Venting Thread

[Sunshine74]

After being stuck inside for months, the temperatures are finally manageable. We are trying to get out every day now. It hant quite worked out yet, but we're getting there.

Today we went for our first walk since most of the sidewalks are finally clear. It was a little icy, but not too bad. Not only did it give us some much needed activity, but the dcg who is the toughest to get to sleep was the first one asleep today.happyface

Posted this at nap time today... they all woke up extra early.

No more celebrating until the day is over.

[Turquoise14]

Don't say you need to be twenty minutes earlier and then show up at your regular time. I wouldn't have minded staying in bed those twenty minutes....

[TheGoodLife]

Don't say you need to be twenty minutes earlier and then show up at your regular time. I wouldn't have minded staying in bed those twenty minutes....

Ugg, I had a DCM that always did that! Big pet peeve for me, I would sleep until 15 mins before my first DCF arrived each day! Especially on days my own DDs woke up early and we'd be snuggling in bed together until I had to get up and ready for drop offs. Getting up early just to sit and wait did not make me very happy!

[hope]

6:43 Sunday morning...my phone goes off. I'm startled because who would call at such an early hour on a Sunday morning. It must be an emergency. Nope. It's my neighbor asking advice for her child's ear infection because i guess she figures I'm the daycare lady. I do feel bad that her child is in pain but come on, use some common sense. Her husband works in securities. I think i will be making a 4am call tonight to ask for some financial planning advice. So much for sleeping in till 8am.

[MsLisa]

Today I learned....
That if I don't say goodbye to other childcare providers in the building then I'm a huge b**ch and my boss needs to be told about it.
Yeah, that happened yesterday/today and my boss just laughed and apologized TO ME about how I work with idiots. My boss is amazing sometimes. He knows I'm not there to make friends. I do my job very well, get paid, love these kids/classroom and go home. Friends are optional. Little does this 20-something tattle-tale know that I'm the next child care director when my boss leaves in a year. So keep trying to battle me....keep on digging that hole.

OHHHH and apparently if I hold a kid on my lap for the mere few minutes i'm in the Pre-K room, i'm being a bad provider.
Um, kids ask me to sit on my lap all the time. No one is favourited and I'm usually multi-playing while doing so. Apparently loving a 3yr old is bad and they need to be "big kids now". Mmmhhmmm. Watch me deny a child a snuggle. HA! Nope.

[Ariana]

My vent for today:

I am pretty sure I am suffering from caregiver burnout. I am hating running a home daycare right now. My own child is a nightmare when kids are in my house and as much as I want her to learn to control her emotions, I am not sure I can control my own. I end every single day by crawling up to my bedroom to lie in bed for the rest of the evening. I barely spend any time with my older child when she gets home from school because I am so so done.

I am not sure what to do. I want to have my own income and I want o be home with my children but I am slowly dying inside. Ugh :dislike:

[Thriftylady]

My vent for today:

I am pretty sure I am suffering from caregiver burnout. I am hating running a home daycare right now. My own child is a nightmare when kids are in my house and as much as I want her to learn to control her emotions, I am not sure I can control my own. I end every single day by crawling up to my bedroom to lie in bed for the rest of the evening. I barely spend any time with my older child when she gets home from school because I am so so done.

I am not sure what to do. I want to have my own income and I want o be home with my children but I am slowly dying inside. Ugh :dislike:

Does it have anything to do with the families you have now? If so that can be fixed.

[Unregistered]

I feel your pain

I COMPLETELY understand the way you feel. Including my daughter acting terrible. I will be ending my childcare business the 2nd week of June!

[Ariana]

I am not sure if it has anything to do with the families. I have one kid who is in my opinion developmentally delayed and I just termed a family because their kid was a nightmare. I just can't seem to find decent kids these days. They all have issues, plus the issues I am having with my daughter and it's making for an extremely stressful work environment. I keep talking to my husband about quitting and I am lucky that we don't need my income but I just hate not having my own money or contributing financially. Plus being a stay at home mom is so boring!! I hate playdates etc. Basically I am super depressed. I feel zero joy anymore....i am rambling :confused:

[Patches]

I am not sure if it has anything to do with the families. I have one kid who is in my opinion developmentally delayed and I just termed a family because their kid was a nightmare. I just can't seem to find decent kids these days. They all have issues, plus the issues I am having with my daughter and it's making for an extremely stressful work environment. I keep talking to my husband about quitting and I am lucky that we don't need my income but I just hate not having my own money or contributing financially. Plus being a stay at home mom is so boring!! I hate playdates etc. Basically I am super depressed. I feel zero joy anymore....i am rambling :confused:

Maybe you should take a vacation? And maybe downsize your group a bit?

[kathiemarie]

I am not sure if it has anything to do with the families. I have one kid who is in my opinion developmentally delayed and I just termed a family because their kid was a nightmare. I just can't seem to find decent kids these days. They all have issues, plus the issues I am having with my daughter and it's making for an extremely stressful work environment. I keep talking to my husband about quitting and I am lucky that we don't need my income but I just hate not having my own money or contributing financially. Plus being a stay at home mom is so boring!! I hate playdates etc. Basically I am super depressed. I feel zero joy anymore....i am rambling :confused:

Would your husband be ok with you getting a night time job 2 nights a week? I know when my own were younger, before I started DC, I worked retail a couple nights a week. It was just perfect. Made money, talked to other adults etc.

[Ariana]

Maybe you should take a vacation? And maybe downsize your group a bit?

I would love to if it didn't include my kids :: i honestly can't downsize anymore....i have one kid 2 days a week. I can't seem to find normal kids that I want to keep. I just had to term a crazy kid just last week. I just can't handle it anymore. I feel like such a failure

[Thriftylady]

I am not sure if it has anything to do with the families. I have one kid who is in my opinion developmentally delayed and I just termed a family because their kid was a nightmare. I just can't seem to find decent kids these days. They all have issues, plus the issues I am having with my daughter and it's making for an extremely stressful work environment. I keep talking to my husband about quitting and I am lucky that we don't need my income but I just hate not having my own money or contributing financially. Plus being a stay at home mom is so boring!! I hate playdates etc. Basically I am super depressed. I feel zero joy anymore....i am rambling :confused:

I might be talking to my doctor about the depression. Took me years to accept I needed to do something. I don't regret it for a minute. I still have bad days, but not like before.

[Ariana]

Thriftylady did you know you had depression outside of caregiver burnout? I have only recently started feeling like this. I think being a stay at home mom plus a daycare provider for the past 5 years is what's causing all of this. Would that still warrant a trip to see my DR? I just don't want to go on meds for something that is environmentally related you know? But it could help....i just don't know what to do. I need better coping skills that's for sure.

[Indoorvoice]

Thriftylady did you know you had depression outside of caregiver burnout? I have only recently started feeling like this. I think being a stay at home mom plus a daycare provider for the past 5 years is what's causing all of this. Would that still warrant a trip to see my DR? I just don't want to go on meds for something that is environmentally related you know? But it could help....i just don't know what to do. I need better coping skills that's for sure.

Just wanted to chime in to say that you don't necessarily HAVE to take meds for depression. Yes many people absolutely need the meds to balance them out, but when I had situational depression, I sought out a psychologist to talk to first. I learned so many lifelong skills and learned how to alter my behavior and thoughts to help my moods and got over my depression without meds. Definitely at least see your Dr. You shouldn't have to feel so low everyday just because of your job. I'll be thinking of you! It's tough!