Kids Who Think They Rule The Roost

[NightOwl]

Well he goes to private school and he is one of 14 kids in his class. She can handle him just fine. His teacher adores him. You assume because he is in charge that he is a wild beast which is not the case. He is a normal energetic 7 year old boy. As for living at home when he is 35 I would have no problem with that. I enjoy his company. However financially he won't need to do that as he will easily be able to purchase his dream home if he desires when he turns 25.

He's 7 and "he's in charge"?? And you wouldn't mind him living at home at 35 because you "enjoy his company"? Who else thinks this sounds like a Norma and Norman Bates dynamic??

I find this sad. It sounds to me like you are allowing this to go on in your household because you are trying to be your son's friend in the hopes that he won't leave you one day when he, oh I don't know, grows up.

[KiddieCahoots]

He's 7 and "he's in charge"?? And you wouldn't mind him living at home at 35 because you "enjoy his company"? Who else thinks this sounds like a Norma and Norman Bates dynamic??

I find this sad. It sounds to me like you are allowing this to go on in your household because you are trying to be your son's friend in the hopes that he won't leave you one day when he, oh I don't know, grows up.

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Sadly.....I can vouch to that comment!
My dh lived with his parents til he was 50!
The transition for him was easy, for his mother......put it this way, we don't talk.....ever!

[spinnymarie]

I'm going to answer the OP and ignore what's happened since:

I have one little girl who is very sweet here. Perfectly typical, adapts easily, if she is in the throes of terrible twos it's hard to tell outside of a few minutes each day.

One morning her dad came to pick her up and said, "I don't know how you get her to take off her shoes! She never wants to take her shoes off at home, so we just wait until she's asleep. For a while she never took off her shoes or her coat! And if we waited until she was asleep, she would wake up!"

OMG these parents left this girl's shoes AND coat on for days at a time because 'she didn't WANT to take them off'!

LOL. I don't remember what I said, I do know I just told her to take them off and when she cried about it I told her we don't wear shoes here and told her to go play!

[craftymissbeth]

I have a 2 yo dcg and dcd at drop-off and dcm at pick-up today BOTH said that they're amazed that I haven't kicked her out of daycare yet :confused: They said she's mean to dcm and just will not listen. I just told them I'm pretty consistent with what I expect from the kids and they all do a great job of living up to my expectations

[TickleMonster]

Needless to say I am a bit horrified myself at a parent who would allow their child to make all the decisions. But to each their own I guess. When it comes to my own children, I do ask their opinions on things and make sure they know that their input is important but I am the parent and I have the final word. As for our dcks, they know the rules here and are usually good about following them. All in all, of course all parents can raise their children as they see fit. What is irritating to me is when a lax parent (such as letting a child stay up until midnight every night) affects all of us here at dc.

[KiddieCahoots]

Had a dcg 2.5 that ruled the roost, come back from a week vacation from Florida to visit Disney, with both feet peeling profusely. It was disgusting!
Turns out, dcg liked the hotel pool so much, that was all dcg would allow them to do while there.
This was a trip taken when pool weather was happening here too!

[NightOwl]

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Sadly.....I can vouch to that comment!
My dh lived with his parents til he was 50!
The transition for him was easy, for his mother......put it this way, we don't talk.....ever!

Because you were that horrible girl who stole her sweet baby away, right? Lol. Bates....

[KiddieCahoots]

Because you were that horrible girl who stole her sweet baby away, right? Lol. Bates....

Bingo! ::....
The fight she put up.....even after some time, suggested he move back in with her and bring our infant son!? Bates, indeed! Lol!

[SignMeUp]

Doesn’t this suggest a poverty of spirit that is forever hungry for more free stuff, but cannot be filled because the vessel of the self is a colander as opposed to a bowl?

That is good. Love it. I want the poster

[SignMeUp]

I have also seen 'these parents' and the resulting children. But I have to say, here it is not income-related at all. Across the spectrum, I'd say

[craftymissbeth]

I have also seen 'these parents' and the resulting children. But I have to say, here it is not income-related at all. Across the spectrum, I'd say

It isn't here, either. Although, I do find that the wealthier the family the more likely it's due to wanting their child to be super "special"... and the lower income the family the more likely it's due to just being lazy and not wanting to deal with the tantrums.

Not sure why that's my perspective, but it is what it is.

[KiddieCahoots]

It isn't here, either. Although, I do find that the wealthier the family the more likely it's due to wanting their child to be super "special"... and the lower income the family the more likely it's due to just being lazy and not wanting to deal with the tantrums.

Not sure why that's my perspective, but it is what it is.

Maybe it's because the wealthy appease and support the inappropriate with items of monetary value.

Lower income are too tired from having to work multiple jobs to keep afloat, and let the inappropriate slide.

[craftymissbeth]

Maybe it's because the wealthy appease and support the inappropriate with items of monetary value.

Lower income are too tired from having to work multiple jobs to keep afloat, and let the inappropriate slide.

Very good points. I wasn't trying to judge in any way regarding family income... I think treating your child like that is just wrong regardless of the reason why

[SignMeUp]

Maybe it's because the wealthy appease and support the inappropriate with items of monetary value.

Lower income are too tired from having to work multiple jobs to keep afloat, and let the inappropriate slide.

Very interesting points.

Very good points. I wasn't trying to judge in any way regarding family income... I think treating your child like that is just wrong regardless of the reason why

I so agree

[midaycare]

Not feeding the troll ...

I do not have kids like that, thankfully, but I know them. I see a lot of them that are teens, too. If I did have kids like that, they would not last here long. I have zero tolerance for that.