Daycare Provider/Facebook Posts

[greenhouse]

Thanks for your replies!

I totally understand that everyone needs to vent...I do, you do, we all do! But there is a time and a place and certain people to do it with. She should have made a seperate account for work and one for freinds where she can complain away and none of us would know...

She never names names, but she's always complaining about it being Monday, how she needs more long weekends, vacations, "Hopeless" dreams of a day off, and this is a beauty: "Wish there was one day where I didn't have to listen to a child cry and scream for what seems like hours!! Ahhhh- I need a day off!!"

I mean, come on!

#1 she shouldn't have friended you. #2 being a day care provider, or even just a mom of young kids can be overwhelming. I don't see anything too heinous about wishing for more vacation. If she was saying "I hate these little brats!!" then that is different. Is the care excellent? Does she seem overtaxed in person? Don't read too much into FB vents about being tired from watching small children for 10 hours a day. If the tone of the posts gets hateful or something like that then I would worry. Still can't believe she would friend a client. That's totally asking for trouble. GL.

[Unregistered]

She just came back from a few days off (Monday & Tuesday) and today she posted that she's already in need of another vacation. C'mon, she's been back a few hours and she's already whining. It just makes me think she does not like her job!!!

The care is okay, but she doesn't come close to the level of care he got with his old provider (she had to close to care for her elderly MIL).

I saw today she has a seperate fb account for her daycare. She just doesnt use it.

[Blackcat31]

Personally, I would find alternate care and then explain exactly why you are leaving so she understands that although the job may be stressful and difficult at times, posting (ie whining, complaining and/or bitching) on facebook is completely unprofessional. You leaving and pointing out why may help future families she enrolls. Good luck!

[jen]

She just came back from a few days off (Monday & Tuesday) and today she posted that she's already in need of another vacation. C'mon, she's been back a few hours and she's already whining. It just makes me think she does not like her job!!!

The care is okay, but she doesn't come close to the level of care he got with his old provider (she had to close to care for her elderly MIL).

I saw today she has a seperate fb account for her daycare. She just doesnt use it.

We can (and did) offer you lots of advice and support.

At this point, you are doing EXACTLY what she is doing...just complaining without doing anything. If she is unhappy doing daycare, she should either address the problems that are making her unhappy or quit. If you are unhappy with your provider, you should address the problems or move on.

[Unregistered]

I have a list of approx 50 providers I am sifting through, which I started gathering last week, so yes I am doing something about it. I just came on to give out an update since I had so many responses to my original post.

[Unregistered]

And jen, I think you should also understand that making the decision to move my son is not one to be taken lightly. Or the decision to confront her, which I would have to think would not end well. I didn't think I was coming off as complaining in my posts, I was merely trying to tell everyone what was going on. I literally have been dumbfounded by what she has been saying and I thought this was the place to share it. I have expressed my appreciation for all of the replies in almost every post I have made. Hearing all the different POV's has been great, coming from the providers themselves. I'm glad to hear most of you would not tolerate that kind of unprofessionalism.

[littlemissmuffet]

And jen, I think you should also understand that making the decision to move my son is not one to be taken lightly. Or the decision to confront her, which I would have to think would not end well. I didn't think I was coming off as complaining in my posts, I was merely trying to tell everyone what was going on. I literally have been dumbfounded by what she has been saying and I thought this was the place to share it. I have expressed my appreciation for all of the replies in almost every post I have made. Hearing all the different POV's has been great, coming from the providers themselves. I'm glad to hear most of you would not tolerate that kind of unprofessionalism.

This IS the place to come and share these things! Don't let anyone scare you off.
I am glad you came back with updates... lots of people post their situation and ask advice or for some input then we never hear back on the outcome or end result. I think also that these types of topics will help other providers who are making the same mistakes - seeing things from a parent's perspective!

I hope that you find the right person to care for your son! Let us know.

[CheekyChick]

Call me paranoid, but her being so blatant about her being unhappy in her job is a HUGE red flag. Unfriending her doesn't solve the problem - it just hides it from your eyes. I would address this issue with her immediately. If she doesn't have a good excuse for her behavior - find another provider.

[MyAngels]

This IS the place to come and share these things! Don't let anyone scare you off.
I am glad you came back with updates... lots of people post their situation and ask advice or for some input then we never hear back on the outcome or end result. I think also that these types of topics will help other providers who are making the same mistakes - seeing things from a parent's perspective!

I hope that you find the right person to care for your son! Let us know.

I agree with this .

It's not easy finding a new provider, but this experience will help you find someone perfect for your family. Good luck!

[Unregistered]

Thanks guys!

This is definitely not an easy situation to deal with, but I think it's in our sons best interest to move him...and will give us peace of mind that he is being loved during the day.

I have a couple leads on some new providers, so hopefully one of them will work out. I'll keep you posted!

[Cat Herder]

This IS the place to come and share these things! Don't let anyone scare you off.
I am glad you came back with updates... lots of people post their situation and ask advice or for some input then we never hear back on the outcome or end result. I think also that these types of topics will help other providers who are making the same mistakes - seeing things from a parent's perspective!

I hope that you find the right person to care for your son! Let us know.

I don't think Jen was trying to scare her off. I think she was telling her the truth. First she offered support/sympathy, now she wants Mom to step up with a plan.

It is not her style to be mean...she is one smart cookie who has a gift for seeing through the clutter to see the issue at hand. I like her posts very much for that reason.

IMHO, THAT is what we are here for...EMPOWERMENT, not to enable the bad patterns to continue, YKWIM?

Sometimes we need a pat on the head; sometimes we need a foot to the arse....::::

[Unregistered]

And I can appreciate that...but was I expected to find a new provider in 24 hours or something? I posted looking for opinions Thursday afternoon, new provider Friday? Again, this was a huge decision to make, weighing all the pros and cons of the situation. Confront/not confront, ignore it/move on, etc. I don't know if you have ever had to interview DCP's before, but it's INCREDIBLY hard to find someone that you trust 100% to essentially be 'mom' while you're gone all day at work (insert working mom's guilt here). There's some skeevy people out there!!

I honestly do appreciate all of the responses! Hearing the DCP point of view has been very helpful in making a decision.

[jen]

I don't think Jen was trying to scare her off. I think she was telling her the truth. First she offered support/sympathy, now she wants Mom to step up with a plan.

It is not her style to be mean...she is one smart cookie who has a gift for seeing through the clutter to see the issue at hand. I like her posts very much for that reason.

IMHO, THAT is what we are here for...EMPOWERMENT, not to enable the bad patterns to continue, YKWIM?

Sometimes we need a pat on the head; sometimes we need a foot to the arse....::::

Thank you!! I really wasn't trying to scare her off! You just get "it"!

I happen to be a huge fan of yours, you know!

[Cat Herder]

Thank you!! I really wasn't trying to scare her off! You just get "it"!

I happen to be a huge fan of yours, you know!

Well Thank You!!

Even when I am overly literal or the days I have too much caffeine and am a smart alec??!!! ::::::

We do have a great group here...

[MyAngels]

I feel a group hug coming on...