Venting Thread

[Annalee]

Too many times parents do not want to communicate, they just want their "WAY". :confused:

[Ariana]

I have this one dcm who doesn't know how yo communicate. She acts like she's too scared to talk to me or bring up concerns. I am trying to help her out but that's about to go out the window if she can't grow up. We are 3 years apart. I am not scary at all. Just talk to me!!!! Omay rant over.

I am in a similar situation right now. Lack of communication is a huge stressor.

[lovemydaycare0912]

why does she act like a teenager's

I have this one dcm who doesn't know how yo communicate. She acts like she's too scared to talk to me or bring up concerns. I am trying to help her out but that's about to go out the window if she can't grow up. We are 3 years apart. I am not scary at all. Just talk to me!!!! Omay rant over.

[daycarediva]

Finished my 1st week as a full-time infant teacher assistant and I’m sooo zonked. I didn't think I would feel so drained after dealing with SA kids for 2yrs. Its a total different demon. Even though my natural motherly instinct is on full force, I find myself googling stuff during my breaks trying to "fix" infant troubles and behaviours. I have a horrible habit of going into SA mode, knowing full well a 1yr old isn't going to care how sharp I say "no". Its....a lot. Accepting moments where you just have to let them cio a little so you can make a bottle or that no matter how much you try an over tired 9 month old is ok to scream like the world has ended.... no matter how much it digs under your skin and makes you sweat.

One thing that bothers me, although silly, is how little these infants (4m to 1yr) babble. I find myself constantly going "ba ba ba", "da da da" and etc cause I’m convinced they should be at least that far in language. I'm constantly labelling things they play with and mimicking conversations with them but to no avail. I use to read to my daughter daily and by 6m she was saying "ice" and babbling like a fool. We don't have any books in the room, let alone read to them and these kids only screech. Only 1 actually babbles and is good at trying to mimic your words. I don't know....I always get obsessed with such small details.

YIKES! Can you ask the library or local schools for some donations of board books for the infant room? I would bring a book a day and read to them, for sure. Sing songs (those are free, and even though my voice is awful, the kids love singing!)

[Play Care]

I am sick. Not enough to be closed, but enough to be punky. I tried to get to bed early last night, but as soon as I got ready for bed, I couldn't settle down to sleep.
All the dck's have been out at least one day, and one was out three days.

We got a serious case of the PUNK going on here.

[Sunshine74]

Kids are so far behind these days! Get used to it I don;t know if it's because of iphones or self absorbed parents. it ****s.

It can be that- the lack of face to face time they get from the parents, and the fact that a lot of babies/children are not read to enough. Another issue is the number of push button, battery operated toys that they get. Why bother saying, "moo" for a cow, or making car sounds when the toys already do it for them? Yes, I know that those language skills are a little more advanced than infant skills, but that's where it starts.

[Sunshine74]

I am soooo sick of parents in denial about their kids. Like why wouldn't you go and get your kid checked out by a speech pathologist? Because of $$ :confused: I am so sick of even bringing up concerns because 99% of the time it falls on deaf ears and they make up so much sh!t about what is going on at home. Dad telling me that his 2 yr old kid is using 2 words together at home...but totally not doing that here? not babbling, can't understand 99% of the words she says and I'm sorry but saying "wawa" at 2 for water is NOT normal. Then he takes her to the DR and OF COURSE the DR says she is developing normally. WTF????? so frustrating. She cannot complete a word. Everything is stringing together syllables and nonsense words. "wawa" for water "baba" for milk "gaga" for grandmad etc. It's beyond ridiculous what these parents think is normal.

I get so frustrated and I am not sure why. I mean WTF should I care if this child's social skills go down the drain because her parents are not interested in helping her?? I feel like I need to learn something here. Like I need to totally detach from all emotions towards families. Just be a warehouse for kids. That's what they want right??

:confused:

I feel your pain. And parents here have no $ excuse because the evaluation and any resulting services are free.

[Ariana]

I am soooo sick of parents in denial about their kids. Like why wouldn't you go and get your kid checked out by a speech pathologist? Because of $$ :confused: I am so sick of even bringing up concerns because 99% of the time it falls on deaf ears and they make up so much sh!t about what is going on at home. Dad telling me that his 2 yr old kid is using 2 words together at home...but totally not doing that here? not babbling, can't understand 99% of the words she says and I'm sorry but saying "wawa" at 2 for water is NOT normal. Then he takes her to the DR and OF COURSE the DR says she is developing normally. WTF????? so frustrating. She cannot complete a word. Everything is stringing together syllables and nonsense words. "wawa" for water "baba" for milk "gaga" for grandmad etc. It's beyond ridiculous what these parents think is normal.

I get so frustrated and I am not sure why. I mean WTF should I care if this child's social skills go down the drain because her parents are not interested in helping her?? I feel like I need to learn something here. Like I need to totally detach from all emotions towards families. Just be a warehouse for kids. That's what they want right??

:confused:

[Ariana]

Finished my 1st week as a full-time infant teacher assistant and I’m sooo zonked. I didn't think I would feel so drained after dealing with SA kids for 2yrs. Its a total different demon. Even though my natural motherly instinct is on full force, I find myself googling stuff during my breaks trying to "fix" infant troubles and behaviours. I have a horrible habit of going into SA mode, knowing full well a 1yr old isn't going to care how sharp I say "no". Its....a lot. Accepting moments where you just have to let them cio a little so you can make a bottle or that no matter how much you try an over tired 9 month old is ok to scream like the world has ended.... no matter how much it digs under your skin and makes you sweat.

One thing that bothers me, although silly, is how little these infants (4m to 1yr) babble. I find myself constantly going "ba ba ba", "da da da" and etc cause I’m convinced they should be at least that far in language. I'm constantly labelling things they play with and mimicking conversations with them but to no avail. I use to read to my daughter daily and by 6m she was saying "ice" and babbling like a fool. We don't have any books in the room, let alone read to them and these kids only screech. Only 1 actually babbles and is good at trying to mimic your words. I don't know....I always get obsessed with such small details.

Kids are so far behind these days! Get used to it I don;t know if it's because of iphones or self absorbed parents. it ****s.

[auntymimi]

I'm just so beyond done with the ridiculous non-parenting of my parents. School age girl (11) I've had for some time now has always had trouble with hygiene and it's getting worse. I've been mentioning to mom about the boots she insists on wearing with no socks and even after washing the odor is awful. Lingers in my home even after she's gone. Mind you, this isn't a poverty situation. Baby brother and sister are always clean and dressed appropriately and the boots are Ariat boots for goodness sake! Dcg doesn't want to be clean and mom "doesn't want to fight with her about it". Just like she didn't want to "fight" with the baby to get him to sleep without being held with a breast for a soother all night so he could sleep in daycare, and she didn't want to "fight" with the 4 year old about dressing appropriately for weather or going to bed on time. I can talk to this little girl until I'm blue in the face, Heck I've bought her the damn socks! She come to my home again today, after a beauty pageant of all blessed things, with the same boots on with no socks.
She's crying out for attention from her mom and her mom just can't be bothered. Yet when I say something AGAIN I'm the bad guy? Same kid is getting ready to go at pickup, while mom is signing out, goes to my gross motor room and grabs one of my bouncing balls (ball with a handle that kids sit on and bounce) and begins to throw it against my built in china cabinet in my dining area! Right in front of mom! Mom says nothing. When I tell her to put it down and she knows better, rather sharply because that's b.s., mom looks at me like I'm the most evil woman in the world. WTH? Oh, it's ok sweetie. Go ahead and destroy ms. M's house. So over it. If you can't/won't/don't want to take responsibility for the raising of your children, please for the love of Jimminy Cricket, quit producing so gosh dang many of them! Ugh. I feel better now.

[MsLisa]

Finished my 1st week as a full-time infant teacher assistant and I’m sooo zonked. I didn't think I would feel so drained after dealing with SA kids for 2yrs. Its a total different demon. Even though my natural motherly instinct is on full force, I find myself googling stuff during my breaks trying to "fix" infant troubles and behaviours. I have a horrible habit of going into SA mode, knowing full well a 1yr old isn't going to care how sharp I say "no". Its....a lot. Accepting moments where you just have to let them cio a little so you can make a bottle or that no matter how much you try an over tired 9 month old is ok to scream like the world has ended.... no matter how much it digs under your skin and makes you sweat.

One thing that bothers me, although silly, is how little these infants (4m to 1yr) babble. I find myself constantly going "ba ba ba", "da da da" and etc cause I’m convinced they should be at least that far in language. I'm constantly labelling things they play with and mimicking conversations with them but to no avail. I use to read to my daughter daily and by 6m she was saying "ice" and babbling like a fool. We don't have any books in the room, let alone read to them and these kids only screech. Only 1 actually babbles and is good at trying to mimic your words. I don't know....I always get obsessed with such small details.

[Play Care]

5yo dcb has been off the wall bonkers for the last few weeks, like he has a highfructosecornsyrupespresso IV or something. I am ready to pull my hair out!

I can't trust him out of my line of sight, and the second my back is turned he is doing something crazy wild, (hand stands, karate, jumping off furniture, etc). We get a LOT of outside time, hours in the am yesterday and an hour in the afternoon. I had him running, jumping, racing kids, playing basketball, anything to get him moving. It didn't even calm him a bit. Yesterday afternoon he was on all fours spinning in circles while I was prepping another kid to leave (trouble with the transition home). He ended up knocking the side of his head HARD on the table and was so dizzy he nearly threw up.

When his Mom got here he was throwing things at everyone, intentionally knocking things over, running around the house with his muddy boots on, etc. I had to hand over hand assist him to get dressed and all but pushed him out of the door.

Dh started LOUDLY playing "HIT THE ROAD JACK" on the stereo.

Sounds like my 4 yo DCB

My house is a center hall colonial, and I have the one doorway blocked off with the changing table so there is only ONE entrance in the play area. It's for safety and supervision. Every day the 4 yo boy *moves the changing table* to scoot in the "wrong" way.
This morning I told him flat out that he's getting a time out if he does it again and I don't care if his parents are right there.

[daycarediva]

5yo dcb has been off the wall bonkers for the last few weeks, like he has a highfructosecornsyrupespresso IV or something. I am ready to pull my hair out!

I can't trust him out of my line of sight, and the second my back is turned he is doing something crazy wild, (hand stands, karate, jumping off furniture, etc). We get a LOT of outside time, hours in the am yesterday and an hour in the afternoon. I had him running, jumping, racing kids, playing basketball, anything to get him moving. It didn't even calm him a bit. Yesterday afternoon he was on all fours spinning in circles while I was prepping another kid to leave (trouble with the transition home). He ended up knocking the side of his head HARD on the table and was so dizzy he nearly threw up.

When his Mom got here he was throwing things at everyone, intentionally knocking things over, running around the house with his muddy boots on, etc. I had to hand over hand assist him to get dressed and all but pushed him out of the door.

Dh started LOUDLY playing "HIT THE ROAD JACK" on the stereo.

[Blackcat31]

She goes you know im flexible as long as you can help me out somehow too. Blah blah blah

That's just another way of saying, "Do what works for me and I won't have a tantrum when you close etc" ::

new to this forum, but I needed somewhere to vent.

Today, a mom dropped off her son as usual and passively aggressively asked me to change her son's diaper because he peed on the ride over. I hesitantly agreed and then she watched me change the diaper. If she was not in a hurry and had time to watch me diaper her son, why couldn't have she changed her kid's diaper herself? I am so tired of parents thinking the minute they walk into the center, they have no responsibility over their kid! Yes, my job is to provide care for their children, but I feel resentful when parents do crap like that. :confused:

TOTALLY understand! Welcome to the forum! happyface

Dcb4 came in this morning. Not listening. Whining. Pouting. "I'm tired."

He's been here 45 mins and I'm ready to call it a day.

I have the same kid. Been going on for weeks now. It's exhausting even when I try not to pay any attention to it.
If you call it a day and leave..... take me with you!!!

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[childcaremom]

Is it Monday?

Dcb4 came in this morning. Not listening. Whining. Pouting. "I'm tired."

He's been here 45 mins and I'm ready to call it a day.