Destruction of Our Property

[butterfly]

Please don't take offense, but it sounds like a lack of supervision, therefore I would not charge. If these three siblings are prone to getting into things or destruction, then they need to be under your direct visual supervision at all times.

I understand your need to do things....I'm by myself all day as well. My children are at least under auditory supervision all day, but if there are 1 or 2 who are more prone to getting into trouble, then I provide activities for them under close visual supervision. For example, while I cook or clean in the kitchen, the children normally play in the playroom which is right next to the kitchen in an open floor plan. While I can hear everything, I can't see everything. For that reason, at least some of the clan (especially those who are prone to cause trouble), sit at the table right next to the kitchen with an activity (usually puzzles, playdough or arts and crafts) while I finish doing what I need to in the kitchen.

In the three years I've done this, I've never required a parent to replace something. It's not that anything hasn't been broken, it's that if it was broken it was most likely because I could have done something different and better to prevent it. If the damage was purposeful and done under my direct supervision (basically it was an occurrence I could have not avoided and the child did it with intent to destroy it), that is when I would charge the parents.

Now I do tell the parents when their child purposely destroy something and how I intend to prevent it in the future. I think it is important for parents to know that their child is being destructive. I hope this helps!

[Josiegirl]

It wasn't just Crystal's post and this isn't the only thread I was talking about.

[Crystal]

It wasn't just Crystal's post and this isn't the only thread I was talking about.

Which other thread(s) do you refer to?

[Angelsj]

I think if I read correctly the sitting on the couch was for her own child. can.licensing really dictate discipline for our own children?

Here they don't get into exactly what you can and can't do with your own child, except to say you cannot spank one of your own kids while daycare kids are present...so yes, they can dictate.

[misslori50]

I cant imagine why there was a bat out there in the first place. Especially a bat strong enough to destroy a fence. scares the crap out if me.

[Cradle2crayons]

I cant imagine why there was a bat out there in the first place. Especially a bat strong enough to destroy a fence. scares the crap out if me.

I have baseball bats outside. As well as two batting tees, softballs, baseballs, etc. soccer nets, soccer balls, baseball mounds, basketball goals, you name it, we have it.

[Crystal]

I have baseball bats outside. As well as two batting tees, softballs, baseballs, etc. soccer nets, soccer balls, baseball mounds, basketball goals, you name it, we have it.

Do you leave children with behavioral issues and a history of destroying property unsupervised around them? Because, that is the point. Baseball bats and hard balls....not the other stuff.

[Cradle2crayons]

Do you leave children with behavioral issues and a history of destroying property unsupervised around them? Because, that is the point. Baseball bats and hard balls....not the other stuff.

Well of course not. I was reacting to the pp response and being horrified about a baseball bat being available at all .

[Crystal]

I think she was piggybacking off of my previous post about the bat being accessible to the children.

[Cradle2crayons]

I think she was piggybacking off of my previous post about the bat being accessible to the children.

Who knows, I only can respond to what she actually quoted.

[Michael]

Well Crazy 8 decided to leave the forum. A new member no less. There is no reason why some of this needs to be so toxic. Lighten up. People come here for advice not reprimand.

[Cradle2crayons]

Well Crazy 8 decided to leave the forum. A new member no less. There is no reason why some of this needs to be so toxic. Lighten up. People come here for advice not reprimand.

I have wanted to say this on several posts but personally I'm not much into being reprimanded for opinion . But no worries I'm not easy to get rid of .

you are STUCK with me!!happyface

[nanglgrl]

Well Crazy 8 decided to leave the forum. A new member no less. There is no reason why some of this needs to be so toxic. Lighten up. People come here for advice not reprimand.

I agree Michael. I often feel very guarded on this forum and don't post as often as I used to because of some of the responses I see. It often feels like there is a group if providers on here that are the mean girls and who lash out at others instead of trying to guide or help them. I've wanted to speak up but then I feel it my paint a target on anything I post. I've often thought of leaving and probably will if things don't change. I don't feel like I enjoy this forum as much as I used to and instead feel like I come here out of habit.
If anyone thinks this post was some sort of threat to leave the forum and feels the need to comment for me to just leave or any other abrasive comment please don't.

[Kaddidle Care]

Well Crazy 8 decided to leave the forum. A new member no less. There is no reason why some of this needs to be so toxic. Lighten up. People come here for advice not reprimand.

Dang. She must have really taken it to heart.

[mom2many]

Well Crazy 8 decided to leave the forum. A new member no less. There is no reason why some of this needs to be so toxic. Lighten up. People come here for advice not reprimand.

I find this sad & disheartening that Crazy 8 decided to leave and totally agree with this. I haven't been on here much in the past few days and missed what transpired, but I have often thought some posts do come off a bit too judgemental and mean spirited. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and i think members on this forum can truly benefit and learn new and better ways to run their businesses from others, BUT i truly believe it can be done in a more positive and diplomatic way.