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So annoyed right now! Been looking forward to having 2 full weeks off at Christmas/New year's since our school calendar came out in August. Dcm works for a different district and told me today they have to go back the day after New Year's, so now I have to decide if I am going to cut my vacation basically 4 days short so I can watch her daughter Th./F or leave her stranded with no care.- Flag
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So annoyed right now! Been looking forward to having 2 full weeks off at Christmas/New year's since our school calendar came out in August. Dcm works for a different district and told me today they have to go back the day after New Year's, so now I have to decide if I am going to cut my vacation basically 4 days short so I can watch her daughter Th./F or leave her stranded with no care.- Flag
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So annoyed right now! Been looking forward to having 2 full weeks off at Christmas/New year's since our school calendar came out in August. Dcm works for a different district and told me today they have to go back the day after New Year's, so now I have to decide if I am going to cut my vacation basically 4 days short so I can watch her daughter Th./F or leave her stranded with no care.
If you notified parents of your vacation days in advance, finding alternate care should be their problem not yours.
I say take the whole two weeks off, pass along any teen sitters you know that could be helpful for her and leave it at that.
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If your vacation was pre-planned, I would not worry about what that DCM is going to do for back up.
If you notified parents of your vacation days in advance, finding alternate care should be their problem not yours.
I say take the whole two weeks off, pass along any teen sitters you know that could be helpful for her and leave it at that.
You deserve the vacation you planned.mom has had since august to secure back up care. Don't let her problem be your problem.
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Thanks ladies. The problem is that I never actually gave her dates for my vacation. It was understood that I was going to follow the school calendar this year, as I have the past 2 years. Our school calendar doesn't match her school calendar, which is where the problem is. Oh well, I am thinking of closing for good at the end of the year to go back to teaching (subbing until I get my foot in the door) so all this might not matter anyway, as I wouldn't be taking her in January if I do that! Wish I could make up my mind about that, but that is an entirely different vent!- Flag
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Thanks ladies. The problem is that I never actually gave her dates for my vacation. It was understood that I was going to follow the school calendar this year, as I have the past 2 years. Our school calendar doesn't match her school calendar, which is where the problem is. Oh well, I am thinking of closing for good at the end of the year to go back to teaching (subbing until I get my foot in the door) so all this might not matter anyway, as I wouldn't be taking her in January if I do that! Wish I could make up my mind about that, but that is an entirely different vent!
I have DCM's that work in 3 different surrounding school districts but I make it clear to them that my school calendar may not match theirs so they need to do the cross checking etc to meet their scheduling needs.
Sorry to hear you are thinking about permanently closing... or maybe congratulations instead.. ?? Either way, there is still plenty of time for you to decide.- Flag
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I get paid the Friday *before* the week of care. I have always done it this way. I've never had any issues from this. Most of my families understand this. It works well because I've never been stiffed, and if I do have unpaid time coming up, I can tell parents to adjust their payments accordingly ahead of time.
I had told people that my time off for Thanksgiving was unpaid - I was taking Wednesday off this year as well as Thursday and Friday and just felt better personally taking it unpaid (you know sometimes I want a day off more then I want the money...) Two of my parents gave me the usual amount. I explained it was unpaid time, and I would apply the remaining balance to the following week, and they would just have to pay the remaining balance on Monday. On Monday one parent wrote a check that was more then the balance, and the other hasn't paid. I sat down and wrote out the math for both of them and gave them each a notice letting them know what their situation was and what would be owed.
The one who hasn't paid is CLUELESS. He honestly thought that he was current with payment - and this isn't the first time I've had to address payment issues with him! But my vent (sorry it took so long) He manages to make me feel like I am somehow in the wrong, he never comes out and says anything, just questions it as though he is trying to see if I am sneaking something by him. The kid is awesome for the most part and he does pay on time and in full (usually) but OH MY GOODNESS!!!!
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Why oh why did you have to go and ruin a good thing by changing your scent! Your "new and improved" scent makes me want to puke! My brand new bottle will be going right in the trash because it smells so bad. I loved the smell of the original pine sol it made the dreaded task of cleaning my house almost enjoyable. Please please please bring back the original scent! If not does anyone know where I can get some on the black market? I'm having pine sol withdrawal!- Flag
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My full time family has move to more part time and none of my interviews has panned out so I think I'm going to close up and go get an overnight job. Of course part time family is po'd and wants me to keep watching their kids because they have the craziest schedule that no one else wants to take on- Flag
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I get paid the Friday *before* the week of care. I have always done it this way. I've never had any issues from this. Most of my families understand this. It works well because I've never been stiffed, and if I do have unpaid time coming up, I can tell parents to adjust their payments accordingly ahead of time.
I had told people that my time off for Thanksgiving was unpaid - I was taking Wednesday off this year as well as Thursday and Friday and just felt better personally taking it unpaid (you know sometimes I want a day off more then I want the money...) Two of my parents gave me the usual amount. I explained it was unpaid time, and I would apply the remaining balance to the following week, and they would just have to pay the remaining balance on Monday. On Monday one parent wrote a check that was more then the balance, and the other hasn't paid. I sat down and wrote out the math for both of them and gave them each a notice letting them know what their situation was and what would be owed.
The one who hasn't paid is CLUELESS. He honestly thought that he was current with payment - and this isn't the first time I've had to address payment issues with him! But my vent (sorry it took so long) He manages to make me feel like I am somehow in the wrong, he never comes out and says anything, just questions it as though he is trying to see if I am sneaking something by him. The kid is awesome for the most part and he does pay on time and in full (usually) but OH MY GOODNESS!!!!
When he asks, questions or comments about his billing, you say "I have a pretty good method of accounting but if you feel there has been an error, just bring me your receipts, cancelled checks and any other paperwork that shows where you may have over paid and I will submit them to my accountant to see where there is an error. She does charge $50 an hour and I'll have to have that paid upfront for her services but I am sure she'll be able to figure out where the discrepancy is."
They will usually stammer and stutter and then say "Oh, well I am sure you know what you are doing"
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I have one that does that too.... my DCD works in a bank so he is always acting as if his accounting skills are better than mine but another provider I know who has been in this business for a long time taught me a handy little comeback that will stop this kind of passive-aggressive behavior.
When he asks, questions or comments about his billing, you say "I have a pretty good method of accounting but if you feel there has been an error, just bring me your receipts, cancelled checks and any other paperwork that shows where you may have over paid and I will submit them to my accountant to see where there is an error. She does charge $50 an hour and I'll have to have that paid upfront for her services but I am sure she'll be able to figure out where the discrepancy is."
They will usually stammer and stutter and then say "Oh, well I am sure you know what you are doing"
Works EVERYTIME.
My other vent is that my 4.5 yo dcb had diarrhea this morning while standing to urinate. It pretty much was splattered all over the bathroom. Gag. Thank goodness my assistant is here this morning and could keep the kids to the normal schedule. I've been scrapping poo off my walls- Flag
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I hate feeling annoyed with certain children. I have one who I was sort of devastated about losing at first that I'm now counting the days down! He has been a total terror lately. I had him and his sister yesterday and he was a total beast with her here. Jumping on my couch, hitting, throwing things... Took a short nap which threw off the whole day, waking up his sister and my DS as well which spiraled into what I was hoping was an early bedtime which turned into a late catnap and late bedtime.He is constantly yelling "You're mean!" "No!" and "MINE!" at the other kids, breaking rules he KNOWS, and it's seriously driving me crazy. He also has ruined 3 going on 4 sippy cups now. He bites the mouth piece and tears the non-spill valve and then they're ruined because they leak everywhere. I made a rule that he had to sit and drink his water next to me and put it up but now I've caught him stealing other kids' cups and biting them too! I told mom and she brought in a pack of take n toss cups that he BIT the lid off during meals and spilled everywhere. I went back to my Muchkin cheapies and he bit through another one!! So I got a 3rd thinking he's only here for this last month but guess what... within 2 weeks he bit through this one and almost bit through my son's as well! I finally gave him a cup without a lid and made him sit and drink what was in it and now he's stealing the other kids' cups again. I used to love this kid to death bit lately he is a TERROR!!! I just want to tell them to find care for him now but I just have to tough out the next 2 weeks. I am seriously at my wit's end and have never felt this way about a toddler and have 6 of my own boys.
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I give my daycare kids a small piece of candy/treat/sticker as they leave IF they get ready and leave while behaving. It is CONDITIONAL to being good while here since soooo many were acting crazy in front of parents.
Today my dck not only stomped through the house with his boots on when he knows better and was yelling for me to come look at him with his shoes on in the house, Mom did nothing and I had to go get him. Then he took a good 10 minutes to leave, acting CRAZY and dcm was already late picking up. When he was dressed to leave, he opened my front door and rang the doorbell. I told him to NOT do it again (as DCM laughed) or he wouldn't be getting anything. He rang it again! Then he asked me if he could have his sticker, I said no. Dcm said "ask nicely" and he said "Can I have my sticker now, PUH LEASE!" and I said "NO. You did not listen." He LOST IT, started screaming and crying, kicking his mother who told him "I have gum in the car and we can go buy you a whole page of stickers."
NEED NEW CLIENTS!- Flag
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