So.. Was I in The Wrong?!?

[nanglgrl]

She got back with me. She's upset with the child. Says he does not do this at home, nor at grandma's. She kept him home today but he will be back Monday.

I very well could be wrong but it sounds like a stall tactic and I would expect her to be looking for another provider. There is no reason for her to keep her son out until next week unless she's mad at you.
As for posting I wouldn't have posted it even if I wasn't friends with the parents on Facebook. That said, I don't think it was horrible and I would have read it in more of an exasperated/joking tone. You didn't include the child's name and so the only reason for this mom to think you were talking about her child is if her child DOES have accidents at home or other places. For all she knew it could have been another child in underwear or a diaper leak. She had an idea who it was and was pretty sure it was her child since she got ahold of you right away. Her getting ahold of you and sending grandma also shows she was really upset and I doubt that she was upset with her child. I understand why you removed the post but it also makes it seem like you were admiting to doing something wrong.

[Annalee]

The reality with in home day cares is that everyone usually DOES know what's what :: Espcially when you have very verbal 3 and 4 yo's. ::

Yep, they do....but I tell parents "I want believe all of what they tell me if you don't believe all of what they tell you".::

[Provider_Manda]

Not only would I have been mad about what was said about my child, I would have felt everyone else knew who OP was talking about in the post on FB....even if they didn't know. It would have been embarrassing to a mother. There are very few people I vent to because of this issue....Most of my venting is done on this forum

I did not say anything in particular about her child, and no one knows who is here during the day. I have 9 children I care for and all but 3 are under 4. So the only way she knew was because she asked. We do not many mutual friends so there was no way for anyone to know who it was. As a mother I would not have been upset about it. But I guess every mother is different.

[Provider_Manda]

I agree with this! I do not befriend any of my parents on FB for this reason and I also would never post anything about my job on FB unless it is in our private FB page. I think your actions were very unprofessional and if it was my child I would have also been mad. Sorry

Ahh no worries..to each their own. I'm sure everyone at some point as vented about an issue with work rather it be daycare or another profession. No child was mentioned, so no one had any idea. Professional or unprofessional..I was upset and that was my actions. Will I do it again...Nope

[Provider_Manda]

I very well could be wrong but it sounds like a stall tactic and I would expect her to be looking for another provider. There is no reason for her to keep her son out until next week unless she's mad at you.
As for posting I wouldn't have posted it even if I wasn't friends with the parents on Facebook. That said, I don't think it was horrible and I would have read it in more of an exasperated/joking tone. You didn't include the child's name and so the only reason for this mom to think you were talking about her child is if her child DOES have accidents at home or other places. For all she knew it could have been another child in underwear or a diaper leak. She had an idea who it was and was pretty sure it was her child since she got ahold of you right away. Her getting ahold of you and sending grandma also shows she was really upset and I doubt that she was upset with her child. I understand why you removed the post but it also makes it seem like you were admiting to doing something wrong.

I actually removed it because of my husband..
I have multiple children here a day so no one know who it was. I actually had another parent of mine message me and said "Crap, I know it was mine..sorry ". So nobody had any idea. And if she is looking, then oh well nothing I can do. Apology was made for upsetting her. And she was upset with him because he has been doing it here for a few weeks, even hid and done number 2 right before Christmas. So it is what it is, can't do anything about it now. But definitely learned my lesson!!

[caligirl]

Well, I wouldn't have posted it on FB if my DC families were 'friends' on my wall. Being irritated about the pee, ya, I'd have been upset too.... but that's one reason they are not allowed to sit on my furniture. I bought kids furniture for them to sit on that I can easily clean. I've never allowed any of them to sit on my living room furniture for that exact reason

[BabyMonkeys]

I have two Facebook pages. My personal page is private and I only have family and a few close friends. My daycare page is private and only the parents and grandparents have access to it. I have posted things on my private page about one of my kiddos that I wouldn't necessarily post on my daycare page. That is why my personal page is completely private.

If you had listed her son's name, yes..she has a right to be mad. However, seeing as you didn't name her child, I think she is overreacting.

[Play Care]

A teacher in my sister's district was just forced to resign after complaining about a student on her "private" Facebook page.
Even though she didn't name the student. Even though the post was made after hours.

Honestly no one I know really even uses Facebook anymore. Occasional pictures and "likes" for companies to get discounts. That's about it.

[Annalee]

A teacher in my sister's district was just forced to resign after complaining about a student on her "private" Facebook page.
Even though she didn't name the student. Even though the post was made after hours.

Honestly no one I know really even uses Facebook anymore. Occasional pictures and "likes" for companies to get discounts. That's about it.

Local daycare center employees lost their jobs as well for posting similar remarks on FB.