligation to follow them.

If she wants to micro-manage things to that extent, she needs a nanny.

If I were you, I'd hand her back the note and say something like "DCM, I understand you want Baby to eat according to your specific instructions but I've established a pretty good routine here during the day that meets food program and licensing requirements. I'll gladly keep you updated as to how things are going but you don't need to send these detailed notes in daily. I've got it covered."

Then SMILE big and stand your ground.

[Heart12]

Will I ever be able to please these parents?!

Last week, DCM was in a tizzy because DCB wasn't eating the pureed food she sent. Even though he was drinking all of the milk she sent, that wasnt good enough because "he gobbles his food up at home".

Yesterday he ate everything that she sent & STILL she sends a note with DCD this morning! Now she's not happy because I didnt follow the "exact" feeding schedule that she has him on. (I fed him 10min. early so that he wouldnt be screaming for a bottle on the car ride home ) Of course she threw in a couple "oh but I trust your judgement..." But do you? Really? Because if you did, you'd stop micro managing me!!!!

[Play Care]

Snow day today and I have one family. Suggested they allow the SA boys to bring something to do during quiet time.
They show up with the board game Life.
Because yeah, a 6 and 7 year old will play that independently.

[Mike]

I really need to stop engaging people in mommy groups who for the life of them can't understand why daycare providers charge for enrollment and not attendance and why illegal daycares are bad. They're just not going to understand and I'm getting myself all fired up for nothing.

Even if they did understand, some wouldn't care.

[Indoorvoice]

I really need to stop engaging people in mommy groups who for the life of them can't understand why daycare providers charge for enrollment and not attendance and why illegal daycares are bad. They're just not going to understand and I'm getting myself all fired up for nothing.

Kids in my class who are in for a rude awakening in kindergarten-

- boy whose mom is attachment parenting and cannot tolerate negative emotions, cries over everything, and shows no remorse when his rough play hurts friends.
- girl who wears heels and party dresses every single day and still carries a security blanket.
- boy who is coddled and lacks independence because he is a special snowflake.
- girl with developmental delays who should be in an early intervention program. Oh and she has an October birthday so she will likely continue on mostly unsupported until she's nearly 6 and goes to kindergarten where they will hopefully get mom to accept the need for special education.
- girl who seriously needs speech therapy.
I feel bad for kindergarten teachers who have the unpleasant job of pulling parents heads out of the sand.

[lovemydaycare0912]

Diarrhea and vomiting all morning. Closing tomorrow for 3 out of 5 kids. Going to be a pajama and TV kind of day. Husband held it down today but now he's sick too and I'm feeling better. Can Friday night come fast enough? Oh and not to mention the mess in my house that we have no energy to clean until tomorrow.

[Josiegirl]

The competition between all these girls is killing me. OMG
We've got a little snow to play in which is great. BUT 2 tots that love to be pulled around in toddler sleds and 3 bigger kids that love to pull them. See the problem with that? I got so frustrated today I threatened to put all the sleds away for the rest of the season.
And one of the bigger girls can be very whiny so if I tell her to share or it's somebody else's turn or she doesn't get to pull the tot she wants, she'll stand there and bawl the entire time.
It's going to be a very looonnnggg winter.

[Josiegirl]

The snotty noses. EVERY SINGLE CHILD IN CARE has a runny nose right now. Slight cough, no fever, crankier than usual. Fun times. I feel like 90% of our day is just survival mode and I'm not loving it!

Some of mine have runny noses too, and the cough. One 3.5 yo dcg has had a cough and goopy nose for well over 2(maybe even 3 weeks). Constantly reminding her to cover her cough. Tell me, what good does it do to spend hours disinfecting, cleaning, sanitizing when all it takes is one cough-in-your-face moment to bring it all down??

[DaveA]

He knew, he was just hoping you would give them a break. That's why he ASKED, because otherwise, he wouldn't OWE anything.

Yep. Exactly

[daycarediva]

The snotty noses. EVERY SINGLE CHILD IN CARE has a runny nose right now. Slight cough, no fever, crankier than usual. Fun times. I feel like 90% of our day is just survival mode and I'm not loving it!

[Play Care]

I am so over the PT baby waking up screaming from nap.

[daycarediva]

Dck did not come to daycare all last week because he was sick. Today was his first day back (he's here Wed-Fri).

Dcd just picked him up and asked how much he owes me. I said the weekly rate for last week and this week. He was like, "Wait so we pay for last week even though he was sick?" I told him yes. He suddenly seemed very annoyed and mad. Seriously, I've gone over this with them and it clearly states this in my contract!

To make matters worse, he asked, "who do I make the check out to?" I said he can make it out to me. He paused and said "what's your name again?" Ahhh... you know, just the person that's been caring for your child for the last month!!

He knew, he was just hoping you would give them a break. That's why he ASKED, because otherwise, he wouldn't OWE anything.

[LysesKids]

Dck did not come to daycare all last week because he was sick. Today was his first day back (he's here Wed-Fri).

Dcd just picked him up and asked how much he owes me. I said the weekly rate for last week and this week. He was like, "Wait so we pay for last week even though he was sick?" I told him yes. He suddenly seemed very annoyed and mad. Seriously, I've gone over this with them and it clearly states this in my contract!

To make matters worse, he asked, "who do I make the check out to?" I said he can make it out to me. He paused and said "what's your name again?" Ahhh... you know, just the person that's been caring for your child for the last month!!

I do cash and credit card only ... IN ADVANCE of care. The only time I give a credit is if a child is ill and they will be out 5 or more contracted days in a row - in order to get the 50% credit I need a Dr's note within the first 48 hrs stating illness and how long a child will be absent (I figure if the kid is that sick parents have to go to Dr's office)... no note, no credit. It keeps a parent from trying to pull one over for discounted vacation time too.