Venting Thread

[AmyLeigh]

Dcb 5 yo asked for help with unbuttoning his pants when he went to the bathroom. I did and noticed he did not have any underwear on!!! He also is not wearing socks under his vinyl boots in 80 degree weather! Mom and I are going to have a talk about this. I know he likes to dress himself, but really???

[weedlio]

I am so glad I found this forum! My husband is gettting sick of my complaining, but I need to vent! I only recently started this daycare, watching 3 siblings, plus my own 2. Today, I put the one year old for his nap, while the 2, 3, 4, and 5 year old cleaned up toys. Well, this lead to screaming and they woke up the baby after his only being down for 45 minutes! Now he is talking and rocking the playpen and I am going to have to get him up and turn off the big kids' movie. Nap/movie time is my time! I really needed it today!

[3girls]

Ugh so last time a family showed up early and I was not downstairs and ready, today I got up early in case it happened again and now they are 15 minutes late and counting! Grrrr...

[jen2651]

Just had my licensor come. Everything was good except for one of my parent evals...stupid! My husband was right. Young mother blah blah blah. I worked around her schedule etc etc etc. And then she just up and quits right after we resigned her for full time (was part time before). WE worked out the 2 weeks notice (cause I know she doesn't have and $) to be 1 week (which he didn't come). She said that she thought i didn't feed her son, and I didn't change his diapers and used his diapers for other kids. Um...no. I am so mad she better hope I don't run into her around town! Not that I would really do anything but I will fantasize about keying her car or something!

[SilverSabre25]

Normally, I'm fine with crying. I see it as a natural expression of overwhelming emotion, especially emotion one does not know how to cope with.

This dcg, however, takes it to a WHOLE new level.

Good grief, child...get OVER it. She wanted to look at dcb's feet. Dcb, naturally, was not happy about this. He was telling her to stop and she was getting upset because she wanted to look at his feet...so I intervened for dcb and got dcg to stop.

She's now collapsed on the floor in the throes of deepest heartbreak. This is a daily occurrence, mind you, and for a variety of reasons, but really, child?

YOU HAVE TO RESPECT HIS WORDS. ESPECIALLY ABOUT HIS OWN BODY!!!!

[momma2girls]

Two brothers I care for have been sick. The oldest one didn't come Monday because he had fever on Sunday. I thought this is good they are following the 24 hour rule. Brought the younger one but I can deal with that. Younger one seemed fine but I had to wake him from nap and didn't eat snack. He is always a big eater, so you guessed it he threw up that night at home. So tuesday older one comes and younger one stays with mom. But does she stay home with him and let him rest... no she takes him to the mall, he's 2, they went shopping and ate bagels. Fast forward to today he has been complaining all morning of his belly hurting and ate nothing. I text mom to give her a heads up. She texts back.. I hope he can hang in there til friday. OMG give me a break his little body needs to be at home resting and recovering not being dragged to the mall when he isn't feeling well. Bring him to me so that I have to try to console him and worry about what he is going to throw up on as I take care of all the other kids I care for. Sorry so long, venting does make me feel a little better. This family has just changed since I took them on two years ago.

I totally put a sibling clause in my contract, for this same reaason. This yr. I and my children were sick from a sibling coming in, when Mom was sitting at home with other child sick. She then got called in both situations to come and pick up other child.

[GretasLittleFriends]

GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!

Sometimes even the best families can do something to make you burning mad.

My oldest is going on his first overnight camping trip without us. DH couldn't get off work in time to take him to meet his group, so I volunteered, because I'm usually done by 4:30.

Just got a text from DCM that they'll be 15 minutes late.

On the ONE day this whole year that I absolutely can NOT stay late!!!!!!

Could you take the child with you while you drop your son off, and have the mom meet you there?

[AfterSchoolMom]

GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!

Sometimes even the best families can do something to make you burning mad.

My oldest is going on his first overnight camping trip without us. DH couldn't get off work in time to take him to meet his group, so I volunteered, because I'm usually done by 4:30.

Just got a text from DCM that they'll be 15 minutes late.

On the ONE day this whole year that I absolutely can NOT stay late!!!!!!

[AmyLeigh]

Having a hard time balancing it all today. We are all tired, vacation coming soon, but not soon enough!!!

[rhondawarren]

Could be that these providers have a ton of kids so they can charge so little. I know there are some in my area that charge less way than me but have so many kids that I don't know why a parent would be comfortable with it. I suspect they may be illegally over on numbers, too.

Could be. I wonder what is more important to some parents when the price is the main concern. I think Id be looking more at the type of care they would receive. But some parents ... the cheaper the better they could care less about what kind of care you provide or how many other children you will be watching. Honestly, parents like that are nothing but trouble anyways so more power to her.

[saved4always]

Yeah I know. I dont see how people do that for that low of a rate when we only have a certain number of spots available. Not to mentian feeding them etc. She probably made it up because I do not know anyone that would do that for that low.

Could be that these providers have a ton of kids so they can charge so little. I know there are some in my area that charge less way than me but have so many kids that I don't know why a parent would be comfortable with it. I suspect they may be illegally over on numbers, too.

[rhondawarren]

Sometimes I think people think we should do it for cheap because we are "home anyways". Those hours are nuts to begin with and then to want it for next to nothing! Gotta wonder what kind of providers those ladies will be for next to free!

Yeah I know. I dont see how people do that for that low of a rate when we only have a certain number of spots available. Not to mentian feeding them etc. She probably made it up because I do not know anyone that would do that for that low.

[saved4always]

A lady text me late last night asking about my rates. She said that she is starting a new job on Monday and would need a sitter for M-F 5:30am to 5pm for her 2 year old son.

My normal hours are 7:30am to 5:30p. I quoted her a price at a little higher than my normal rate since Id be getting up at 4:30am to be ready for them to arrive at 5:30am. She texts me back and says "Thats ok I have two other ladies that will do it for $75/Wk". So I text her back and said Good Luck. No way Id do it for $75/Wk. Best of luck with the new job.

What did she want me to babysit him for free??? I mean really almost 60 hours a week of childcare, feeding the child all day long, getting up in the middle of the night to do it and she wanted me to do it for less than $75 a week. No thanks! Next ............... I mean get real!

People amaze me!

Sometimes I think people think we should do it for cheap because we are "home anyways". Those hours are nuts to begin with and then to want it for next to nothing! Gotta wonder what kind of providers those ladies will be for next to free!

[rhondawarren]

A lady text me late last night asking about my rates. She said that she is starting a new job on Monday and would need a sitter for M-F 5:30am to 5pm for her 2 year old son.

My normal hours are 7:30am to 5:30p. I quoted her a price at a little higher than my normal rate since Id be getting up at 4:30am to be ready for them to arrive at 5:30am. She texts me back and says "Thats ok I have two other ladies that will do it for $75/Wk". So I text her back and said Good Luck. No way Id do it for $75/Wk. Best of luck with the new job.

What did she want me to babysit him for free??? I mean really almost 60 hours a week of childcare, feeding the child all day long, getting up in the middle of the night to do it and she wanted me to do it for less than $75 a week. No thanks! Next ............... I mean get real!

People amaze me!

[momofboys]

I have a DCF that has always been pretty nice, but recently they've been pushing the limits with maximum time (7am to 5:30pm, M-F). They asked to come early twice last week & also asked for late nights twice last week. They've also been pushing me with sicknesses (Not excluding child for sickness, green free flowing boogers, coughing, low energy. I would send him home, only to have him return first thing next morning... often in worse shape. She said she took him to urgent care, and he was diagnosed with an ear infection and bronchitis (but the lungs are clear?) - I asked for a Dr.s note and I got one. Apparently, it was a virus that started it --The whole daycare and my whole family got sick.

So this past weekend I was supposed to visit my sick Aunt, but couldn't because of the sickness going around, I didn't want to expose her to any germs. Well, Monday morning I got the news that she had passed. I am so very sad, as we were close.

I sent an e-mail immediately stating I would need kiddos picked up by 4 on Thursday for the wake and Friday I would be closed to attend the funeral. DCM: "What am I supposed to do?" ME: This is a family daycare, unfortunately you will have to find a back-up. This is mentioned in the contract, and there is a phone number I gave for emergency back-ups. DCM" Humph"... stomp off huffy. (BTW, because I need the day off, it is unpaid)

Really? I lost someone very close to me, you're going on your second week long family vacation in 6 months in early May... maybe you should have saved some days for an EMERGENCY? I didn't even get to say goodbye because you kept sending your sick kid to my house. The correct response is: "I'm so sorry for your loss"... Jerk.

I'm sorry for your loss & sorry your DCM responded that way! I agree with Blackcat - I would totally say something. Hugs to you!