Kids Who Think They Rule The Roost

[Unregistered]

All I can think is what are his choices going to be when he is a teenager? Of course he will have to have the latest/best phones, clothes and a car. With him making all the decisions and always in control, it is just scary to think about his decisions when he is in the crazy hormonal stage that are the teen years! Hopefully he doesn't hurt himself or worse someone else.

Most parents I know try to buy the best they can afford for their children so yes he does get the latest electronics, travels a lot, my parents bought me a new sports car the day I got my license and I will buy him a new vehicle when he starts to drive as well.

[craftymissbeth]

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Personally, I'm checking for bridges

[daycarediva]

I gotta believe this is just a troll. I'm not touching this with a ten foot pole!

If it IS true, I sincerely feel bad for the child, being raised with that level of entitlement is a handicap in the real world.

[Blackcat31]

I gotta believe this is just a troll. I'm not touching this with a ten foot pole!

If it IS true, I sincerely feel bad for the child, being raised with that level of entitlement is a handicap in the real world.

Entitled children, always suffer from alienation, lack of trust and restless unhappiness. They are forever striving for the next free thing, but never feeling satisfied; it’s like expensive charity events where wealthy celebrities relish the gift bag, as if they actually need more swag. Doesn’t this suggest a poverty of spirit that is forever hungry for more free stuff, but cannot be filled because the vessel of the self is a colander as opposed to a bowl?

http://privilegeofparenting.com/2009/11/25/the-secret-pain-of-the-entitled-child/

[daycarediva]

Entitled children, always suffer from alienation, lack of trust and restless unhappiness. They are forever striving for the next free thing, but never feeling satisfied; it’s like expensive charity events where wealthy celebrities relish the gift bag, as if they actually need more swag. Doesn’t this suggest a poverty of spirit that is forever hungry for more free stuff, but cannot be filled because the vessel of the self is a colander as opposed to a bowl?

http://privilegeofparenting.com/2009...ntitled-child/

[mamamanda]

Every parent has the right to raise their child as they see fit. I would not want someone telling me how to raise my child. At the same time, from a provider's point of view, which is what this particular forum is geared toward, you cannot keep 12 children safe and healthy without rules and order in place. It is not at all about taking away a child's freedom of choice or stunting their individuality. It is about teaching them to make wise choices and to express themselves in a safe and respectful way. My son is involved in a lot of the decision making in our home. I said he is involved, I didn't say he makes the final decision. When we take a vacation, we discuss as a family where we would enjoy going. Mommy & daddy take his opinions to heart, but then we make the best decision for our family considering time restraints, finances, etc. When he gets dressed in the morning I point out what the weather is like. I tell him if he will need shorts vs. pants, etc, but then he goes and chooses the outfit he likes that meets with our expectations. He often chooses what meal he would like for dinner, but he chooses from a list of healthy options I have given him because I want him to be a healthy individual. There are ways to allow freedom of expression without handing over your responsibilities as a parent which are to keep your child safe, teach them right from wrong, etc.
All that being said, when our children enter the work force they will be required to abide by certain rules and regulations. When they enter school they will be required to follow the rules and behave in an orderly way. And when they are in daycare, they must follow certain rules and behave themselves as well. There would be no other way for providers to keep them safe, or to maintain our sanity, without some sort of structure. And it would help us child care providers out tremendously if parents would teach their children that the word no does mean no because when a child is allowed to tear things up at will when they are home and then gets in trouble for tearing up toys, or other children's things here at daycare, it is really confusing for the child. Just my long winded 2 cents worth.
And based on my parenting views, it does seem funny to me when a dcm says something like, "I just don't know how you get dcb to sit his seat during dinner time. He would scream like crazy if I tried that at home." Lol He is 2. Sit him down and tell him to stay. If he gets up, take away his food. That works for us here.

[daycarediva]

---side note--- I feel bad for whoever dates/marries people raised this way! Can you imagine having NO say in food, activities, vacations, or a husband who pouts and throws a fit when he doesn't get his way!? EW!!!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PEPoO08IMog

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[mamamanda]

Entitled children, always suffer from alienation, lack of trust and restless unhappiness. They are forever striving for the next free thing, but never feeling satisfied; it’s like expensive charity events where wealthy celebrities relish the gift bag, as if they actually need more swag. Doesn’t this suggest a poverty of spirit that is forever hungry for more free stuff, but cannot be filled because the vessel of the self is a colander as opposed to a bowl?

http://privilegeofparenting.com/2009...ntitled-child/

Agreed

[taylorw1210]

I smell a troll.

Back on topic: One of my DCM's texted me in the morning before drop off saying, "SoandSo is wearing a really nice baseball jersey today because he refused to wear anything else - could you please make sure he does not get it dirty and take it off before he eats?"

My response was, "You should tell Soandso that wearing nice clothes to daycare is not a good idea..."

I did not remove the jersey once during the day and it did go home dirty.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I rarely get fired up angry when I read posts on here, but that is just DISRESPECTFUL! How dare you shove your parenting duties off on a teacher who may have more than two dozen other students to take care of? You are the kind of parent that should never have had children. Have fun in la la land when your kid is still living with you at age 35.

I agree. Your child's teacher really doesn't care if they excel to their highest potential. If you are allowing him to say no to hw then that is on you. What happens when he says no to doing chores at home? What will he do in real life...because who REALLY wants to do chores? What happens when he says no to his boss? People don't agree with everything another says as is VERY clear here.

I am horrified.

[permanentvacation]

I have had A LOT of kids like this in the past couple of years since I have moved to this lower income area. A lot of the parents in my area obviously do not want to be bothered by their children, so they do whatever makes the child shut up. That's how I see it anyway.

If I'm standing here telling a parent that their child was horrible all day, mean to everyone, and refused to eat lunch, if the child stands there whining at their parent for candy (that they know is in the parent's purse), the mother fusses with the child for a second, the kid demands his desire for the candy, so the mother gives the kid the candy. I just stand there like And realize immediately why I will never get anywhere with that child or his parents.

This happens with everything; going to McDonalds, playing with parents keys, playing with parents cell phone, YELLING to talk to the parents about absolutely nothing; just being rude while the adults are tying to talk, etc. And of course the children don't ask politely for anything! They DEMAND their desires to their parents and if they aren't immediately told, "yes, honey, you may get what you want", they just yell their demands louder! If my child ever talked to me the way these kids talk to their parents now, I'd have smacked their lips right off their face!

Maybe that's why my parents don't do anything with their kids. They just go home and tell their kids to go play by themselves in the house.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I smell a troll.

Back on topic: One of my DCM's texted me in the morning before drop off saying, "SoandSo is wearing a really nice baseball jersey today because he refused to wear anything else - could you please make sure he does not get it dirty and take it off before he eats?"

My response was, "You should tell Soandso that wearing nice clothes to daycare is not a good idea..."

I did not remove the jersey once during the day and it did go home dirty.

I had one send her child in a white shirt and they were going to go take family pics after...but if he got it dirty she would just go buy a new one. Peculiar.

[permanentvacation]

I just read through the posts and saw where it says entitled children, always suffer from alienation, lack of trust and restless unhappiness. That pretty much describes the majority of the children's home lives that I have gotten since I moved to this lower income area. The majority of the parents here do not spend time with their children, don't want to be bothered with their kids, tell their child they will get/have something later that, if they think the child will forget about, don't really give to the child, don't have one or the other parent in their lives, watch their parents argue and fight often, etc.

[KiddieCahoots]

Most parents I know try to buy the best they can afford for their children so yes he does get the latest electronics, travels a lot, my parents bought me a new sports car the day I got my license and I will buy him a new vehicle when he starts to drive as well.

Let me guess.....he calls you (in a British accent) mummaaa.....::...