Owner's Son Changing Diapers

[DaveA]

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[knoxmomof2]

I'm going to be an odd female out here and say - I would never have either of my children (daughter age 14 and son age 15), change a diaper here. Granted, I'm a small, license exempt provider, but IF I were under licensing rules and IF those rules allowed my underage child to do so, I still would not. IF my child were 18 or over and there was no way around it, I would have one of them change a diaper, but they would be instructed on how to be very clear about what they are doing at all times, including the use of "conversation" with the child about what is happening just to be safe. In that case, I would use my daughter first because of the stereotype - and because my son is weirded out about diapers and the like anyway. I am very aware that someday he may have a child, and I'll be more than happy to show him how to change his baby, but my client's children are not his Guinea pig in this matter and I wouldn't even ask him or my daughter to change my own 9 month old's diaper. It's just a private, messy task that they don't need to do.

I have them be my eyes and ears at times, set things up for me, run after things for me, participate in social / educational activities when I feel it would benefit them or the little guys, but no to diapers. I would figure it out...

Also, there's just no room for interpretation in this area. I've done this since my children were 8 & 9- they know to be mindful of what they are doing when a parent is present in case it could be taken as inappropriate, they know to only disturb me when a parent is present if it is urgent, they know that if they are in the daycare room when a parent pulls up (I have large picture windows that face the driveway) that they are to stay in the room and continue about their business instead of quickly rushing out because that might seem sketchy, they know to make themselves scarce during interviews, they know to be friendly and say hi if they see a parent and to be polite but watch what they say, etc.. All it takes is one wrong word or action and a parent assumes the worst. It could cost me a client, or worse. Not because I have anything to hide but because people tend to overreact or assume when they don't know what goes on in my home all day.

So, that's my (long) take.

[nannyde]

My son grew up in a daycare until he was nearly 14 and I never had him provide direct care to any children. I would NEVER have allowed diaper changes. I tried very hard to keep him out of the daycare from birth on. He had his own life to live in his home and I went to great lengths to make sure he had as normal of a childhood as possible with the daycare affecting him as little as possible.

I would have never put him at risk to do any cares.

In my state the age for assistants can be 14 and up.

[daycarediva]

I'm glad you and BlackCat replied. It just reaffirms my opinion. This isn't a place for women or to discuss real issues we face. I will no longer be posting or reading here. Many of you are uneducated and it shows. Oh, you have Associates and CDAs. LOL

Very telling you are telling parents how to feel. I don't care if someone pulls out of care because they don't like the jeans I'm wearing today. I respect parents should be allowed to have opinions and choices. It makes me wonder what does on in your homes. As I said I'm done here.

:: Try MAed.

When did I say parents couldn't have opinions and make choices? In fact, I respected this parents rights to speak to his provider and voice his opinions?

Quite frankly, you came into this thread and called names. Take your toys and go home now because nobody wanted to play? Sounds about right.