Venting Thread

[BumbleBee]

Dear dcp,

It is currently 41 degrees outside. Not sure why you were shocked that I made you go get sweaters/jackets for your children - who were dressed in tank tops and shorts. I realize the high today is 72 and last week we were over 100 degrees for 5 days straight, but please listen when your children tell you they are cold. It will *maybe* warm up to 55 degrees by the time we go for our morning walk - they still need sweaters/jackets.

Sincerely,
Your provider

[Play Care]

I babysit for my neighbor. I say "babysit" because don't report it on my taxes and it is only part time.
Mostly I started watching the girl for something to do and she was a very easy baby except that she would not sleep in a pack n play. Last summer when the mom lost her job, I agreed to lower my rates to a pitifully low hourly rate, and because it is just "babysitting" I only get paid for the hours she is here. I only watche her occasionally during the school year while I had another job.
This summer I started keeping her again for the same pitifully low rate. Well, she is 2 now and not near as easy to handle. Oh, the mom is an LVN and has started her own home health care business.
But what really gets me is all the all the times that the mom is posting on Facebook about her workouts, getting a tattoo, going shopping, while I am stuck at home with her kid. Because of where we live, I would use up more money in gass to take the kid somewhere than I make babysitting her. I loose money every time I take the kids to McDs for lunch.

If that mom have all that free time while paying me next to nothing to take care of her kid, she is not paying me enough. If this amout is so hard on her, she should be rushing over here to pick up her kid as soon as she is finished working.

Thankfully, I have another job starting soon and I am telling her today that I can only take the kid for one more week.

Whew! Rant over.
I know it is really my fault for not insisting on a more formal arrangement and letting her take advantage of me.

I am sorry for your bad experience. You can take comfort in the fact it will probably shock mom when you give notice. She knows how good she has it...

Vent

I babysit for my neighbor. I say "babysit" because don't report it on my taxes and it is only part time.
Mostly I started watching the girl for something to do and she was a very easy baby except that she would not sleep in a pack n play. Last summer when the mom lost her job, I agreed to lower my rates to a pitifully low hourly rate, and because it is just "babysitting" I only get paid for the hours she is here. I only watche her occasionally during the school year while I had another job.
This summer I started keeping her again for the same pitifully low rate. Well, she is 2 now and not near as easy to handle. Oh, the mom is an LVN and has started her own home health care business.
But what really gets me is all the all the times that the mom is posting on Facebook about her workouts, getting a tattoo, going shopping, while I am stuck at home with her kid. Because of where we live, I would use up more money in gass to take the kid somewhere than I make babysitting her. I loose money every time I take the kids to McDs for lunch.

If that mom have all that free time while paying me next to nothing to take care of her kid, she is not paying me enough. If this amout is so hard on her, she should be rushing over here to pick up her kid as soon as she is finished working.

Thankfully, I have another job starting soon and I am telling her today that I can only take the kid for one more week.

Whew! Rant over.
I know it is really my fault for not insisting on a more formal arrangement and letting her take advantage of me.

[Play Care]

This week has been horrible for my nappers. Getting up off mats, chatting, kicking around, etc. I've had to sit right with them until at least two are asleep. It's now 12:30 and the lunch mess is still out but I can't clean it because no one is sleeping. I finally told them that the longer I have to sit with them, the longer nap time is going to be. I am so over this.

[Blackcat31]

Hmmm, no water play? It's just that we went from rain to heat and your little ones must be going crazy being cooped up inside!

Mine were outside allllll day this week. We alternated water play and ice painting today. Everyone stayed cool and hydrated, despite the heat. Even with the humidity, it's not hot enough to justify staying indoors.

Even with water play and shade, it may not be enough....little kids don't sweat like adults and their cooling mechanisms in their bodies are not yet fully developed.

Some areas are dictating that ALL children stay indoors when it gets this dangerously hot outside. Even shade and waterplay can't protect some of the littles from heat stroke.

[daycarediva]

The only shade we get is from the building itself, or the fence, depending on where the sun is. We are working on getting a shelter built (like the kind they have at parks), but it was mostly the humidity and air quality warnings that have kept us in.

Hmmm, no water play? It's just that we went from rain to heat and your little ones must be going crazy being cooped up inside!

Mine were outside allllll day this week. We alternated water play and ice painting today. Everyone stayed cool and hydrated, despite the heat. Even with the humidity, it's not hot enough to justify staying indoors.

[Dragonfly]

Ugghh...

So, it's summer and everyone's schedules are different. I understand that but I've requested notice ahead of time of what days and times their child will be here. Well, this morning *I* texted mom asking if baby was coming. Mom said yes, probaly by 12:00. I said we will be out of the house today and to please give me an exact time she will arrive so I can make sure we're here. Mom said probably around 11:30. That's not an exact time!!! Then mom says baby's still sleeping (8:40). I text to remind her that nap time is at 12:00 and baby needs to be tired so she will sleep with the rest of the kids. She has not responded. I'm sure she's mad. I really dislike having to tell parents over and over my schedule here and how important it is when you have 6 little ones for 10 hours day! And it's just common courtesy to let you provider know your schedule ahead of time. Grrr.

I am in NY too. Do you have shaded areas? I purchased a canopy/tent thing for my patio and have two large trees. Between the shade and water play, we were able to stay cool and outside from 9a-1p yesterday! It was heaven!

The only shade we get is from the building itself, or the fence, depending on where the sun is. We are working on getting a shelter built (like the kind they have at parks), but it was mostly the humidity and air quality warnings that have kept us in.

[BumbleBee]

Why is it that the kids forget all the rules and act like hooligans when I'm sleep deprived and barely functioning?

I didn't get home from my great aunts house until close to 5am. That was after she was transported via ambulance to the hospital when she was found unconcious on the floor by the oxygen supply company at 6pm yesterday evening.

She was released at 10pm but was up/down all night from the neb treatment at the hospital. Of course, her daughter who lives 3 miles away "didn't have time" to come to the hospital or come to her moms house.

And no, I didn't leave her alone at 5am. My cousin is with her for the day.

Anyways, back to my vent - the kids are being awful today. I put on a movie (which I almost never do) but they started hitting each other. We went outside - they tried to run over each other w/the cars. We went for a walk - 2 tried to run off. They are now in individual areas with toys of my choosing and they STILL manage to misbehave - spitting, chewing on toys, throwing toys, ripping books....shall I go on? And for the record these kids are 3, 4.5, 8, & 9.

[Play Care]

Inspection went well, and the kids were okay. Guess whose kids were the most challenging?

[Play Care]

Ugh! I'm so tired of oversensitivity in people around me IRL, IMO its also a part self centeredness too. By thinking their answer or action is the only right one and if anyone disagrees they're crying poor me and lashing out.

I have 2 friends having a "fight" via Facebook because one posted a comment about some issue and the other friend clarified some misinformation in the post... now its turning ugly and personal for no reason because OP didn't like being told she was incorrect. now they're trying to pull me into it, heck no!! ::

A really close friend is no longer speaking to me and throwing out all kinds of rude comments to other friends about me, DH, and others that disagreed because he acted like a child (destroying old bikes, rare 1930s era that DH had loaned him, because his girlfriend broke up with him and she liked riding them he's 37). He videotaped himself doing it and posted it on facebook, DH was livid but didn't post anything (he tried to call him) and I posted to him I thought it was a poor choice and DH would have picked them up as they were his anyway. Suddenly I'm heartless (for not letting him grieve the relationship in peace :confused and a materialistic b.

And today I had a DCM get all upset and start whining to me because DCM2 "hurt her feelings" because she decided to stay and talk to DCM3 about cloth diapering instead of taking DCM1's "advice" that it was "too much work, not worth it" (she's never used them, DCM2 wanted to talk to DCM3 about diaper service she uses). She wants me to talk to DCM2 about it No, sorry.

Get over yourselves! Jeez people!

Wow! I don't blame you at all! I never understood the mentality of people who think that they can destroy things when upset. That's what 2 year olds do...

I also NEVER reply to anything on FB I may disagree with or know to be incorrect. No one ever responds well to be called out in "public"

[Lyss]

I <3 my animals more than people today!

Ugh! I'm so tired of oversensitivity in people around me IRL, IMO its also a part self centeredness too. By thinking their answer or action is the only right one and if anyone disagrees they're crying poor me and lashing out.

I have 2 friends having a "fight" via Facebook because one posted a comment about some issue and the other friend clarified some misinformation in the post... now its turning ugly and personal for no reason because OP didn't like being told she was incorrect. now they're trying to pull me into it, heck no!! ::

A really close friend is no longer speaking to me and throwing out all kinds of rude comments to other friends about me, DH, and others that disagreed because he acted like a child (destroying old bikes, rare 1930s era that DH had loaned him, because his girlfriend broke up with him and she liked riding them he's 37). He videotaped himself doing it and posted it on facebook, DH was livid but didn't post anything (he tried to call him) and I posted to him I thought it was a poor choice and DH would have picked them up as they were his anyway. Suddenly I'm heartless (for not letting him grieve the relationship in peace :confused and a materialistic b.

And today I had a DCM get all upset and start whining to me because DCM2 "hurt her feelings" because she decided to stay and talk to DCM3 about cloth diapering instead of taking DCM1's "advice" that it was "too much work, not worth it" (she's never used them, DCM2 wanted to talk to DCM3 about diaper service she uses). She wants me to talk to DCM2 about it No, sorry.

Get over yourselves! Jeez people!

[CedarCreek]

This morning:

1 child came in kicking and screaming because she was supposed to go to Dad's but his work schedule changed last minute and Mom didn't tell her until they pulled into my driveway

1 child came in holding a BROWNIE at 7:30 in the morning and said "I told you Miss **** was going to make me throw it away!"


1 child came in holding an IPAD and his Dad said he didn't care if he played with it today. To which I replied "In the water? Outside? In the sand? With paint? With chalk?" until he took it back.

1 child came in throwing a MASSIVE fit because Mom wouldn't let him bring in balloons from his party.

1 child came in with SOAKING WET shoes on and ran straight through the whole house before I caught him and made him take them off and I had to mop the floor.

1 child came in banned footwear and was turned away at the door.

That was all before 8am! Thank goodness the day has massively improved since those pesky grown ups left!

You had quite a morning!! Now I feel bad for complaining about my smarty pants DCD!

[daycarediva]

This morning:

1 child came in kicking and screaming because she was supposed to go to Dad's but his work schedule changed last minute and Mom didn't tell her until they pulled into my driveway

1 child came in holding a BROWNIE at 7:30 in the morning and said "I told you Miss **** was going to make me throw it away!"


1 child came in holding an IPAD and his Dad said he didn't care if he played with it today. To which I replied "In the water? Outside? In the sand? With paint? With chalk?" until he took it back.

1 child came in throwing a MASSIVE fit because Mom wouldn't let him bring in balloons from his party.

1 child came in with SOAKING WET shoes on and ran straight through the whole house before I caught him and made him take them off and I had to mop the floor.

1 child came in banned footwear and was turned away at the door.

That was all before 8am! Thank goodness the day has massively improved since those pesky grown ups left!

[daycarediva]

The heat/humidity is making our toddlers moody.Today the heat index was 100* or so in the afternoon, and there was an air quality warning so we couldn't go outside. Even when we tried to go out in the morning, the combination of the heat/humidity made it so we could hardly stay out for 20 minutes! We have had more behavior problems in the past couple days than any sane person could take.

This summer is a bust! If it is not hot and humid, it is raining.

I am in NY too. Do you have shaded areas? I purchased a canopy/tent thing for my patio and have two large trees. Between the shade and water play, we were able to stay cool and outside from 9a-1p yesterday! It was heaven!