Wearing moderator hat...............
..... okay, this thread is no longer about supervision and/or destruction of property, it has sadly become a debate about who's opinion/thoughts/views are right and who's are wrong.
Most times, as a moderator I hesitate to step in and say anything as I feel we are all grown ups and can manage a little flack on our own, but lately I have noticed that there are lots of posters who are losing site of the topic and simply saying "I'm right." (NOT in those words but you all kwim)
I think that the ONE common theme in ALL threads is that we all do things differently.
What one provider views as not acceptable has worked for years for another provider and vice versa. Life is funny like that....
I think that what we all need to stop and remember that just because we feel strongly about something, that it doesn't give us permission to insult, judge, taunt or be cruel to someone else who doesn't agree.
I can think of TONS of topics/situations that have popped up on this forum that I feel strongly about.
I also realize that those strong feelings are MY feelings...not everyone else's.
I am the type of provider who doesn't let my DCK's do ALOT of things simply out of fear that it could come back and bite me in the butt liability-wise.
My friend who is also a provider is the type of provider that allows her DCK's to behave the same way as her own kids. They ride bikes around the neighborhood (without helmets), play with sticks and baseball bats.
When I ask her why she lets them do those things when it could be a problem that results in injury, she says "Well until it is, I don't have a problem with it"
She isn't doing anything wrong...she is just doing things differently.
DIFFERENT 100% from my views but not at all WRONG. Just different.
Heck, I let my kiddos play with those foam fun noodles (used for swimming) the other day outside, without me being present. Did I think it was a safe activity? Absolutely!! Little did I know that if you swing one of those things hard enough, you can give someone a fat lip with it!
Am a bad or negligent provider for letting one of my 5 yr olds get a fat lip? I don't think so and neither does the parent.
It happens. There is really not much we can do as providers (other than bubble wrap our daycare kids) that will 100% protect them from ALL injury. It is just not going to happen.
As far as delivery of opinions go, I do think there is an art to saying what you want to say and yet not alienating and/or insulting the listener.
Some of the harsher posts to the OP really did NOTHING but drive her away.
It certainly didn't help her understand or teach her anything. Now instead of her learning from her experiences or mistakes, she will continue to do what she has always done and IMHO be far worse off than she was before she came looking for advice.
Delivery of your message is sometimes as equally important as the message itself.
As a moderator, I ask all of you who have given OP advice or stated your opinion to stop replying or posting in this thread if your post isn't about the topic.
There is no point to continue arguing who is right and who is wrong when the person asking for help/guidance can no longer hear or cares.


..... okay, this thread is no longer about supervision and/or destruction of property, it has sadly become a debate about who's opinion/thoughts/views are right and who's are wrong.
Most times, as a moderator I hesitate to step in and say anything as I feel we are all grown ups and can manage a little flack on our own, but lately I have noticed that there are lots of posters who are losing site of the topic and simply saying "I'm right." (NOT in those words but you all kwim)
I think that the ONE common theme in ALL threads is that we all do things differently.
What one provider views as not acceptable has worked for years for another provider and vice versa. Life is funny like that....
I think that what we all need to stop and remember that just because we feel strongly about something, that it doesn't give us permission to insult, judge, taunt or be cruel to someone else who doesn't agree.
I can think of TONS of topics/situations that have popped up on this forum that I feel strongly about.
I also realize that those strong feelings are MY feelings...not everyone else's.
I am the type of provider who doesn't let my DCK's do ALOT of things simply out of fear that it could come back and bite me in the butt liability-wise.
My friend who is also a provider is the type of provider that allows her DCK's to behave the same way as her own kids. They ride bikes around the neighborhood (without helmets), play with sticks and baseball bats.
When I ask her why she lets them do those things when it could be a problem that results in injury, she says "Well until it is, I don't have a problem with it"
She isn't doing anything wrong...she is just doing things differently.
DIFFERENT 100% from my views but not at all WRONG. Just different.

Heck, I let my kiddos play with those foam fun noodles (used for swimming) the other day outside, without me being present. Did I think it was a safe activity? Absolutely!! Little did I know that if you swing one of those things hard enough, you can give someone a fat lip with it!

Am a bad or negligent provider for letting one of my 5 yr olds get a fat lip? I don't think so and neither does the parent.
It happens. There is really not much we can do as providers (other than bubble wrap our daycare kids) that will 100% protect them from ALL injury. It is just not going to happen.
As far as delivery of opinions go, I do think there is an art to saying what you want to say and yet not alienating and/or insulting the listener.
Some of the harsher posts to the OP really did NOTHING but drive her away.
It certainly didn't help her understand or teach her anything. Now instead of her learning from her experiences or mistakes, she will continue to do what she has always done and IMHO be far worse off than she was before she came looking for advice.
Delivery of your message is sometimes as equally important as the message itself.
As a moderator, I ask all of you who have given OP advice or stated your opinion to stop replying or posting in this thread if your post isn't about the topic.
There is no point to continue arguing who is right and who is wrong when the person asking for help/guidance can no longer hear or cares.



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