Would You Be Offended?

[crazydaycarelady]

I have not had time to read all of the responses but my hubby is a PO so I have watched for a lot of people in LE. They don't ask ridiculous questions!They are not all like this guy. I think this guy has a tough guy complex.

Plus if they say they were going to go with someone else then why are they upset anyway? They probably thought they were interviewing you - and had no freaking clue you might just say no.

[Josiegirl]

Just curious if he gave his wife any time to interject a word? I mean, it IS her baby too! I'm glad you decided to just say NO but why on earth is he still talking?? And as someone else asked, wth does he want to talk to you about? It's clear(to you and all of us anyways) that this would not be a good working relationship. Control and try to intimidate people much?
I'd also send him the one last text demanding him to stop texting or you'll report for harassment. But the nosy side of me wants to know what he feels he needs to say to you.

I truly hope there is no flack at your dh's work because of this. What does your dh think about it?

[sugar buzz]

I have not had time to read all of the responses but my hubby is a PO so I have watched for a lot of people in LE. They don't ask ridiculous questions!They are not all like this guy. I think this guy has a tough guy complex.

Plus if they say they were going to go with someone else then why are they upset anyway? They probably thought they were interviewing you - and had no freaking clue you might just say no.

That's awesome....ironically, we LOVE POs and were really excited about providing care for one. My DD wants to major in Criminal Justice, and she's actually dressing up as one for Halloween. :: She told me: "Don't let him jade you! We're not all like that!" ::::

His wife was kind of timid. Her hands and voice shook every time she spoke, and she kept saying she wished she could be a SAHM. They were 20 minutes late, so I wonder if they had had a fight--something just didn't feel right. He was HUGE--like bench-press huge--very intimidating. There was zero warmth or humor.

The last text was from her. She apologized and said that they are not really that up-tight and she's really sorry for scaring me off, and she hopes that I wasn't offended by her husband's questions. :: I didn't respond to any of the texts, so hopefully it's over. I think that he's just used to making all the decisions and ordering people around, and he came undone when I beat him to the punch. DH's co-worker seems to think they're fine, but he wasn't attempting to care for their never-can-be-put-down-or-be-near-other-children baby, and he's also not female! I told my DH just to tell his co-worker that I changed my mind about taking an infant. I just want off that guy's radar!

[m.kids1301]

I don't trust interrogators!

I really don't trust super picky parents. Well, I was pretty picky with my 1st daughter but not to the point of ridiculous.

I had a little girl, Aiyana, in 2004 for 3 weeks. She was 2 at the time and just a little clingy, but no problem. The 1st day her dad called he said he was divorcing her mother because she was abusive. So he brought her himself the 1st 2 times I think. Then his girlfriend came with him. I tried to be friendly... boy, was that not working! She kept looking around trying to find something wrong. One day at pickup my neighbor brought over their baby hamsters to show me and someone spilled sequins by the table... it was general chaos! Those 2 just stood there like "what on earth?" A morning at drop off I was informed that Aiyana's diaper was completely soaked the evening before at pickup. I'd had a appointment to get to, and my husband was here the last little bit, but he said he'd checked her. Since they were being so picky, the next time I wasn't there he checked her right before pickup and she was dry. They again said in the morning that she was soaked. I left a note the next time (I had something going on those 3 days - I'm usually here at pickup!) saying if they didn't like what I was doing they could find someone else. That was the last I saw them. But the big shock came about a year later. There were several articles in the newspaper describing the torture that woman put that poor baby through!!! She duct-taped her hands behind her back, made her sleep on a metal tray in the back part of the un-heated garage with a cement floor! There was a bed with a bunch of stuff on it so she couldn't sleep on it. She was forced to eat this slime that "mom" put in the blender; I don't know what all was in that. Then she finally KILLED her!!! She was only 4. The woman called the police and was hysterical and had the little girl's body on the washer and nearby was a broken cutting board that she apparently had been banging her on the head with! I couldn't believe these supposedly "picky" people had done that to this poor child!! And I had a helper at the time that knew the girl's mom and said she didn't believe she could be abusive. Wow! Oh, and I think she got life in prison and twice has attempted to appeal!!

But I really like to avoid the picky ones... I just had a dad that is super overprotective of his daughter and because she whined about a 2 year old hitting her (she's 5) the dad referred to the 2 year old as a bully! He removed her so she could go to school... I feel sorry for that school!!!

[Baby Beluga]

I really don't trust super picky parents. Well, I was pretty picky with my 1st daughter but not to the point of ridiculous.

I had a little girl, Aiyana, in 2004 for 3 weeks. She was 2 at the time and just a little clingy, but no problem. The 1st day her dad called he said he was divorcing her mother because she was abusive. So he brought her himself the 1st 2 times I think. Then his girlfriend came with him. I tried to be friendly... boy, was that not working! She kept looking around trying to find something wrong. One day at pickup my neighbor brought over their baby hamsters to show me and someone spilled sequins by the table... it was general chaos! Those 2 just stood there like "what on earth?" A morning at drop off I was informed that Aiyana's diaper was completely soaked the evening before at pickup. I'd had a appointment to get to, and my husband was here the last little bit, but he said he'd checked her. Since they were being so picky, the next time I wasn't there he checked her right before pickup and she was dry. They again said in the morning that she was soaked. I left a note the next time (I had something going on those 3 days - I'm usually here at pickup!) saying if they didn't like what I was doing they could find someone else. That was the last I saw them. But the big shock came about a year later. There were several articles in the newspaper describing the torture that woman put that poor baby through!!! She duct-taped her hands behind her back, made her sleep on a metal tray in the back part of the un-heated garage with a cement floor! There was a bed with a bunch of stuff on it so she couldn't sleep on it. She was forced to eat this slime that "mom" put in the blender; I don't know what all was in that. Then she finally KILLED her!!! She was only 4. The woman called the police and was hysterical and had the little girl's body on the washer and nearby was a broken cutting board that she apparently had been banging her on the head with! I couldn't believe these supposedly "picky" people had done that to this poor child!! And I had a helper at the time that knew the girl's mom and said she didn't believe she could be abusive. Wow! Oh, and I think she got life in prison and twice has attempted to appeal!!

Omg

[jenboo]

My cop dad is one of my favorites! He is so easy going and is all about "it takes a village to raise a child". This family (I have a DCB and his cousin) throw the best parties! I nannied them before opening my daycare and do date night sitting. I know most of the family... Dh loves them too. So we are closer to them than typical daycare families.

[Unregistered]

I had an interview like this once. I was grilled for over an hour about every single procedure. They asked to see my emergency plans!

Dcd sounds like a tool. No offense to tools. I would pass on them if you can afford to. I did not take the family that grilled me because I don't want to be questioned 24/7 about everything I do.

I've never had a cop for a client, but I'm always leery of parents who ask too many questions. Most of the time, their child is special needs or just behind. I took in two children (not related) at different times who's parents asked very detailed questions. I thought it was first time parent jitters. I quickly realized the children where physically and mentally delayed and the parents had no plans on helping them. I termed. I also termed, because I felt they were looking to blame me for things. For example, I would say "Jane should be crawling BY now". "She does crawl at home". Really! :/

[nannyde]

Some of you lovely providers would have handled him beautifully and stood toe-to-toe--I would pay to see that. ::

The whole thread I'm thinking.... "let me at em... let me at em"

Time to open a can of Bam Bam Bigelow on this jerk.

Hard Core Pawn parent

[nannyde]

Wouldn't it be fun to try to get the guy to cry by the end of the interview? Like Barbra Walters when she's interviewing celebrities.

"You seem like a very protective Daddy. How old were you when YOUR father abandoned your mother?"

"You seem like a perfectionist. Did the recruits at your police academy have to do extra pushups when you couldn't scale the wall?"

You seem very worried about a preteen caring for your child while in my house. Did your mother leave you with strange kids when she started dating after your Dad abandoned you? How did that make YOU feel?"



I wouldn't quit till I had him bawling like a little sissy girl. ::

[NightOwl]

Wouldn't it be fun to try to get the guy to cry by the end of the interview? Like Barbra Walters when she's interviewing celebrities.

"You seem like a very protective Daddy. How old were you when YOUR father abandoned your mother?"

"You seem like a perfectionist. Did the recruits at your police academy have to do extra pushups when you couldn't scale the wall?"

You seem very worried about a preteen caring for your child while in my house. Did your mother leave you with strange kids when she started dating after your Dad abandoned you? How did that make YOU feel?"



I wouldn't quit till I had him bawling like a little sissy girl. ::

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[KiddieCahoots]

Wouldn't it be fun to try to get the guy to cry by the end of the interview? Like Barbra Walters when she's interviewing celebrities.

"You seem like a very protective Daddy. How old were you when YOUR father abandoned your mother?"

"You seem like a perfectionist. Did the recruits at your police academy have to do extra pushups when you couldn't scale the wall?"

You seem very worried about a preteen caring for your child while in my house. Did your mother leave you with strange kids when she started dating after your Dad abandoned you? How did that make YOU feel?"



I wouldn't quit till I had him bawling like a little sissy girl. ::

::.....too funny, and probably nailed it right on the head!

One of my grandparents, that picks up on a regular basis is Lieutenant of the police department in my town. He is the nicest guy! Nothing like this controlling jerk! Hope he has more restraint when he's working.

[Hunni Bee]

I really don't trust super picky parents. Well, I was pretty picky with my 1st daughter but not to the point of ridiculous.

I had a little girl, Aiyana, in 2004 for 3 weeks. She was 2 at the time and just a little clingy, but no problem. The 1st day her dad called he said he was divorcing her mother because she was abusive. So he brought her himself the 1st 2 times I think. Then his girlfriend came with him. I tried to be friendly... boy, was that not working! She kept looking around trying to find something wrong. One day at pickup my neighbor brought over their baby hamsters to show me and someone spilled sequins by the table... it was general chaos! Those 2 just stood there like "what on earth?" A morning at drop off I was informed that Aiyana's diaper was completely soaked the evening before at pickup. I'd had a appointment to get to, and my husband was here the last little bit, but he said he'd checked her. Since they were being so picky, the next time I wasn't there he checked her right before pickup and she was dry. They again said in the morning that she was soaked. I left a note the next time (I had something going on those 3 days - I'm usually here at pickup!) saying if they didn't like what I was doing they could find someone else. That was the last I saw them. But the big shock came about a year later. There were several articles in the newspaper describing the torture that woman put that poor baby through!!! She duct-taped her hands behind her back, made her sleep on a metal tray in the back part of the un-heated garage with a cement floor! There was a bed with a bunch of stuff on it so she couldn't sleep on it. She was forced to eat this slime that "mom" put in the blender; I don't know what all was in that. Then she finally KILLED her!!! She was only 4. The woman called the police and was hysterical and had the little girl's body on the washer and nearby was a broken cutting board that she apparently had been banging her on the head with! I couldn't believe these supposedly "picky" people had done that to this poor child!! And I had a helper at the time that knew the girl's mom and said she didn't believe she could be abusive. Wow! Oh, and I think she got life in prison and twice has attempted to appeal!!

But I really like to avoid the picky ones... I just had a dad that is super overprotective of his daughter and because she whined about a 2 year old hitting her (she's 5) the dad referred to the 2 year old as a bully! He removed her so she could go to school... I feel sorry for that school!!!

My Lord. Poor Aiyana.