It Is My Hope...

[jen]

lets stop picking on unregistered, now R&R. I think she makes some valid points and reading her posts she is not a troll and is really an advocate for the kids, even if you don't agree with her, her opinions, or her advice.

lets breathe and give her a chance.

My intent wasn't to "pick on her" it was to offer some ideas on how to better express her opinons to the group.

[DCMomOf3]

Sorry I was not picking on anyone, I am just taken back by some of the responses.. and If I were making responses like that I would want someone to give me a clue....(gosh why do I feel like I'm in grade school getting sent to the principal’s office....) I was too harsh and didn't mean to be...

My post wasn't directed at any one person.

She has been getting a lot of flack in a few threads now and I don't like a group of people thinking they can pick on someone who is trying to give opinions and help. We all are here for the same reasons, to help the kids who go to daycare and to help the providers to do the best we can.

[daycare]

I think it's an initiation??? . I think lots of us aren't careful with our first few posts and jump in with opinions rather than facts????

True... It is also hard online to give advice sometimes, as you don't know someones intentions' or tone....
I'm sure if we met in person and the advice was given, we would all have accepted it much better.....(hopefully)

[Candyland]

Regarding "Unregistered"

I really would like to see all the "unregistered guests" here registered or not have the opportunity to "speak their mind" anonymously.

I asked this a few months ago. hey, I don't mind people coming around and reading what's on this site, but to have the gall to speak their mind and not be reistered here, well, I believe "speaking your mind" on this site is a privilege, not a right.

Michael??

[Zoe]

I'm having a hard time with this, honestly, because of what the forum has become these last few days. I haven't responded to this thread (or any of the threads-turned-arguments) as I'm still trying to figure R&R out. If she is willing to share advice, then great! Welcome!

But the majority of what I've seen have been attacks IMO and it's turning what I once viewed as a community forum into something more ugly.

I'm open to suggestions and other views of opinions....not personal attacks. I hope things turn around soon, because I'm almost feeling like we're losing our support system lately!

[Michael]

I think it's an initiation??? . I think lots of us aren't careful with our first few posts and jump in with opinions rather than facts????

Yes, no hazing allowed

[Michael]

True... It is also hard online to give advice sometimes, as you don't know someones intentions' or tone....

True, that is what the smileys are for

[Michael]

I really would like to see all the "unregistered guests" here registered or not have the opportunity to "speak their mind" anonymously.

I asked this a few months ago. hey, I don't mind people coming around and reading what's on this site, but to have the gall to speak their mind and not be reistered here, well, I believe "speaking your mind" on this site is a privilege, not a right.

Michael??

This sounds like an attack on my moderation. (j/k) I choose which unregistered posts get into the forum. As another member stated, it is your right to ignore threads that offend you. I personally do not think this thread is too offensive but that is my opinion.

[daycare]

love all the faces..........
I think that we all just need a cyber hug!!!!!

[youretooloud]

She has been getting a lot of flack in a few threads now and I don't like a group of people thinking they can pick on someone who is trying to give opinions and help. W

I don't think it's that we are actually picking on her... I, personally don't think she's for real. If I honestly thought she really is who she claims to be, and was actually trying to make her point, I'd have been extremely nice, and I would respectfully listen. But, since, I really, really think she's lying, I'm not taking her too seriously.

I have only been here for a very short time, but, I haven't seen anything on this board that makes me think children are in danger or being treated unprofessionally. (which is what she claims) I tried to imagine a thread on here that a teacher would copy and hand out to her students as a teaching tool.

[Crystal]

WOW! There have been an awful lot of assumptions and personal insults thrown around in here. Perhaps the OP may have been referring to these types of barbs in her OP when speaking of unprofessionalism and wondering if some should be providers? :confused:

I am sorry the OP has been "spoken to" in the manner she has. I imagine there were several now registered members here who use to lurk and post anonymous who would hev headed for the hills had they been treated in the same regard.

For those of you who are newer here, if you spend a little time doing some reading from (even recent) history, you will find LOTS of negative and sometimes even hateful things stated about children and families by providers who claim to be nurturing and caring. Some of it is rather repulsive, so I can see why the OP's first impression was not so favorable.

[Hunni Bee]

I come here mainly to ask advice and see if there's something I can use in my classroom. I have actually found some new ways of doing things that have worked, so in my opinion this board is well worth its weight in gigabytes . I sometimes worry that people will thing I'm not such a good provider because you probably tell I'm a young person, and I ask a lot of questions...but everybody learned SOMETHING from somewhere. Some people were born knowing how to be perfect child care providers...I'm not one of those people and I give the best I have to my kids, but I need feedback one some things and I cant always get it from my co-workers. I come here.

It seems the majority of the members on this site run/work in family day homes...I work in a center. When you have a FDH, you have more freedom to make and enforce your policies. Centers are kind of at the mercy of the parents, and parents will sometimes run up the front side of you and down the back, especially if you're giving and understanding. Not because parents are bad people, they just figure its their kid, so things should go their way. We dont hate, dislike or disrespect our parents. We just get frustrated...when you have a clearly defined illness policy, and a parent knowingly puts a 3 year old with a 101-degree-fever on the daycare van at 6:45 am, and then becomes unreachable until 3 pm...you get frustrated and you need to vent...to someone else besides the parent.

...That's what I see here on this board...providers sharing information, advice and stories, supporting each other and venting...I've never heard/seen anyone saying anything that "frightened" me (maybe a few things said/done in poor taste)...I have a Bachelor's of Social Work degree with specialization in...you guessed it...RESOURCE AND REFERRAL. But I havent been here long...so maybe I missed it.

[Aya477]

I've posted this before but I too have been astonished at many remarks, suggestions, and/or comments on how situations have been handled by providers on this forum. I did say "wow, if my provider did that I would be angry". I've also shared this forum with several friends who could not believe many of the comments posted here. I am not trying to discount the moments where good advice is given, however. Those instances do happen. Simply stated, I can relate to OP's opinion.

[Candyland]

This sounds like an attack on my moderation. (j/k) I choose which unregistered posts get into the forum. As another member stated, it is your right to ignore threads that offend you. I personally do not think this thread is too offensive but that is my opinion.

LOL - I'm glad you know I wasn't attacking you.

And I guess, that's what I will have to do...ignore those threads, though I wasn't offended at what was said, just the fact that she/he could say it and remain "anonymous".

[Cat Herder]

I keep hearing about these posts....but no examples.... Please post a link to the specific threads you are talking about.

Copy and paste, multi-quote, screen shot, smoke signal....anything...

Please??