Venting Thread

[Unregistered]

Is it neglect?

Is it neglect when parents drop their kid off in the exact same dirty clothes the child was in yesterday after leaving my dc?

I mean, why do parents think I won’t notice? Gross. Give that child some clean clothes so he can appreciate what it is like to feel clean!

And yeah, I figured out dcb was in underwear when he wet himself. Thanks for the late heads up. If they want me to actively potty train, they are going to give me more money per diem. Sorry.

Honestly, do they expect me to do laundry all day? (Because you know they didn’t send potty trainer dc kid with a change of clothes. Do they expect me to clean up crap and urine off my floors? All so they can save on diapers?

[CountryRoads]

Dcm dropped off dcg. Said she has an ear infection, no fever but gave her Tylenol this morning.

I just sent out a letter last week about illness. One of the things I put in it was to please not medicate your child prior to drop-off as it hides symptoms.

But, I said nothing. What is wrong with me? Anyone have some backbone I can borrow?

[Cat Herder]

Dcm dropped off dcg. Said she has an ear infection, no fever but gave her Tylenol this morning.

I just sent out a letter last week about illness. One of the things I put in it was to please not medicate your child prior to drop-off as it hides symptoms.

But, I said nothing. What is wrong with me? Anyone have some backbone I can borrow?

Be careful what you ask for. ::::::

If it was a diagnosed ear infection motrin would have been the better choice and the ped would have told her so. Tylenol is an antiplatelet for fever. Motrin is an anti-inflammatory for swelling pain. You may have been played. :hug:

The good news is that you will know for sure in 4 hours instead of 8.

[Ariana]

Dcm dropped off dcg. Said she has an ear infection, no fever but gave her Tylenol this morning.

I just sent out a letter last week about illness. One of the things I put in it was to please not medicate your child prior to drop-off as it hides symptoms.

But, I said nothing. What is wrong with me? Anyone have some backbone I can borrow?

Is she on antibiotics? That would be the only logical reason for no fever with an infection.

You’ll get a backbone when you get mad enough

[Unregistered]

Thank you all for your words of encouragement and empowerment. Today I spoke up to one of these bully parents and pretty much told her if this daycare is not working for her she has other options. I feel so much better, I did it with no apologies and I feel a new strength. And so grateful for my assistant and sub who remind me that these parents should be more appreciative and I deserve my day off.

So update on the parent that made me stand up today. This is the same parent that sent the text about me to me. Honestly, I think she’s one of those people that thrive off of drama.
Anyways, I’ve been working towards having teachers kids the last few years. So she is a teacher, new to my daycare this year. And has signed a contract with my new handbook geared towards my teachers families. I still have two families that are non-teachers and this is their last year and they are grandfathered in to my old handbook.
So here in the Midwest we have had nasty weather and schools have been closed all week. My new handbook says I am closed on no school days, including snow days. Well I have been taking the two non-teacher kids because their parents have to go to work. So today the bully teacher sends me a message asking if I’m closed. I reply technically yes, but I do take these two kids. She argues that that is not fair and that she is paying me for the entire week plus I’m taking Monday off now and I won’t even watch her kid. I kindly reminded her of the handbook and the contract that she signed, that I enjoy my low days, and there is no reason to have children on the road if unnecessary. I reminded her the weather is no fault of my own that is why I get paid, I pay my assistant and remind her that she is getting paid for not working. I then told her if this is not going to work for her family she has other options. I told her I know other home providers that close and do not have subs. And I reminded her she came from a center where she had to pay for summer childcare even though she didn’t need it. I do not charge for summers but teachers pay from the first day of school to the last, no exceptions. The two non-teacher kids do not get that, they pay for summers and have 10 excused absences.

She sent one more message, that she just thought it would be a nice gesture since I was closing Monday. I just reminded her that I follow my handbook and no. Honestly, my handbook is long because, nice gestures usually leads parents to take advantage. And after so many issues with her she is the last person I’d do a nice gesture for. I ended it with
“Enjoy your snow day” I haven’t heard from her since.

So again thank you for listening to me vent, offering advice and reminding me to find my backbone. It felt great to tell her exactly what I wanted without offering apologies.

I would have asked her if she would like to drive on to school and open her classroom for the day so that all the parents of her students could drop them off so they could go to work? She wants you to work on day off so why shouldn't she?

[Unregistered]

Had a DCB with liquid diarrhea today, dad says well he drank a lot of water of course his poop is watery.. smh.. then he proceeded to tell me no one was available to pick him up.. excuse me!? No I'm sorry you will have someone pick him up. Ug parents

[Snowmom]

First day back after a long weekend is torture.

Good Friday is eons away.

[Blackcat31]

First day back after a long weekend is torture.

Good Friday is eons away.

Right?!

I looked at the loooooong weeks ahead before Good Friday and promptly scheduled a day off in mid-March. ::

[Snowmom]

Right?!

I looked at the loooooong weeks ahead before Good Friday and promptly scheduled a day off in mid-March. ::

Nice!
I kind of wish I hadn't done my newsletter/calendar yet so I could too!
I'm going to have to make a note of that for next year.

[littlefriends]

I have a dcm that likes to put her two cents in whenever she sees the chance so as she’s bringing dcg in this am she hears me fussing at 2 in the kitchen around the corner (one had pushed the other while arguing over a toy so he fell down). I’m in the middle of saying “That wasn’t very nice and I don’t like seeing friends hurting each other! Tell dcb you’re sorry.” And I hear dcm from the living room sing song “And don’t forget I forgive you!!!”
Ugh! Annoying! Mind your own business.

[CenterTeacher20]

Some sort of tummy bug is going around our center. It's definitely making its rounds. This week has been full of diarrhea :dislike:

[Josiegirl]

I have a dcm that likes to put her two cents in whenever she sees the chance so as she’s bringing dcg in this am she hears me fussing at 2 in the kitchen around the corner (one had pushed the other while arguing over a toy so he fell down). I’m in the middle of saying “That wasn’t very nice and I don’t like seeing friends hurting each other! Tell dcb you’re sorry.” And I hear dcm from the living room sing song “And don’t forget I forgive you!!!”
Ugh! Annoying! Mind your own business.

That used to be a pet peeve of mine too. A parent would interject comments or question something I was doing, even if it didn't involve his own child/ren. He did that several times and it seemed to only be this certain parent. Really nice guy, both he and his dw were super nice people, but he did make me feel intimidated many times.

[CountryRoads]

What is with parents trying to negotiate with their kids?

"Dcg, do you want your socks on? No? Okay, what about this foot? Which foot do you want first? No socks? Ok."

"Do you want your coat on? No? Okay, but it's cold out." Lets child walk outside with no coat in 10 degree weather.

I get not wanting to cause a scene, but geez! Since when is it an option to not wear socks and a coat? :confused:

I'm always much more impressed with a parent who takes charge instead of allowing themselves to be walked on.

[Msdunny]

We had our yearly ice storm last night. Not bad, but the roads are a bit tricky. We are southern, so driving on the roads isn't exactly our forte.

This morning, I had a mom text and ask how we are doing. I told her we have power - most around us dont. So she said, "So we are on a normal schedule today?"(she doesn't work on Fridays, but still beings dcg) I told her sure, but I have no idea what roads are like, so that is her call. She said she would be here in a bit.

Then texts and says, "we will be running behind, since roads are closed and I am having to find alternate routes to your house." She made it here, but it makes me anxious because I had a mom in this exact situation a few years ago whose car slid on the ice and they were in a bad accident. Why not just stay safe? I don't mind the dcg, and we have had a fun morning, but really mom?

[CenterTeacher20]

15 month old who normally naps twice a day has been inconsolable all day... doesn't want to play. I know she's just really stubborn. But it's nap time for our whole center now and she is screaming bloody murder just for attention.