Venting Thread

why why?

Two brothers I care for have been sick. The oldest one didn't come Monday because he had fever on Sunday. I thought this is good they are following the 24 hour rule. Brought the younger one but I can deal with that. Younger one seemed fine but I had to wake him from nap and didn't eat snack. He is always a big eater, so you guessed it he threw up that night at home. So tuesday older one comes and younger one stays with mom. But does she stay home with him and let him rest... no she takes him to the mall, he's 2, they went shopping and ate bagels. Fast forward to today he has been complaining all morning of his belly hurting and ate nothing. I text mom to give her a heads up. She texts back.. I hope he can hang in there til friday. OMG give me a break his little body needs to be at home resting and recovering not being dragged to the mall when he isn't feeling well. Bring him to me so that I have to try to console him and worry about what he is going to throw up on as I take care of all the other kids I care for. Sorry so long, venting does make me feel a little better. This family has just changed since I took them on two years ago.

[Blackcat31]

I have a DCF that has always been pretty nice, but recently they've been pushing the limits with maximum time (7am to 5:30pm, M-F). They asked to come early twice last week & also asked for late nights twice last week. They've also been pushing me with sicknesses (Not excluding child for sickness, green free flowing boogers, coughing, low energy. I would send him home, only to have him return first thing next morning... often in worse shape. She said she took him to urgent care, and he was diagnosed with an ear infection and bronchitis (but the lungs are clear?) - I asked for a Dr.s note and I got one. Apparently, it was a virus that started it --The whole daycare and my whole family got sick.

So this past weekend I was supposed to visit my sick Aunt, but couldn't because of the sickness going around, I didn't want to expose her to any germs. Well, Monday morning I got the news that she had passed. I am so very sad, as we were close.

I sent an e-mail immediately stating I would need kiddos picked up by 4 on Thursday for the wake and Friday I would be closed to attend the funeral. DCM: "What am I supposed to do?" ME: This is a family daycare, unfortunately you will have to find a back-up. This is mentioned in the contract, and there is a phone number I gave for emergency back-ups. DCM" Humph"... stomp off huffy. (BTW, because I need the day off, it is unpaid)

Really? I lost someone very close to me, you're going on your second week long family vacation in 6 months in early May... maybe you should have saved some days for an EMERGENCY? I didn't even get to say goodbye because you kept sending your sick kid to my house. The correct response is: "I'm so sorry for your loss"... Jerk.

(((hugs))) so sorry for your loss.

I am also sorry that your DCM is so uncaring. NOT your problem for her to find back up. I would say something to her, atleast comment to her about her uncaring attitude. I mean you can't necessarily change her, but I would definitley call her out on her disrespect. If anything just to make yourself feel better.

[KDC]

My Vent for today...

I have a DCF that has always been pretty nice, but recently they've been pushing the limits with maximum time (7am to 5:30pm, M-F). They asked to come early twice last week & also asked for late nights twice last week. They've also been pushing me with sicknesses (Not excluding child for sickness, green free flowing boogers, coughing, low energy. I would send him home, only to have him return first thing next morning... often in worse shape. She said she took him to urgent care, and he was diagnosed with an ear infection and bronchitis (but the lungs are clear?) - I asked for a Dr.s note and I got one. Apparently, it was a virus that started it --The whole daycare and my whole family got sick.

So this past weekend I was supposed to visit my sick Aunt, but couldn't because of the sickness going around, I didn't want to expose her to any germs. Well, Monday morning I got the news that she had passed. I am so very sad, as we were close.

I sent an e-mail immediately stating I would need kiddos picked up by 4 on Thursday for the wake and Friday I would be closed to attend the funeral. DCM: "What am I supposed to do?" ME: This is a family daycare, unfortunately you will have to find a back-up. This is mentioned in the contract, and there is a phone number I gave for emergency back-ups. DCM" Humph"... stomp off huffy. (BTW, because I need the day off, it is unpaid)

Really? I lost someone very close to me, you're going on your second week long family vacation in 6 months in early May... maybe you should have saved some days for an EMERGENCY? I didn't even get to say goodbye because you kept sending your sick kid to my house. The correct response is: "I'm so sorry for your loss"... Jerk.

[wahmof3]

I am just done today- throwing in the towel. I can't win

DCG won't keep clothes on

ALL of DCK are coughing, sneezing & snotting all over.

I have a headache

They are all fussy & won't listen

My house smells like baby poop

and top it off- my washer just broke

just another day in my life

vent over. moving on.

[blueclouds29]

not swallowing food

My 1yr old DCB just started a new thing and its driving me nuts! He will keep food in his mouth and now swallow it! It happens every morning with the cheese stick his mom sends with him. He never eats the whole thing just ****s on and chews the peices like gum for about 20 min!!
At lunch, the last bite he kept in his mouth for over 20 min! I counted to 3, three times... nothing.. finally went on putting the other kids down to sleep and he walks in 'all done with my food'. Ughhh Pisses me off but i'm glad I kept my cool and i guess it paid off just to let him sit by himself till he swallowed it.

side note: I'm telling mom today, please no more cheese stick, its a waste

[Springdaze]

I put email and #... I dont mind inviting all of the gender that each of my kids are, as it ends up being like 8. ALWAYS have a prob with the rsvps. you have to prepare as if all are coming, and sometimes I even get "oh, this is so and so's cousin that was visiting, is it ok if I brought them too?" thats happened twice! yea, give me a minute while I run to party city and get more goody bags!!!!!!

[MrsB]

Sunday is my babys 6th bday. I sent out invites 2 weeks ago because last week was spring break and I figured nothing gets openned during that time! I was going to have it at home, but after I sent invites DH said 'I'll pay, I dont want it at the house!" so I booked a place. out of 8 boys in his class, 2 have rsvp'd. why do people not rsvp anymore? now I have to send a note to his school for each kid to tell them that the place has been changed so they dont end up at my house.

to add to it, my kids dont seem to be invited to parties. my daughter has been to 3 parties in 4 years and my son didnt get invited to any! I really dont care, and even asked other kindy parents and the said their kids have been to many this year. I said mine hadnt and they said "well, you should say something!" To who, I dont know? I figure if I make a big deal, my kids will notice so it doesnt bother me, I just think its weird. I invite all of the same gender to each kids party. I want to teach my kids that they shouldnt leave anyone out because it usually ends up being all invited but one!

Ahhh I sorry chellenj. My kids started not getting invited much to parties either, I mentioned it to one of my sons teachers and they said, they made the rule that they will not pass out party invitations unless all the kids get one. NO WAY will I invite 36 Kindergartners anywhere! and the one time I would do it and calculate that less than half would attend, they all would show up! I know alot of people that are aweful about RSVPing. I have been putting my cell and email on my kids invitations and say that sending a text or email is the preferred RSVP method. Seems to get more response than a phone call.

[Springdaze]

off topic vent, but still..

Sunday is my babys 6th bday. I sent out invites 2 weeks ago because last week was spring break and I figured nothing gets openned during that time! I was going to have it at home, but after I sent invites DH said 'I'll pay, I dont want it at the house!" so I booked a place. out of 8 boys in his class, 2 have rsvp'd. why do people not rsvp anymore? now I have to send a note to his school for each kid to tell them that the place has been changed so they dont end up at my house.

to add to it, my kids dont seem to be invited to parties. my daughter has been to 3 parties in 4 years and my son didnt get invited to any! I really dont care, and even asked other kindy parents and the said their kids have been to many this year. I said mine hadnt and they said "well, you should say something!" To who, I dont know? I figure if I make a big deal, my kids will notice so it doesnt bother me, I just think its weird. I invite all of the same gender to each kids party. I want to teach my kids that they shouldnt leave anyone out because it usually ends up being all invited but one!

[sharlan]

Why the H#&& does the phone ring the very second I get my non sleeping 5 mo to sleep?????????

[AmyLeigh]

I feel almost bad complaining. No one has been sick, everyone pays on time, drop offs/pick ups are always on time. I know I've got it good here.

But 7 yo dcb is driving me nuts!!!! He has been picking fights with everyone today. He is behaving as if he doesn't know the rules. He actually looked surprised when I told him to be quiet because the 2 yo was napping. Complains about everything. Then he just asked me for a snack. Ummm nope. Snacktime is in 30 minutes, buddy. Techincally, I don't have to give you a snack because your mom is coming in one hour to pick you up. That is still within the 3 hour window after lunch!!! Maybe if you had eaten all of your lunch you wouldn't be hungry so soon. Ugggghhhh. He and my odd fight for top dog position in my house, he's only happy if he is playing video games or is in charge of what all the other kids play with. He's lucky I love his little brother. Brother was a toughy when he started here, but I put so much work in with him that now he is a joy to have.

He goes back to school next week, but summer is just around the corner.

[DCBlessings27]

Horrible...No Good...Bad Day

The kids aren't listening to anything I say. They have spilled milk, water, whole plates of food today all over the floor. Now, I have pee all over my carpet and have to do laundry bc a 3yo pottied all over my carpet and blankets at the end of naptime. Then placed her dirty, wet clothes on top of a clean basket of clothes. She shouldn't be coming in panties when she can't even stay dry at home. I need to go to bed and start again. Even better is the fact that we hit something on Saturday and had to buy a new tire for my husband's truck today--$220 (and that was at a discount.) We just bought the tires for the truck just over a year ago.

I have never read this thread before. I think I will be coming back. I feel like my kids are out of control and I am losing it and all alone on this. Then I started reading we all have days like this. Thank goodness. Keep posting it makes my day feel better At least we have each other when they seem like they are out to get us!

[AfterSchoolMom]

UGH! Today is just one of those days where nothing has gone right.

I dropped a dish on the floor during nap time, waking up the baby.

The baby spit up almost an entire bottle ALL over my shirt and their outfit, literally three minutes before pickup.

I finally decided to go ahead and install updates on my computer, but it overheated and shut down in the middle of it - AFTER 35 minutes of updating, but before it was done. Now I have to start over.

My vacuum cut off and won't turn back on, even though there appears to be nothing wrong - in the middle of vacuuming the carpet that needed it the most. It worked fine on the ones that didn't really need it.

I forgot that my oldest had an afterschool event today and panicked when he didn't get off the bus. After several phone calls to the neighbors and the school, I finally figured it out and felt stupid.

None of this is major, but all together in one day...VERY annoying!!!

Sooooooooooooooooooooooo wish I could somehow have you hear this baby scream. You would not believe it. I can't imagine living with this child!!! My own son was colicky, bad, and either I am blocking it out, or this child gives new meaning to unhappy. WOW!

They get about three days to chill with that or I have to say no way.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Aww, thanks. I've been busy. The past few months I've put a ton of time and money into improving the program. It's beautiful (to me) but I guess the parents didn't notice.

I lost one, claiming free daycare through her mother..she'd said she would give me one week's notice but texted me in BED last night to say she'd reconsidered!!! AFter three years of childcare I'm not worthy of the consideration of one week's notice.

The other woman is being so rude that even if she doesn't quit, I will term her ASAP to avoid future resentment.

It's terrible. And still, you'd have to go the ghetto to get a cheaper rate, seriously.

Deep down, I think this could be a positive fresh start but right now I'm so tired of trying! What a kick in the head, ya know??

Lesson learned, I suppose. I don't expect recognition or gratitude or appreciation, just money thank you very much.

Many prayers coming your way. I believe you will get better quality in terms of the families you have!