Venting Thread

[Blackcat31]

Just want to get in bed and cry today. Or maybe restart the day.
A friend of ours lost their mother and funeral services are today. Both my sub and my mother could not fill in today so DH would be going to services alone. I would have liked to have gone being that we are close with the family but didn't feel like I could close today to attend a friend's mothers services. So i get up and dcks start rolling in. DD wakes up and had one problem after another. She is a bit more needy due to some issues and i become completely overwhelmed. The morning spiraled out of control. Babies were crying, DD couldn't pull herself together to get to school and all the while DH slept in. The noise woke him and he sees me crying, DD melting down and babies crying. He ignored and went to shower. This job is hard. Being a mother is hard. Being a mother to a special needs child is hard. I usually can push through but it was different today. To watch someone ignore my struggle was hurtful.

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[Unregistered]

Unbelievably burned out. Took the 3rd sick day i've taken in 10 years yesterday, had a family give me 2 weeks notice because I'm unreliable. My SIL passed in January, I took 2 days then to regroup.

Everyone is getting ready to get 2 weeks notice, I'm looking for a job outside the home. I used to love this, now I cringe knowing that my house is going to be over-run each day by kids who aren't disciplined at home, parents who hold their 1 yo continuously - so he cries all day, and a dcg who throws up when she doesn't get her way.

[Josiegirl]

Unbelievably burned out. Took the 3rd sick day i've taken in 10 years yesterday, had a family give me 2 weeks notice because I'm unreliable. My SIL passed in January, I took 2 days then to regroup.

Everyone is getting ready to get 2 weeks notice, I'm looking for a job outside the home. I used to love this, now I cringe knowing that my house is going to be over-run each day by kids who aren't disciplined at home, parents who hold their 1 yo continuously - so he cries all day, and a dcg who throws up when she doesn't get her way.

I'm sorry you feel so burned out and used up.
People that complained you're unreliable?? They need to use a center. We are daycare providers. Family daycare providers. Usually we work alone. We are not God or super woman. If they want the convenience of care 24/7 let them use a center. I'll bet they take days when they need them!!
Hugs to you.....

[Josiegirl]

Just want to get in bed and cry today. Or maybe restart the day.
A friend of ours lost their mother and funeral services are today. Both my sub and my mother could not fill in today so DH would be going to services alone. I would have liked to have gone being that we are close with the family but didn't feel like I could close today to attend a friend's mothers services. So i get up and dcks start rolling in. DD wakes up and had one problem after another. She is a bit more needy due to some issues and i become completely overwhelmed. The morning spiraled out of control. Babies were crying, DD couldn't pull herself together to get to school and all the while DH slept in. The noise woke him and he sees me crying, DD melting down and babies crying. He ignored and went to shower. This job is hard. Being a mother is hard. Being a mother to a special needs child is hard. I usually can push through but it was different today. To watch someone ignore my struggle was hurtful.

Oh my DH needs a good smack upside da head!!
I'm sorry you didn't go to the services and so sorry about your friend's loss and yours as well.

Have another good cry, breathe deep, maybe have a glass of wine if you can, be kind to yourself.

[mommyneedsadayoff]

Last Friday: dcm texts me to see if I can watch dcks on Monday (I usually only watch them Fridays from 9:15-6). I say yes, no prob, see you then.

Monday morning at 8, I text dcm to make sure they are still planning to come and at regular time (she is flaky sometimes) and she texts back that there dad is bringing them and should be there any minute!

Spit coffee out and haul ass to get dressed and ready before they get here! Thanks for letting me know they will be here early! geez!

[Blackcat31]

Last Friday: dcm texts me to see if I can watch dcks on Monday (I usually only watch them Fridays from 9:15-6). I say yes, no prob, see you then.

Monday morning at 8, I text dcm to make sure they are still planning to come and at regular time (she is flaky sometimes) and she texts back that there dad is bringing them and should be there any minute!

Spit coffee out and haul ass to get dressed and ready before they get here! Thanks for letting me know they will be here early! geez!

I would have texted back and said you won't be available until regular time since she didn't mention any time changes...

Just because they didn't tell you and they were already on their way doesn't mean that you have to accept their failure to plan.

[mommyneedsadayoff]

I would have texted back and said you won't be available until regular time since she didn't mention any time changes...

Just because they didn't tell you and they were already on their way doesn't mean that you have to accept their failure to plan.

OMG I should have totally done that! The mom and dad are separated, so boy would he have been pissed at her!

I did send a pretty stern text saying she needs to notify me if they are coming early and she did apologize, but it sure does start my monday off on the wrong foot!

[jgcp]

Typed up a little letter for parents letting them know I would be updating and makeing some changes to the contract.I give it to the dcm that I have the most issues with and shes says" oh I hope I can find time to read this" its like 4 lines....and your the reason my contract is being changed grrrrrr.

[Unregistered]

I would have texted back and said you won't be available until regular time since she didn't mention any time changes...

Just because they didn't tell you and they were already on their way doesn't mean that you have to accept their failure to plan.

I am mommynedsaday off (forgot to log in) and guess who texts me at 7:30 this morning asking if I can watch her kids today and tomorrow as well!? She forgot they are out of school for the whole week, not just Monday! Who does that? And she texts me early on a morning when I have no other kids coming! In fact, my other dcg is out sick today, so I got the day off and NO, dcm, I don't want to watch your kids on my day off! This mom and her lack of planning drive me nuts!

[Blackcat31]

I am mommynedsaday off (forgot to log in) and guess who texts me at 7:30 this morning asking if I can watch her kids today and tomorrow as well!? She forgot they are out of school for the whole week, not just Monday! Who does that? And she texts me early on a morning when I have no other kids coming! In fact, my other dcg is out sick today, so I got the day off and NO, dcm, I don't want to watch your kids on my day off! This mom and her lack of planning drive me nuts!

You could start making her lack of planning a benefit for you....

ANY last minute schedule changes after Friday (I require schedules by Friday 5pm for the following week) are billed at 2x the normal rate so ANY time a family wants to add days or kids, it costs them double.

Makes them start being much better about planning in advance OR it pads my bank account....either way....win-win for me!!

[Unregistered]

Dcb1 is full of the cold, woke up crying after only 45 mins of sleep and woke dcg2 and dcb3 they all should have slept another 45 mins.

[MsLisa]

If they have a 2hr delay, i'm stuck with my usual insane morning crew for an extra 2hrs on top of a normal aftercare day.

If they DON'T have a 2hr delay, I was asked to do "babysitting" in the fitness room from 9am to noon.

I silently hope for the 2hr delay cause babies and toddlers scare me now that I deal strictly with SA-ers. Although I am a mom, anything under 5yrs are not my strong point. I hope it all comes back to me naturally.....

[MMk9987]

@Sally Because they have money and they think just because they have it their kids have to look the part. I have a 5 year old and he is very rough on shoes I would not think to buy him anything under 30 bucks i know they will be ruined next week. you have to ask why would he send her to daycare in nice shoes if he is worried about them getting ruined send her in play shoes.

[jgcp]

This DCM AGAIN had a snide remark at pickup....... OOOO it was so hard to keep my mouth shut but i did(she told me to remember to put new sign in sheets in folders, Im sorry i didnt know i needed a boss?. then when i just stood there she turned to me and asked if i heard her mmhmmm? I GOT IT).... I really deserve a reward for dealing with her BS!! Shes done at the end of May so im just counting down the days, not even going to offer to hold her spot. And i dont like her spawn of a child shes just like her mother::

[Unregistered]

Yes, dcm, if you plan to come late, then feed your child before you bring her! Same question every morning!