My Husband Was Arrested-OMG I Need Help!

[Unregistered]

OK, so we live a very normal, "straight" life. No criminal records for us AT ALL. My husband was away on business and I got a call from him from JAIL this morning. So, first of all he flew out yesterday and called me when he landed and he was arrested about an hour after I spoke to him. He said he wasn't drunk, but apparently he had an open container in his car (I've never seen him with an open container in his car ever and he wouldn't talk about it on the jail phone since it was recorded). He had a very important meeting to go to today at work. He is an executive at his company, so I called up his assistant and told her what was going on so she could let his boss know after trying to call his boss.

He said that he actually thinks they will drop all of the charges and said that the officer was acting "unreasonably" but they held him for 24 hours for misorderly conduct. I'm not sure if they got him on a DUI, but I am thinking so. He did mention he had a couple drinks on the plane.

I'm freaking out about a lot of things right now. Do you guys think this will affect my license? I feel like my great life that I thought I knew just got turned upside down.

I'm a regular member, but I logged out for privacy.

[preschoolteacher]

I'm so sorry this is happening to you! Especially because you don't have all the details and just have to wait and worry. I hope it all turns out for the best.

I don't know if it would impact your license. I would imagine that it's a nonviolent offense and a misdemeanor. Those are not typically very serious offenses. Maybe the charges will even get dropped.

Thinking of you!!!:hug:

[melilley]

I would check with your state. I don't think a DUI would affect your license, but it's different in each state.
So sorry this happened. I'm not going to say anything specific, but it can happen to the best of us!

[Great Beginnings]

I don't think it would drastically affect your lisence. Here in NY they would just stipulate that he would not be allowed to transport the children anywhere and possibly not be left alone depending on how severe the situation was.

Good luck

[butterfly]

:hug: Praying for you and your husband.

[Meeko]

Not sure about your state, but in Utah, they are only bothered if the "crime" would be detrimental to the health and safety of the children in care.

[TwinKristi]

In Ca it would be an exemption on your license, so if someone called licensing to get info on your history it would show someone in the house has an exemption which could be anything from a minor crime, DUI, etc. If he has to be fingerprinted for you to have a daycare (like in CA) than it is something you should ask licensing about. I know a DCP who's husband got a DUI but she still operated her business and then after they divorced she got a DWI and another exemption I believe. She was still licensed last I checked but I could be wrong. She had to go through a process of providing 3 letters of recommendation or character statements to keep her license.

[originalkat]

Oh man! So sorry you are going through this. Try not to worry too much...this too shall pass. I would seriously doubt this would affect your license. Of course it varies from state to state, but I am pretty sure most problems that arise have to do with felonies and violent crimes. Hang in there.

[Michael]

Don't believe it will be a problem with your license. For his job, it may be another matter. Hopefully he will get a good DUI lawyer if they proceed with the charges.

[Unregistered]

Thank you everyone for your support. I still haven't heard anything else. He is still locked up. It was so hard to get through my day with the kids. He is my best friend and is always the one that I talk to when there is a problem and now he is the problem and I can't talk to him because he is in the slammer. Is he in an orange jump suit with plastic shoes? I don't know. Is he eating a bologna sandwhich? I doubt it. He is so picky about his food. Man, he must be really hungry and scared about his job and banging his head against those bars. Hopefully he hasn't had any issues from the other inmates.

I decided I'm not to lecture him. The punishment that he receives from this will be bad enough. I'm really hoping his job will be ok. It is a VERY large company, he is very high up and he works so hard. He has never called into work sick his entire life.

I am so anxious to hear from him. I know him well enough to know he found the best lawyer he could.

I feel like this day is the longest day of my life!

[coolconfidentme]

Not sure about your state, but in Utah, they are only bothered if the "crime" would be detrimental to the health and safety of the children in care.

Same In Indiana.

[hope]

I'm sure it must be difficult to put on a smile and go about your day as if nothing is wrong. You are a trooper!
A bit of advice. ....I would call the facility that DH is in to see what is going on. It seems like a very long time to be held for a dui. He may need more assistance from you but is ashamed and not want to involve you any more. Best of luck. He is lucky to have such a caring wife behind him.

[Unregistered]

Any updates?

[Great Beginnings]

I'm sure it must be difficult to put on a smile and go about your day as if nothing is wrong. You are a trooper!
A bit of advice. ....I would call the facility that DH is in to see what is going on. It seems like a very long time to be held for a dui. He may need more assistance from you but is ashamed and not want to involve you any more. Best of luck. He is lucky to have such a caring wife behind him.

I agree. Maybe it depends on the state but here you are not held overnight for a DUI. Your given an appearance ticket unless there was more going on at the time of arrest that he's ashamed to tell you or scared to let you down?

[Leigh]

I agree. Maybe it depends on the state but here you are not held overnight for a DUI. Your given an appearance ticket unless there was more going on at the time of arrest that he's ashamed to tell you or scared to let you down?

You're not held here, either, UNLESS you have no one to pick you up. I'm guessing that when out of town on business, he had no one willing to take responsibility for him. Here, you can't leave in a cab, or walk out, you have to have a sober adult pick you up.