Would You Be Offended?

[sugar buzz]

I need some perspective. I just had an interview with a teacher and a state trooper and their six-week-old baby. (My first interview in five years.) Basically, I was just interrogated by a policeman for an hour. I was asked if my 12-year-old DD ever watched the kids. When I told him absolutely not, he kept rephrasing the question, "Let's say you had a really bad day...." He rephrased it three times. I was also asked why I didn't "go back to work" after my kids went to school. I said that I "work" fifty hours a week. (That one really struck a nerve.) Also, "Who comes through your house during the day?" "If a dck busts their head, what are you going to do with our baby, while you're helping the other kid?" Umm...is this a minor laceration or a near-decapitation scenario? Yell for my 12-year-old, of course. I dunno. I understand he's in that line of work, but I felt like a criminal the entire interview. All you recent interview experts, am I being too sensitive about this interview?

[midaycare]

I had an interview like this once. I was grilled for over an hour about every single procedure. They asked to see my emergency plans!

Dcd sounds like a tool. No offense to tools. I would pass on them if you can afford to. I did not take the family that grilled me because I don't want to be questioned 24/7 about everything I do.

[racemom]

I would be afraid every little bump and incident would be an interrogation. I would also pass if you can afford it, I understand parents being cautious, but Wow!

[cheerfuldom]

I would pass on this for sure. he is way too far into cop-mode to be a reasonable person to work for.

[CraftyMom]

I had a cop interview once. It was the shortest, yet most uncomfortable interview ever! Same thing with all the questions. He was just firing them out one after another. The child was 2, but mom never put her down, even when it was clear she wanted to see the other kids (this was early on, one of the few interviews I did during dc hours before realizing the kids were losing clients for me). The whole interview lasted maybe 15 minutes at the most, I'd say closer to 10 minutes. It was a very uncomfortable 10 minutes! I told my husband I felt like I was being interrogated in my own home! Yes I was offended

I didn't hear from them for at least a week even though they said they would call either way. I didn't want to take them on anyway.

Then one day mom calls and says she'd be dropping dcg off the next day :confused: I needed the spot filled (still naïve then) so I told her she'd have to fill out the papers first, she said she'd do it that morning.

They never showed

[DaveA]

I was also asked why I didn't "go back to work" after my kids went to school. I said that I "work" fifty hours a week. (That one really struck a nerve.)

The other questions are eye rollers, but that is the red flag for me that that family won't be a good fit for me. At best he doesn't care to understand what you do, at worst he thinks you're signing up to be their employee/ indentured servant. If you can, pass. And if they ask, tell them you don't think they understand how your program works and you choose how things are done in your program.

[Shell]

Pass. Dcd sounds condescending, regardless of the fact that he probably feels he is being thorough by interrogating you. Sounds like he has Zero respect for the profession, and will always be a problem parent.

[Indoorvoice]

They would also get a big fat PASS from me! Sorry he was such a jerk. You'll find someone else!

[Unregistered]

OP here--I'm just not logged in because I'm not on my phone. Thank you so much for your responses! I just let them know that I would not be able to provide care for them--dodged a bullet....probably literally!!!

[sahm1225]

Pass. Dcd sounds condescending, regardless of the fact that he probably feels he is being thorough by interrogating you. Sounds like he has Zero respect for the profession, and will always be a problem parent.

Thi! He showed his true colors. Pass! Anyone that interrogates you and makes you uncomfortable does not even deserve consideration for the sppt! Good luck op

[KidGrind]

I need some perspective. I just had an interview with a teacher and a state trooper and their six-week-old baby. (My first interview in five years.) Basically, I was just interrogated by a policeman for an hour. I was asked if my 12-year-old DD ever watched the kids. When I told him absolutely not, he kept rephrasing the question, "Let's say you had a really bad day...." He rephrased it three times. I was also asked why I didn't "go back to work" after my kids went to school. I said that I "work" fifty hours a week. (That one really struck a nerve.) Also, "Who comes through your house during the day?" "If a dck busts their head, what are you going to do with our baby, while you're helping the other kid?" Umm...is this a minor laceration or a near-decapitation scenario? Yell for my 12-year-old, of course. I dunno. I understand he's in that line of work, but I felt like a criminal the entire interview. All you recent interview experts, am I being too sensitive about this interview?

I wouldn’t be offended. It is their child you would be potentially providing care for. I would have shared, Mr. Doe you’ve asked me the role of my 12 year old in my program. I’ve shared it. Do you have other questions unrelated to my 12 year old?

[taylorw1210]

I would pass on this for sure. he is way too far into cop-mode to be a reasonable person to work for.

Pass. Dcd sounds condescending, regardless of the fact that he probably feels he is being thorough by interrogating you. Sounds like he has Zero respect for the profession, and will always be a problem parent.

I would definitely, definitely pass! And, I've been trying to set up an interview with a family where the dad is a cop - this makes me not want to follow through with the interview! (They've rescheduled on me 2x already and are super difficult to schedule with. )

[LysesKids]

I would definitely, definitely pass! And, I've been trying to set up an interview with a family where the dad is a cop - this makes me not want to follow through with the interview! (They've rescheduled on me 2x already and are super difficult to schedule with. )

The rescheduling 2 times is a red flag already. I have a family in care where dad is private investigator, but he didn't switch to that job until 6 months after starting here even though he had the degree. My main problem with that family is the unpredictable scheduling... I understand some of it because I use to work a similar career for years before I started in childcare, and thankfully he doesn't interrogate me, his wife though... OMG, talk about being overprotective

[taylorw1210]

The rescheduling 2 times is a red flag already. I have a family in care where dad is private investigator, but he didn't switch to that job until 6 months after starting here even though he had the degree. My main problem with that family is the unpredictable scheduling... I understand some of it because I use to work a similar career for years before I started in childcare, and thankfully he doesn't interrogate me, his wife though... OMG, talk about being overprotective

Yea, I think this one is definitely just going to not happen...

[Second Home]

I expect some of these questions and will answer them once . The biggest thing would be the tone he used when asking the questions. I have been asked the same question over and iver and I respond with " as I already said " so the potential client knows I have already answered and the answer is still the same .