Venting Thread

[Sunshine69]

We have received a lot of snow in the past month. My handbook clearly states that when a state of emergency of any kind is declared, I will not open for the safety of all families and my own.

One family is determined to bring their children regardless. Mom yelled and cursed at me and told me my handbook didn't mean anything and that I should be open. Im convinced that some parents feel that unless my home burns to the ground, I should provide them with care. Its incredibly frustrating and upsetting.

Wow! I hope you gave her termination notice.

My handbook is my policy. My contract stipulates that failure to follow my policy can result in immediate termination. This is one of those occasions where it definitely would. Obviously she needs someone open no matter what. I’d tell her you’re obviously not able to provide her the service she wants. Wish her luck in her search. She’s gonna need it trying to find someone with no life.

[Sunshine69]

Backbone is easier when you tell yourself the truth.

When you are flexible with a family you are choosing to meet their needs over your own family's to be liked. It is more selfish than simply enforcing your policies to meet your family's needs. Martyrdom.

How many times can you choose someone else over your family before your family see's no need in continuing a relationship with you?

Nurture those you love first. They chose to be there, they don't have to be.

Love ❤️ this ^^^

Very valuable advice!

I remind myself often, I’m doing this job to support my family, not ignore them.

[Sunshine69]

I get a call from dc over a week ago from a dad, they need care Tuesday, Thursday, and Fridays and I am only open M-TH. I let them know how to find care and tell them to call me if they have any questions.

I get a call during lunch last Thursday from the mom and they found to care for Fridays and want to set up a tour. I have something scheduled Mon-Wed after work this week so I offered them the last Saturday tour, which I do not normally offer.

Saturday won't work for them, They would like Sunday/today. I don't want to on Sunday, it is my family day, so I offer this Thurs. That might work for them but they would prefer Friday morning. I have plans for Friday Morning, so I told them that I was not available then.

I do not hear anything and start wondering if they think we are a go for this Thursday.

They want to start next week (March 3rd). I have done a quick tour and signing before (covid) and had it work out but those families worked with the times that I had available for a tour.

Well, I just got an email back:

"Thanks, but we will just find someone else that can accommodate us either virtually or in-person asap this week."

Count your lucky stars and wish them luck as well.

I had someone call a couple weeks ago on a Monday afternoon looking for care that Tuesday through Friday but only through that Friday and no more. Ummm, Nope! Not even worth the paperwork.

[Unregistered]

Why would a nyone need a provider either virtually or in person?? How are they suppose to watch children if they are doing it through the computer screen???

[CenterTeacher20]

I hope you understand I was talking about the response I said I would be tempted to give her and not your actual response. I thought what you said to her was perfect and you're right....if she took it as snarky... oh, well. She started it! ::

Lol, yep I misunderstood! ::

[Alwaysgreener]

Why would a nyone need a provider either virtually or in person?? How are they suppose to watch children if they are doing it through the computer screen???

Their reply was about finding a provider to tour with this week. Either a virtual tour or in person. Since I could not tour on the days they wanted me to.

[CenterTeacher20]

I'm just tired this week. Burnout is r-e-a-l.

[Alwaysgreener]

Dcm that I gave two weeks notice to, drops off this morning and says they are going to pick up early because they are going to meet with the new provider....awkward. But I guess it is to be expected.

[Unregistered]

Their reply was about finding a provider to tour with this week. Either a virtual tour or in person. Since I could not tour on the days they wanted me to.

Oh ok, guess I misread your statement

[Josiegirl]

Dcm that I gave two weeks notice to, drops off this morning and says they are going to pick up early because they are going to meet with the new provider....awkward. But I guess it is to be expected.

Yeh, you get to that point where you just want it over with already. But hopefully you'll find relief at the end.

[Alwaysgreener]

Yeh, you get to that point where you just want it over with already. But hopefully you'll find relief at the end.

Dear DCB

Sometimes I start questioning my decision to term you but then you remind me by keeping me hostage in my living room during nap time. Thank you very much for the reminder, only one day left before I can get my quite naptimes back. Good luck with your new provider.

[Cat Herder]

I am noticing a trend, here. 3 years going.

My *boy moms turn in paperwork & requested supplies, read notices and notify me of changes promptly and without need of reminders.

My *girl moms have to be reminded, hounded and occasionally threatened to do so.

Even the moms who have one of each. Boy is always covered, girl is left to wait or make due.

What is the deal? :confused::confused:

[gumdrops]

I'm just tired this week. Burnout is r-e-a-l.

Me Too! :hug: I think I get this way every year in February. I just remind myself that once the weather warms up, this job gets easier and everyone is happier!

[Sunshine69]

I'm just tired this week. Burnout is r-e-a-l.

Agreed. IDK why it seems so much more difficult right now. Maybe it’s the Covid factor and everything having been closed in my area so there’s not much to do away from the home.

I was in Target a couple weeks ago and a toddler was having a tantrum in the cart. I simply couldn’t listen to it any longer and went to the other side of the store. It was like “Nope, I listen to this crap all week long. Not going to do it on weekends too.”

I’m taking a week off for the first time in five years this spring. Not going anywhere. Just will have my house to myself for a week. Can’t wait.

[CenterTeacher20]

This week has gone by so fast... how is it already Thursday? Not ~really~ complaining about it almost being the weekend, but I feel like I have accomplished like NOTHING this week.