New Child Who Cries ALL Day

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New career path?

Three weeks are you kidding me? That sounds like heaven!!

I’m a preschool teacher who just started a new job six weeks ago, there is a kid terrorizing the entire preschool with her screams, she is 2yrs old and apparently, she had been doing this for A FULL FRICKIN YEAR!!! Before I got there. We just can’t get her to stop screaming unless we pick her ul!! I fefuse now because I am done with it, I will not pick her up, touch her look at her or even go near her unless she is quiet. So she knows that will NOT work on me, and she hates me for it. She goes dead quiet and walks away anytime I am in the same room. Goes screamng to another teacher and I can’t be happier about it.... such a screamer she gets carried all the time at home. And I have heard her mom sayig ”oh He goes quiet when you pick her up” ... problem this mom does NOT seem to see is that there are sixteen other Children in this preschool and only three teachers... one can not be locked trying to soote her child all day, it is exhausting for everyone around. But this kid just screams her lungs out unless you STAND UP and Carry her. God give me strength I can not listen to that child any more it is wearing us all down... and to hear it has been going on for a year?! Oh my god... I can not even...

It’s becoming abundantly clear to me that a whole lot of “childcare providers” have a very screwed up view of what thee position actually requires. The statements made by not only you but several others on here have me nauseas. This is the profession you’ve chosen. To loath a child in such a way is irreconcilable. You need to find new jobs like yesterday. The disservice you do to these children on a daily bases is quite reprehensible. Please quit what you’re doing ASAP and just start picking up garbage for cash. Seems to be the only thing I might even entertain employing you as. Geezus. Stop damaging these young minds please

[mommyneedsadayoff]

It’s becoming abundantly clear to me that a whole lot of “childcare providers” have a very screwed up view of what thee position actually requires. The statements made by not only you but several others on here have me nauseas. This is the profession you’ve chosen. To loath a child in such a way is irreconcilable. You need to find new jobs like yesterday. The disservice you do to these children on a daily bases is quite reprehensible. Please quit what you’re doing ASAP and just start picking up garbage for cash. Seems to be the only thing I might even entertain employing you as. Geezus. Stop damaging these young minds please

The people doing the biggest diserbic e to children these days are the parents. You can't have the eggs without the chickens, and in many of these cases, including the one you quoted, the chickens are sabotaging the daycare relationship from the very beginning. When you know your child is going to be attending daycare, you have to do your best to set them up for success. We always talk about getting our kids prepared for kindy and sending them off, but what about our infants? We hold them all day, cosleep, never introduce a bottle, keep the environment perfect for baby's liking, ect...then 2 months later we send them to an opposite environment expecting the provider to complete a miracle, with as little stress to the baby as possible.
And when they get frustrated, they are called trash, monsters, "obviously need a new job", ect. I think providers may try too hard to "fix" it and end up resentful of the amount of time and attention one child is needing, so I personally think it is best to part ways or give parents a timeframe to help get baby on board. But, of course, many people work in centers and do not have control of who stays or goes, and in those cases, a needy baby can negatively impact dozens of people.

[amberrose3dg]

The people doing the biggest diserbic e to children these days are the parents. You can't have the eggs without the chickens, and in many of these cases, including the one you quoted, the chickens are sabotaging the daycare relationship from the very beginning. When you know your child is going to be attending daycare, you have to do your best to set them up for success. We always talk about getting our kids prepared for kindy and sending them off, but what about our infants? We hold them all day, cosleep, never introduce a bottle, keep the environment perfect for baby's liking, ect...then 2 months later we send them to an opposite environment expecting the provider to complete a miracle, with as little stress to the baby as possible.
And when they get frustrated, they are called trash, monsters, "obviously need a new job", ect. I think providers may try too hard to "fix" it and end up resentful of the amount of time and attention one child is needing, so I personally think it is best to part ways or give parents a timeframe to help get baby on board. But, of course, many people work in centers and do not have control of who stays or goes, and in those cases, a needy baby can negatively impact dozens of people.

We also have rule and regulations we have to stick with. Parents can do whatever they want at home. Co-sleep, let them sleep in swings etc.. Then they send them to daycare to expecting the child to just magically lay flat on the back in the crib. I had an infant start with me at 6 months. She had not yet been trained how to take a bottle. Those two weeks of getting her to take a bottle was a nightmare for her and me. I was this close to telling her mom I couldn't keep her. Mom was home on maternity leave and had 6 months to get her trained on the bottle.Let me guess it is my job to do things parents do not want to do!

[daycarediva]

I almost hate to say it, but have you tried the computer? My belief is that there are more "Gifted" children in these daycare then most people think. That means they have high IQs and need constant mental stimulation. A Disney learning program on a computer is VERY entertaining. Our son started at 2 years old and it definitely kept him engaged. The problem is in getting them to leave the computer when you need them off. At that point I suggest they earn time on the computer by doing what is expected at other learning times. We use the same technique with our daughter wanting to use the Wii. We can't stop her from wanting to clean, wash, vacuum the house all day long just to earn minutes on the Wii. We've created a monster, and I'm not complaining!

Old thread but you could always give her a sedative.

Good lord I know these are old but DO NOT FOLLOW THIS ADVICE.

It’s becoming abundantly clear to me that a whole lot of “childcare providers” have a very screwed up view of what thee position actually requires. The statements made by not only you but several others on here have me nauseas. This is the profession you’ve chosen. To loath a child in such a way is irreconcilable. You need to find new jobs like yesterday. The disservice you do to these children on a daily bases is quite reprehensible. Please quit what you’re doing ASAP and just start picking up garbage for cash. Seems to be the only thing I might even entertain employing you as. Geezus. Stop damaging these young minds please

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Do you vent or complain about your job? Because EVERYONE does. Just because a person is frustrated about a child does not make him/her a monster. She is seeking help/advice/commiseration on a forum FOR childcare providers.

It is apparent that you have never worked in child care.

It is INCREDIBLY long hours, INCREDIBLY underpaid, INCREDIBLY demanding profession. Most last LESS THAN two years for a reason.

If we say we do this for ANY REASON other than 'we just LOVEEEEEEE children' we are considered monsters. Well, I can tell you my accountant doesn't JUST LOOVEEE math and taxes- he has bills to pay as well. I can tell you for SURE he vents about new tax laws (we vent about licensing regulations) or disgruntled clients (parents) or anything in between.

I am incredible at my job. I have a clientele base and education that far trumps my 'competition' and I STILL vent.

The 16mo was a 'monster' today, the 4yo had a smart mouth, the parent who DARED to ask me to work an hour late so she could go to the gym might be the death of me (and I can't swear on this forum, because that is NOT how I worded it when I sent a text to my husband with a copy of her 'request'). The kids in my care don't even know any of this, because I am an adult and capable of handling my emotions. VENTING allows me to not let those emotions become bottled up- to be a BETTER provider.

Also- parenting has gone WAY downhill in the last 10 years or so. There is an extreme lack of discipline, age appropriate behavior expectations and a whole lot of bribing, plugging children in, or giving in to shut them up. I can't/won't do any of that, so I have about 100x more behavioral issues than I did 10 years ago. PARENT CREATED, but daycare teachers, school teachers, SOCIETY alllllll deal with the fallout.

(and yes, I've seen some VERY spoiled 15 month olds) You cannot spoil a young infant, but you can spoil the hell out of a toddler.

Every Monday morning is like a shock to their system. No more TV, no more candy/junk food, no more constant snacking. Regular meals, reading stories you can't swipe, interacting, using language skills, playing outside, following directions.

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Jesus Christ.

Wow. This whole thread made me never want to pay for daycare. LOL. 10 years of your complaining just saved me $1800 a month.

[Cat Herder]

Wow. This whole thread made me never want to pay for daycare. LOL. 10 years of your complaining just saved me $1800 a month.

Awesome. Funny that the part you zeroed in on was the payment aspect..... Speaks volumes.

Happy Parenting.