It Is My Hope...

[blueclouds29]

My coworkers are under the age of 2 and i word alone! No breaks cause infants don't have a 1 to 3 nap. Lunch is sometimes a sandwich thrown together in a hurry before another bottle is made.
Thankfully i do have parents that tell me how much they appreciate me and that i'm doing a great job.
It is a stressful job specially when you work 9 hours alone with job infants. Makes for a long hard day.

[Childminder]

i have no idea why it posted twice

Some how it corrected you spelling mistake.

[SilverSabre25]

I don't feel bad at all about complaining about certain problems in this job.

Most jobs have coworkers. My coworkers have a 7:00 p.m bedtime, and start each morning off with "Guess which panties I have on today!!!!"

roflmao!!!

as for the OP...I agree with the people who say that you need to register and share exact concerns. It'd be more helpful.

I also kind of agree that it's more likely a troll, as someone "official" who really, truly was concerned, probably would have registered in the first place.

If you can't see through the venting and whining to the great group of friends who provide support, laughter, and words of wisdom to each other, making an isolated job see a little less isolated, making a stressful job a little less stressful, and making a lonely job a little less lonely, then you probably haven't ever actually worked in the field--and I don't mean in a daycare center either. Most of us are home daycare providers, spending 10+hours a day in the company of people who depend on us for everything...and many of whom can barely speak in full, coherent sentences (and even if they can...no one who spends more than 20 minutes in the company of a child under the age of about 7 can tell me that they're always coherent. Even when they're speaking perfect English it doesn't always make much sense!!)

Stick around; register; share your wisdom and advice from the "other side"...and see that even though we may whine, moan, complain, bitch, vent, and generally be um, female, (), we're a group of mostly great providers who are only trying to do what's best by our daycare kids, daycare families, and ourselves--a balance that is VERY hard to achieve.

We're also human. Give us a break.

[Michael]

Not to sound against everyone, but I can see where the original comment comes from. Sometimes I've read on this board about bashing kids and parents. There's a difference between bashing and venting. Not to say that everyone can have "one of those days", and make a mistake or whatnot. I've been on this board for years and there have been times I've just stopped coming on cuz it was so negative and I really needed more support and a stress release, some advice, some laughs, or just someone to talk to who also does childcare. Lately, it's been a lot better, so I'm back. I have to say it's been much more uplifting as of late and that's a good thing
I don't think the poster meant to insult the whole lot. Just as we can sometimes misinterpret what someone writes out the main thing it comes off as blunt, to the point, and rather general in the accusations.

TO REITERATE...I do love coming to this board at this time and there's a lot of great providers on here!! I just tend to see both sides of issues that's all. I mean NO harm in my response.

I remember those days and agree with you. I am more involved now then I was then. We removed a couple of members at that time and this forum is the better for it.

[Unregistered]

Yaya and those who can't do - Teach. Oh and I'm the Queen of England BTW.

I'm so sorry you work with children.
I can't imagine how sarcastic and judgemental you must be around children or reagrding parents when they aren't aorund right in front of the kids.
You give providers a bad name.
I have worked as a teacher for years and now I work with providers because I earned an advanced degree and wanted to provide help to providers. I provide home support to them which means going in at naptime and assisting them in solving problems. My job is to mediate between the state and providers and provide them with support.
I can't speak for the r&r agency that referred one of your members. I certainly wouldn't do that.
When parents are disrespectful you have a right to terminate their contracts. You provide the care. It is a choice. If you feel you can't 'fill' a vacant spot and have to tolerate rude parents then mabe you need to reevaluate the quality of care. If you are of quality you should have a reputation that keeps you full, even in rural areas (I serve a rural county and urban county).
No sense in registering. I don't care to participate in negative discussions about parents and children or provide you with a naptime vent. I am so glad I meet so many providers more positive than yourselves who recognize that parents and children are their customers.
No one will ever take child care providers seriously as long as some continue to be so unprofessional.
For those of you who care, the book "Finding Your Smile Again" is a great one on burnout.

[Kaddidle Care]

Thank you very much. My life is over. I am a terrible person.

Coming on to a message board and starting an inflammatory thread isn't the best way to start off making friends.

We are all entitled to our own opinions. You may choose to read it or not. Life is full of choices.

I wonder if this person even has any children of her own. It's not all textbooks honey.

[DBug]

I'm so sorry you work with children.
I can't imagine how sarcastic and judgemental you must be around children or reagrding parents when they aren't aorund right in front of the kids.
You give providers a bad name.
I have worked as a teacher for years and now I work with providers because I earned an advanced degree and wanted to provide help to providers. I provide home support to them which means going in at naptime and assisting them in solving problems. My job is to mediate between the state and providers and provide them with support.
I can't speak for the r&r agency that referred one of your members. I certainly wouldn't do that.
When parents are disrespectful you have a right to terminate their contracts. You provide the care. It is a choice. If you feel you can't 'fill' a vacant spot and have to tolerate rude parents then mabe you need to reevaluate the quality of care. If you are of quality you should have a reputation that keeps you full, even in rural areas (I serve a rural county and urban county).
No sense in registering. I don't care to participate in negative discussions about parents and children or provide you with a naptime vent. I am so glad I meet so many providers more positive than yourselves who recognize that parents and children are their customers.
No one will ever take child care providers seriously as long as some continue to be so unprofessional.
For those of you who care, the book "Finding Your Smile Again" is a great one on burnout.

This makes me sad .

The one thing I have noticed about this forum is that if one of us IS being unprofessional or disrespectful in how we treat parents or children, someone else is usually pretty quick to point it out in a (usually) respectful way. I think that's what's so great about it. I'm in Canada and unlicensed, so I don't have a licensor to go to with questions or concerns. Coming here has given me a different perspective on many things (bathing with children comes to mind ), and I value this forum as much as anyone else might value their R&R people.

However, I agree with the others -- I would enjoy hearing the opinions of someone in the business, who has seen how many different providers run their business, and who has offered advice on many different situations to those providers. I think any extra POV's are great!

[morgan24]

I'm so sorry you work with children.
I can't imagine how sarcastic and judgemental you must be around children or reagrding parents when they aren't aorund right in front of the kids.
You give providers a bad name.
I have worked as a teacher for years and now I work with providers because I earned an advanced degree and wanted to provide help to providers. I provide home support to them which means going in at naptime and assisting them in solving problems. My job is to mediate between the state and providers and provide them with support.
I can't speak for the r&r agency that referred one of your members. I certainly wouldn't do that.
When parents are disrespectful you have a right to terminate their contracts. You provide the care. It is a choice. If you feel you can't 'fill' a vacant spot and have to tolerate rude parents then mabe you need to reevaluate the quality of care. If you are of quality you should have a reputation that keeps you full, even in rural areas (I serve a rural county and urban county).
No sense in registering. I don't care to participate in negative discussions about parents and children or provide you with a naptime vent. I am so glad I meet so many providers more positive than yourselves who recognize that parents and children are their customers.
No one will ever take child care providers seriously as long as some continue to be so unprofessional.
For those of you who care, the book "Finding Your Smile Again" is a great one on burnout.

I think that you need to understand your first post was almost attacking. If you read something you found offensive why don't you address that issue instead of making a negative comment about everyone. You did not say where your from or what r & r you represent. It's like if I need to address and issue with a parent, sending out a note to all of them, when only one of them needs it. I would not do that I would discuss it only with the parent that I was having the problem. That is what you did you found something that you found to be negative and lumped everyone together instead of addressing whatever it was that you had a issue with.

I don't agree that parents are our customers and I'm not their employee. I prefer to work together with them to resolve any issues we may have come up.

I personally find your opinions of people who you are suppose to help, very offensive. I would never take a class from someone who has an "advanced degree" but has such a low opinion of providers. I feel bad for the group of providers that you work with, convincing them that their parents and children are their customers.

Thanks for the advice on the book "Finding Your Smile Again" but it's not needed because I never misplaced it, because I come here and get support or they let me vent my anger without judging, from my great provider friends.

[treehugger82]

I'm so sorry you work with children.
I can't imagine how sarcastic and judgemental you must be around children or reagrding parents when they aren't aorund right in front of the kids.
You give providers a bad name.
I have worked as a teacher for years and now I work with providers because I earned an advanced degree and wanted to provide help to providers. I provide home support to them which means going in at naptime and assisting them in solving problems. My job is to mediate between the state and providers and provide them with support.
I can't speak for the r&r agency that referred one of your members. I certainly wouldn't do that.
When parents are disrespectful you have a right to terminate their contracts. You provide the care. It is a choice. If you feel you can't 'fill' a vacant spot and have to tolerate rude parents then mabe you need to reevaluate the quality of care. If you are of quality you should have a reputation that keeps you full, even in rural areas (I serve a rural county and urban county).
No sense in registering. I don't care to participate in negative discussions about parents and children or provide you with a naptime vent. I am so glad I meet so many providers more positive than yourselves who recognize that parents and children are their customers.
No one will ever take child care providers seriously as long as some continue to be so unprofessional.
For those of you who care, the book "Finding Your Smile Again" is a great one on burnout.

At first I was mildly irritated by your posts, but I normally try to not let people like you get under my skin. Not worth my time. If you have a valid point, great, I'd love to hear anyone's POV, no thin skin here, but pointing fingers and flinging criticism from your lofty pedistal....Nah....now I just feel sorry for the providers you supposedly work with.:confused: COME ON DOWN to earth with the rest of us!

[daysofelijah]

"Advanced degree" bwahahahah! How lucky those lowly providers are to have access to your vast experience! Hysterical! ::

[cillybean83]

this person is just trying to get a rise out of everyone. They are giving vague, generalized info about themselves because they're faking. You have an advanced degree, ok in what? I'll sit here patiently while you "google" an appropriate response to make yourself sound legit....

This is either a disgruntled parent, someone who was or is part of this community and for whatever reason, had issues with a lot of people here and wants to cowardly tell people off without being identified, or just some stupid 40 year old punk living in their mommies basement with nothing better to do with their time then start chit on web forums.

Everyone complains about their job, get over yourself...it isn't called "work" or a "job" because it's all rainbows and fluffly kittens all the time. Little kids can, and will **** the life out of you, and you get tired, and you get drained, and you need to have someone to talk to about it. Every profession is like that, patients **** the life out of doctors, clients **** the life out of lawyers, and so on...it's just the way the world works, the only difference is other people have co-workers who they can go have a drink with off the clock, or golf with on the weekends, or whatever...we don't have that, we have this, and if anyone doesn't like this....no one is making you come here and read it.

[Zoe]

this person is just trying to get a rise out of everyone. They are giving vague, generalized info about themselves because they're faking. You have an advanced degree, ok in what? I'll sit here patiently while you "google" an appropriate response to make yourself sound legit....

This is either a disgruntled parent, someone who was or is part of this community and for whatever reason, had issues with a lot of people here and wants to cowardly tell people off without being identified, or just some stupid 40 year old punk living in their mommies basement with nothing better to do with their time then start chit on web forums.

Everyone complains about their job, get over yourself...it isn't called "work" or a "job" because it's all rainbows and fluffly kittens all the time. Little kids can, and will **** the life out of you, and you get tired, and you get drained, and you need to have someone to talk to about it. Every profession is like that, patients **** the life out of doctors, clients **** the life out of lawyers, and so on...it's just the way the world works, the only difference is other people have co-workers who they can go have a drink with off the clock, or golf with on the weekends, or whatever...we don't have that, we have this, and if anyone doesn't like this....no one is making you come here and read it.

Amen sister!

[nikia]

I'm so sorry you work with children.
I can't imagine how sarcastic and judgemental you must be around children or reagrding parents when they aren't aorund right in front of the kids.
You give providers a bad name.
I have worked as a teacher for years and now I work with providers because I earned an advanced degree and wanted to provide help to providers. I provide home support to them which means going in at naptime and assisting them in solving problems. My job is to mediate between the state and providers and provide them with support.
I can't speak for the r&r agency that referred one of your members. I certainly wouldn't do that.
When parents are disrespectful you have a right to terminate their contracts. You provide the care. It is a choice. If you feel you can't 'fill' a vacant spot and have to tolerate rude parents then mabe you need to reevaluate the quality of care. If you are of quality you should have a reputation that keeps you full, even in rural areas (I serve a rural county and urban county).
No sense in registering. I don't care to participate in negative discussions about parents and children or provide you with a naptime vent. I am so glad I meet so many providers more positive than yourselves who recognize that parents and children are their customers.
No one will ever take child care providers seriously as long as some continue to be so unprofessional.
For those of you who care, the book "Finding Your Smile Again" is a great one on burnout.

So your solution to disrespectful parents is to just term them???? Term the children who have done nothing and love the daycare and their friends and their caregiver???? I guess my take on it is, I DO NOT TERM INNOCENT CHILDREN FOR THEIR PARENTS MISTAKES. Thats just me, I form a bond with these children and I do not want to term because some parents do not have respect. And yes I am full have been since I opened, I have turned people away because I have no room.

The comment rude parents is because of quality of care is nonsense. Some people are just uncaring and rude. You cant change those people but you can deal with them and that is what I am referring too. We can do special things with their kids, love them and go above and beyond placing children in front of a tv all day and there is no thank you, just a okay see you tomorrow. To me that is rude. You have no idea how these woman run their businesses or the quality of care, you mentioned a book and that is what you think is a good example??? You were asked what posts are unprofessional, you were asked what comments make someone a bad providers in your eyes and there was no specific examples.

Also how do you know that the woman who you have sat down with do not come on here. Wouldnt that be a hoot to find out I am one of those woman who you deem as professional come on here a place that you think is horrible. And just because you think children and their parents are our customers does not mean that they can treat us anyway they please, its called being a decent human being, you dont treat people badly regardless if they are a customer, boss, business owner, friend, homeless person on the street, or a group full of women on a internet forum.

[momatheart]

I think everyone should have to register in order to post.

Maybe the OP is too unsure of him or herself and the advice he or she would give and that is why he or she is not registered. They could also be new to R&R and on a power trip and thus still lack their confidence but want to throw around where they work and for whom.

I feel anyone who is confident in what they are saying will be registered. JMHO.

[Meeko]

I'm so sorry you work with children.
I can't imagine how sarcastic and judgemental you must be around children or reagrding parents when they aren't aorund right in front of the kids.
You give providers a bad name.
I have worked as a teacher for years and now I work with providers because I earned an advanced degree and wanted to provide help to providers. I provide home support to them which means going in at naptime and assisting them in solving problems. My job is to mediate between the state and providers and provide them with support.
I can't speak for the r&r agency that referred one of your members. I certainly wouldn't do that.
When parents are disrespectful you have a right to terminate their contracts. You provide the care. It is a choice. If you feel you can't 'fill' a vacant spot and have to tolerate rude parents then mabe you need to reevaluate the quality of care. If you are of quality you should have a reputation that keeps you full, even in rural areas (I serve a rural county and urban county).
No sense in registering. I don't care to participate in negative discussions about parents and children or provide you with a naptime vent. I am so glad I meet so many providers more positive than yourselves who recognize that parents and children are their customers.
No one will ever take child care providers seriously as long as some continue to be so unprofessional.
For those of you who care, the book "Finding Your Smile Again" is a great one on burnout.

Wow! Your halo is really shiny......you obviously polish it a LOT.

Just a few questions...do you ever smile? Have you ever heard of sarcasm? Why did you feel it essential to mention your "advanced" degree to us lowly day care providers?

Please give us a break. Sometimes we come on here because just a need to let loose a little. Have you NEVER vented or said something a bit catty while mad? If you haven't...then hurray for you and your complete perfection.

Most of us are just non-perfect women who need a boost, a bit of advice and a virtual "hug" now and then. I for one, do not come here for "training" or for some high and mighty person with an "advanced" degree to tell me how dreadful I am.

I haven't been here long...but I have "felt the love" and I am so grateful for it.

I