Venting Thread

[daycarediva]

one of my daycare parents is the boss of another of my daycare parents. The boss is divorced and apparantly my dcm doesn't like bosses exwife. Because of their custody agreement, bosses exwife doesn't have to drop off dcb until almost 11 two days a week. I agreed to the change (she used to bring him in anyway early but now because of the custody agreement she wants that morning time with him, since she won't see him that evening.) TOTALLY UNDERSTANDABLE. I rearranged our schedule to change library day to a 'dad custody day/early drop off' but it happens to be the day dcm's kids are off. She came in today (first week on the new calendar the changes go into effect) complaining up a storm and I finally had to tell her that it was none of her business. She said she was going to 'have a long talk' with the divorced DCD! WTH!!!!!!!!!!!!! I kindly told her not to, that it was really none of her business and that it was very unprofessional. None of the other parents are even aware of why the change was made, but since she knows the dcd I feel like she is trying to start trouble.

[daycarediva]

Oh, and she brought dck's library passes 'IN CASE I CHANGED MY MIND AND MADE IT FAIR'. Not happening. Nosy brat.

[BumbleBee]

Oh, and she brought dck's library passes 'IN CASE I CHANGED MY MIND AND MADE IT FAIR'. Not happening. Nosy brat.

Wow. Some parents are soooooo self-centered. If it's that big of a deal for her, she can take her own bloody kids to the library!

[BumbleBee]

13 days before I officially open my home daycare and my seperated but still legally married parents decide to use me as a sounding board regarding their latest fight.

No, I'm not going to choose sides. No, I'm not going to listen to each of you drag the other persons name through the mud.

You both have jobs, paid for houses/cars, and enough individual money to live off of for the rest of your lives. You live 400 miles away from each other and have been seperated for 9 years. Sign the stupid divorce papers already and leave me out of it!

[BumbleBee]

Registered but logged out for sensitive reasons.

Worst Monday ever! I need to redo this day completely.

1. My brother informed me not to say the name of my unborn child, which we just decided what we wanted to name her. It's the same nickname as one my baby sis wants to name her future second daughter. He doesn't want me to say my baby's name bc it's my sis' special week (getting married Sat.)

2. Microwave decided to die while preparing lunch.

3. Cops are across the street again (were there at lunch) because of a domestic violence or eviction at a rental house. The cops were parked in front of my house, and they scared one of my daycare moms.

4. I have a potty-training 3yo. She wanted to wear panties (when she's only pottied twice her at my house. Dcd settled for pullup). My daughter just got a brand new mattress set yesterday. I put dcg in a diaper since she never pottied ALL morning when I tried to get her to go. After nap (she sleeps in dd's room bc she can't sleep around the others), dcg had soaked through a comforter, 2 sheets, and onto the new mattress.

I hope your Tuesday went better!

[daycarediva]

Wow. Some parents are soooooo self-centered. If it's that big of a deal for her, she can take her own bloody kids to the library!

She is RIGHT NOW! Dcg made a HUGE fuss about it and I told her to ask her Mom to take her.

[survivingtexas]

Has school started yet?

I love my kids and sometimes they help me with the daycare stuff but please can they go back to school already?? The house is louder, they are just as needy sometimes and they don't take naps!!!

[countrymom]

13 days before I officially open my home daycare and my seperated but still legally married parents decide to use me as a sounding board regarding their latest fight.

No, I'm not going to choose sides. No, I'm not going to listen to each of you drag the other persons name through the mud.

You both have jobs, paid for houses/cars, and enough individual money to live off of for the rest of your lives. You live 400 miles away from each other and have been seperated for 9 years. Sign the stupid divorce papers already and leave me out of it!

it may sound bad to you, but I find that because I'm neutral that parents need to vent too. I don't mind because most parents don't have anyone to complain too.

[countrymom]

my sister is coming over with her 4 yr old dd. wish me luck. She got banned from my house because her dd is a spoiled brat who needs her arse smacked, instead she gets her way, screams all the time and throws tantrums and my sister gives into her. The only reason she is coming over is because she has birthday gifts for my kids, her dd will open them before my kids anyways. Oh, all the kids hate her too.

[Unregistered]

To sensitive to provide daycare?

I am a new daycare provider and I am wondering if I am just to sensitive to do this. I get back from my unpaid vacation to find out -one child will be leaving for a month (who last I heard was going to start coming full time) (no payment left to hold her spot as per contract), -one child is cutting back their days (more lost income), -a new family is starting later than expected, -another new child that was set to start is moving, I get bombarded with this info. in just two days time. Then when I asked one family if they may consider a MWF schedule since they now come part time in order to help accomidate another PT infant they threatened to pull their child. I am trying to make ends meet the best I can and I can not understand the logic of these families. Do they think I have a tree that grows money in my backyard and that I can hold a spot for everyone to come anytime that is conenient for them? This has left me so upset I don't know what to do with these demanding families, I wish I could turn back the clock and start again.

[Blackcat31]

I am a new daycare provider and I am wondering if I am just to sensitive to do this. I get back from my unpaid vacation to find out -one child will be leaving for a month (who last I heard was going to start coming full time) (no payment left to hold her spot as per contract), .

If they didn't pay you a deposit that is required according to your contract, then it is up to you to enforce the contract and get the deposit from them or do not save their space.

-one child is cutting back their days (more lost income),

I charge more for part time care then drop in. If I had a family wanting to drop to part time from full time, I would make sure they understand that full time ALWAYS trumps part time and they will be subject to losing their space all together if they drop down to part time. Plus 3 days of part time care here is almost as much as full time so the income loss wouldn't be that significant.

- Then when I asked one family if they may consider a MWF schedule since they now come part time in order to help accomidate another PT infant they threatened to pull their child. I am trying to make ends meet the best I can and I can not understand the logic of these families.

The logic is that families will always do what works best for them, as they should. If it doesn't work for you to do any days besides MWF then don't do it. I would simply tell them the only part time space you have is either MWF or T Th and that is it. I don't ask parents to accommodate me, I just let them know what I am willing to do and a varying schedule is not something I will do.

Do they think I have a tree that grows money in my backyard and that I can hold a spot for everyone to come anytime that is conenient for them? This has left me so upset I don't know what to do with these demanding families, I wish I could turn back the clock and start again.

It isn't that they think you have a money tree, although I wish we all did , it is just that they are looking out for themselves and we all do that. It is human nature. If you can't afford to hold a spot for any of them, don't do it. Advertise and find replacement families. You arein charge of your business and if you don't take charge, you get walked on.

I am sorry you are going through this at all. Child care is a tough business and not one where out income is ever guaranteed so you have to do what works for you.

[BumbleBee]

it may sound bad to you, but I find that because I'm neutral that parents need to vent too. I don't mind because most parents don't have anyone to complain too.

Sorry, I should have clarified. The parents I was talking about are my own parents, not daycare parents.

Good advice and I will keep that in mind for next time. Thanks!

[Bookworm]

You know how some of you post about kids with shoes too small? Well I have the opposite problem. Would it physically kill you to buy shoes that fit. I get that they want superhero shoes but if they don't have them in their size don't buy them. DCB ran out of 2 sizes too small shoes 4x today on the playground. Why can't they realize that their kids will never grow into them because they are usually torn up in 2 months.

[AmyLeigh]

Just when I started to think I would miss the SA boys....they reminded me why I won't (well much, anyway). Fighting, whining, and a temper tantrum. Of course it didn't help that the parents decided to keep them out late last night either.....

[daycarediva]

my SA dcg that is aging out is DRIVING ME INSANE today! She interrupted circle time about 100x (I'm not even exaggerating) she interrupted every parent at drop off today, I can't finish a page in a picture book without her input! The icing on the cake was I got all the kids down for a nap, and the big kids are outside playing, I ran in to go to the bathroom and was washing my face while reveling in the peace and quiet. Knock on the door. GUESS WHO!? No, she didn't need to go to the bathroom, she wanted to tell me what she was doing outside. I had to bite my lip (LITERALLY) before I said "I don't care!"

She's 12, not 2. Really? Just REALLY!?