Daycare Provider/Facebook Posts

[Cat Herder]

And I can appreciate that...but was I expected to find a new provider in 24 hours or something? I posted looking for opinions Thursday afternoon, new provider Friday? Again, this was a huge decision to make, weighing all the pros and cons of the situation. Confront/not confront, ignore it/move on, etc. I don't know if you have ever had to interview DCP's before, but it's INCREDIBLY hard to find someone that you trust 100% to essentially be 'mom' while you're gone all day at work (insert working mom's guilt here). There's some skeevy people out there!!

I honestly do appreciate all of the responses! Hearing the DCP point of view has been very helpful in making a decision.

I don't think I saw anything stating that you had decided to pull him, 100%, until after Jen said that.

Maybe I missed it as well? If so I am so sorry. I really appreciate hearing a parents view as well. I wish many more would register and stick around.

I did interview with providers in the past and yeah it was awful (I am a PITA Mom). You have an opportunity here that you may not see. If you register you can private message providers here and get some honest help finding a good one in your area... Who knows each others reputations or habits better???

We could all learn from one another. YKWIM? Please stick around.

[Cat Herder]

I feel a group hug coming on...

If women could come together to build each other up we could rule the world.....

[jen]

I think I feel a song coming on...I'm just not sure if it's the Lion King...

"Can you feel the love tonight..." OR Michael Jackson...

"We are the world, we are the ones who make a brighter day..."

[jen]

Well Thank You!!

Even when I am overly literal or the days I have too much caffeine and am a smart alec??!!! ::::::

We do have a great group here...

ESPECIALLY then!

[MyAngels]

If women could come together to build each other up we could rule the world.....

Agreed - I have already convinced my entire family that I do, in fact, rule the world ::. I'm just trying to figure out how I can expand my "kingdom" to the rest of the world .

[Blackcat31]

"They say that man is mighty;
He governs land and sea,
He wields a mighty scepter
O'er lesser powers that be.
But a mightier power and stronger
man from his throne has hurled
For the hand that rocks the cradle
Is the hand that rules the world."
~ William Ross Wallace

[Unregistered]

I'm sorry if I didn't say for sure that I was going to pull him...jeez, maybe I didn't....both my head & heart are seriously pulled in about 5 different directions trying to figure out what is best for him. We're looking for new providers...I'm trying to figure out if we could afford me being at SAHM...could I get a part time job instead...if I could just not ever sleep, I could work 3rd shift and be home with him all day. And mop the floors and get all the laundry done, too. Problem solved, and my house will be squeaky clean! :P

You guys are a great group! It's nice that you have this forum to share bits of your day and to get the support and help of others in your shoes!

To ask an OT question...have you guys found that being a DCP has been (like parenthood) "the toughest job you've ever loved"? If you had a chance to do it all over, would you choose this as your career again?

[lulu]

Oooh! I can post when I'm logged in again!

Yay! Haha - it's the little things that make me happy.

[Cat Herder]

To ask an OT question...have you guys found that being a DCP has been (like parenthood) "the toughest job you've ever loved"? If you had a chance to do it all over, would you choose this as your career again?

I would. It is the only job that allows me to:

1. Be with my kids before and after school while still meeting my financial obligations.

2. Have a quiet lunch with my husband on his 2-3 days off per week (24/72 hour schedule), while our kids are in school. (Naptime)

3. Have 100% family time on weekends (and nights) since all the housework and laundry is done during the week.

4. Be free of downsizing or forced overtime (up to 72 hours straight at times). No fuel, uniform or shift meal costs. Sleep in my own bed at night.

5. Be home for emergency weather school closings. Not have to get my kids out or find emergency care (my other job is mandatory attendance).

6. Be able to care for elderly parents during bed rest/rehab periods.

7. Be able to make my own schedule, rules and payscale.

I am sure I could think of a million other things if I had enough time. For me it is the ONLY way I could be the wife, mother, sister and daughter I set out to be.

[Country Kids]

I would do it again but only while my children were little. It hasn't worked that well not that they are older at least not this year. The last 2-3 years I was able to do preschool only in the mornings and have afternoons off! I actually worked my childrens school schedules and it was fabulous. Well with the economy I have had to go back to full time and I am absolutely grateful I was able to get full time children but my own children/husband/my health are really suffering from it. I'm actually thinking of working in the schools so that I can be with my own children more on their days off/summer and not feel the guilt of not being able to spend time with them or do things with them. I don't have a helper anymore-due to health reason on her part I had to let her go and she had been her 12 years so I really have a hard time allowing someone else in my home when I'm not here.

It is a great career and I have had great parents! My whole life though I have always wanted to be a wife and SAHM and that only. I am very happy when I have been able to do that and find myself very overwhelmed trying to work full-time, be a wife, mom, etc. My husband had even noticed the difference in me. So hats off to those who are able to find the balance in it but I never have. I would love to hear from those who have and how they have done it.

[Unregistered]

don't unfriend (hide if you want to change your perspective- then you can read later)

Don't confront....

Do listen to your instincts, but also realize that ignorance isn't bliss. You may know a lot less about how your new provider really feels.

Do ask how's it going Every Day.

Do ask if there is anything she needs and offer to help in any way.

Do keep your ears and eyes open and talk to your kiddo about their day.

Do look for a new spot, but also be realistic about the fact that you have a good view of this one. Are there any other issues, really?

I have totally dodged a few DCPs for their FB profiles.

[Unregistered]

Hello,

What was the outcome of your situation???

[Patches]

Ugh!!!!

2011! Really?!