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[lovemykidstoo]

I am such a ****er. In my moment of weakness I kinda did think the boy was ''thrashing'' around. I'm sitting here laughing because your imagery is so funny. Anyway, thank you, my daughter is doing better - it really scared me because she was in so much pain and I was so fearful of it getting into her bloodstream.

Don't sell yourself short. It is highly possible that the little boy is upset that he won't see you or his buddies anymore. I'm sure he cares about you! I know that I have 5 boys and when each of them come each day the first thing they each ask is if "so and so" will be there. They come to love each other and us as their providers. In no means indicates that you should take them back but I bet he will miss you!

I hope that your daughter heals quickly. That is very scary!

[Tasha]

another update.

I just got off the phone with a dcp who is also a friend.
Guess who came by for an interview tonight? That's right, the E-mail DCM. And I am beside myself right now. DCM said that she left her previous provider because:
I ''shamed'' her child about not being potty trained, and by not ''working with'' her by making him wear diapers.
I was rough with DCB. She said I yanked a pacifier right out of his mouth and that was the ''final straw.''
She said I "yelled" at her in front of other parents when she was only 2 minutes late, and that it was her first time ever being late.
These are all just big, fat lies and it is taking all the restraint I can muster not to call her. She didn't mention my name to my friend, but DCB mentioned that he was at Miss Tasha's. Guess DCM didn't think providers talk. I am so angry.

[NillaWafers]

I just got off the phone with a dcp who is also a friend.
Guess who came by for an interview tonight? That's right, the E-mail DCM. And I am beside myself right now. DCM said that she left her previous provider because:
I ''shamed'' her child about not being potty trained, and by not ''working with'' her by making him wear diapers.
I was rough with DCB. She said I yanked a pacifier right out of his mouth and that was the ''final straw.''
She said I "yelled" at her in front of other parents when she was only 2 minutes late, and that it was her first time ever being late.
These are all just big, fat lies and it is taking all the restraint I can muster not to call her. She didn't mention my name to my friend, but DCB mentioned that he was at Miss Tasha's. Guess DCM didn't think providers talk. I am so angry.

Wow she really learned her lesson about talking Sh!t. Sheesh. I am soooo sorry people are such jerks.

[sharlan]

Wow! Some people just never learn, do they? I hope the other dcp passed on that one.

[Josiegirl]

Wow! Some people just never learn, do they? I hope the other dcp passed on that one.

I also hope word gets around about her lying.

[Play Care]

Regardless of if I know the old provider or not, a parent talking smack is a immediate red flag.
I hope the other provider passes on her.

[Thriftylady]

I would have to send a certified, return receipt letters one to her and one to DH (if I had his work address to make sure he got it). Saying that she needed to cease and desist badmouthing me to other people as it is slander or I would take legal action.

ETA: I might email it to them both and go ahead and mail one copy so they get it sooner.

[Tasha]

Regardless of if I know the old provider or not, a parent talking smack is a immediate red flag.
I hope the other provider passes on her.

My friend said it was left up in the air because she had
another family to interview, but she knew that she wasn't going to take her. I don't know what recourse I have, but I'm not going to sit back and let her trash me around town.
She is such a phony. She sat in my living room and boo-hooed and put on such a show of being devastated about her e-mail mistake. And I was very moved. I feel very, very dumb right now.
Plus, you're right, badmouthing a previous provider is really poor form and tells me she is slightly unhinged. And, contrary to what her DH thinks, she is hostile beyond belief at me. Can you imagine if I had taken them back? Thank you, ladies, so much for giving me such great advice and talking me out of that. Wow, that would have turned out awful.

[Thriftylady]

My friend said it was left up in the air because she had
another family to interview, but she knew that she wasn't going to take her. I don't know what recourse I have, but I'm not going to sit back and let her trash me around town.
She is such a phony. She sat in my living room and boo-hooed and put on such a show of being devastated about her e-mail mistake. And I was very moved. I feel very, very dumb right now.
Plus, you're right, badmouthing a previous provider is really poor form and tells me she is slightly unhinged. And, contrary to what her DH thinks, she is hostile beyond belief at me. Can you imagine if I had taken them back? Thank you, ladies, so much for giving me such great advice and talking me out of that. Wow, that would have turned out awful.

Some people are only sorry when they get caught. I have a DCB like that right now. The other day he was running in the house and DH was home. He told DH "don't tell Miss Thrifty" LOL. But he is a kid much different than an adult.

[Tasha]

I would have to send a certified, return receipt letters one to her and one to DH (if I had his work address to make sure he got it). Saying that she needed to cease and desist badmouthing me to other people as it is slander or I would take legal action.

ETA: I might email it to them both and go ahead and mail one copy so they get it sooner.

I'm sorry, I just saw this. Do you think this would work? I am definitely going to warn her to shut her mouth (I should, right?), but I need to do it in a professional manner rather than call her up and scream at her, which is what I really want to do. I very much want to call her out on her lies. It's not good to be this angry at the start of the day.

[spedmommy4]

A few months ago I was in a similar situation. A parent ended up pulling her two daughters over something rediculous and was saying that I wasn't following through on her daughters potty training, etc.

I sit on the childcare association board here and was so afraid of what people would think of her trash talk. The president of the association advised me to ignore her and let it roll off my back. She was just mad that she didn't get her way.

I did and I happen to know that 2 months later she still couldn't find anyone to take her kids. Her badmouthing was setting off red flags and nobody would take her kids. IMO, your dcm is her own worst enemy right now.

[Ariana]

I'm sorry, I just saw this. Do you think this would work? I am definitely going to warn her to shut her mouth (I should, right?), but I need to do it in a professional manner rather than call her up and scream at her, which is what I really want to do. I very much want to call her out on her lies. It's not good to be this angry at the start of the day.

Knowing what you know about her do you think she will take kindly to being reprimanded? This situation could get a lot worse. I personally would just let my reputation and program speak for itself. I know it is hard to do but when dealing with crazies taking the high road is always my advice. She didn't mention tour name so that is good. Whenever I have a potential client bad mouthing their last provider I always see it as a red flag, especially if I know the provider. She is not a good person and people will see that. Her next provider will quickly realize that she was a liar.

[Blackcat31]

I did and I happen to know that 2 months later she still couldn't find anyone to take her kids. Her badmouthing was setting off red flags and nobody would take her kids. IMO, your dcm is her own worst enemy right now.

"What Sally says about Suzie says more about Sally than it does Suzie."

[My3cents]

I would have to send a certified, return receipt letters one to her and one to DH (if I had his work address to make sure he got it). Saying that she needed to cease and desist badmouthing me to other people as it is slander or I would take legal action.

ETA: I might email it to them both and go ahead and mail one copy so they get it sooner.

This all the way-

I am all for second chances. but.... you know in your heart of heart if a parent is legit or not. I think you knew this after third, fourth time of excuses etc... We need to look at parents as our clients. A client bad mouthing your business needs to be shut down and quick. This is my living......not my endless generosity.

Thanks for sharing-

Best-

[Play Care]

A few months ago I was in a similar situation. A parent ended up pulling her two daughters over something rediculous and was saying that I wasn't following through on her daughters potty training, etc.

I sit on the childcare association board here and was so afraid of what people would think of her trash talk. The president of the association advised me to ignore her and let it roll off my back. She was just mad that she didn't get her way.

I did and I happen to know that 2 months later she still couldn't find anyone to take her kids. Her badmouthing was setting off red flags and nobody would take her kids. IMO, your dcm is her own worst enemy right now.

Personally I would not send anything to mom. It will just add fuel to her fire and further any drama.
By complaining to the potential provider she showed her true colors. Hold your head high, document, and continue providing excellent care to your clients.

The only time I think I would persue legal avenues is if she was posting reviews online and was there was no way she could deny/hide the fact she was slandering/defaming you/your business.