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I have never posted anything anything professionally on Facebook, other than I am the owner of my daycare in the career: field.
My hubby won't have a Facebook page because he is in business and he has seen how it has ruined people's careers. His company, and other's he has worked for, absolutely do media-stalk people they are interviewing.
As a mom, I would pull over that, honestly. I would be worried you are angry at my child. I would also be wondering why you are on Facebook, and is that the reason my child had an accident? *I'm* not saying any of this is true, but if I were the mom in that situation, I would think those things and pull.Comment
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What did the Grandmother say when she picked up? Did she act mad? As far as posting ,you did not name child so no problem there.As far as being on FB,well mom was on to.I chose not to have FB for just this reason.I do not feel you owe an apology I would remove post and let that be it.Comment
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Grandma acted a little strange. Didn't say much. I made the comment, oh I didn't know you was picking him up. And say replied, well I'm just doing what she asked. I apologized to her through text, and the post was deleted. So I feel there is not much more I can do. Do I think it's pull your child from care bc of it.. No. He has been here a long time, and their are my neighbors so it just really shocked me.Comment
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I don't think it is that big of a deal. Let her stew and if she wants to keep coming, let her know that he needs to be in a pull up until he is accident free for awhile. Working at home is a lonely job and sometimes we need to vent! Don't be too hard on yourself! Honestly, if it was my kid, I would have called and been super apologetic to YOU! Pee on the couch...yuck!
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I don't post and I don't friend on FB. I don't want to deal with it, period. I do understand your need to vent, it's frustrating with some of the things that we put up with and the constant messes and work after hours. Maybe you could have blocked her on the post?Comment
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But we have the view from the provider end....that is why I say even if the OP was right in her thinking, it didn't belong on FB because not many parents will have the same view.I don't think it is that big of a deal. Let her stew and if she wants to keep coming, let her know that he needs to be in a pull up until he is accident free for awhile. Working at home is a lonely job and sometimes we need to vent! Don't be too hard on yourself! Honestly, if it was my kid, I would have called and been super apologetic to YOU! Pee on the couch...yuck!
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I felt very differently about daycare before I became a daycare provider. I also told my son's 3 and 4 year preschool teachers I would love their job because they get to play all day. I bet they wanted to strangle me.
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Because if the situation had been reversed and the dcp went to work and posted a vent related to an issue with the provider that hadn't been discussed, yet, there'd usually be an upset provider, as well.Comment
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One of the biggest rules I have for myself in life is to never put ANYTHING in print I am not willing to stand behind.
If I had said it, I would have owned it and not apologized for it. She (the provider) was truthful and honest so there is really nothing to apologize for.
If DCM's feelings were hurt by it....well, what's that old saying? "If the shoe fits...."
DCM had NO idea (until she texted) that the comment was made because of her child. Once she did text to ask provider, I would have called her up verses texting and spoke with her about it. To me, texting is for one or two words or at the very most a sentence. Anything that requires discussion should either be done face to face or on the phone in my opinion.
I agree with Mommyneedsadayoff and think the parent should have been the one apologizing not the provider.
Is it professional to vent on Facebook? Meh, I have no idea because I didn't grow up in the age of social media and although I participate in it, I again follow the rule of being big/adult enough to own anything I post.
I have learned over the years that everyone has a different definition of professionalism (I view wearing yoga pants or PJ's pants all day as unprofessional for example) but honestly I think it comes down to what type of relationship each provider has with their clients and what they value (in each other).
For me, I value and open honest communication and none of the passive aggressive back and forth stuff that you see so often today.
Everyone's offended by something. I can't control what offends others but I can certainly control, monitor and own what I say and do. Even if it's offensive to others it's still mine to own. Whether that means defending my stance or simply walking away from the situation all together.
In this particular situation I think there are some good lessons to be learned in hindsight as there always are.
One of them being if you don't want pee on your couch, then don't let non-toilet trained kids (this child is NOT trained) sit on the couch or use PP's rule about being old enough to ride the bus before you can sit on the sofa.
Another lesson...own what you post. If you feel it, think it, say it or print it where someone else can hear or see it then own it. If the provider doesnt feel she will ever be able to buy new furniture until she changes careers, don't apologize for that. It's how you feel and you (general you) shouldnt have to apologize for feeling a certain way.
My grandmother passed away earlier this year. She was 93. She always taught me that how I feel is MINE and no one else ever has a right to make me feel bad for how I feel. It's the actions we take BECAUSE of how we feel that we need to stop and consider.
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Owning what you post on FB is another issue I have with my sil and others....they always say "I didn't mean it that way", "it wasn't about you", "you took it wrong", etc....I tell my sil all the time, "you don't have to post every thing you think":One of the biggest rules I have for myself in life is to never put ANYTHING in print I am not willing to stand behind.
If I had said it, I would have owned it and not apologized for it. She (the provider) was truthful and honest so there is really nothing to apologize for.
If DCM's feelings were hurt by it....well, what's that old saying? "If the shoe fits...."
DCM had NO idea (until she texted) that the comment was made because of her child. Once she did text to ask provider, I would have called her up verses texting and spoke with her about it. To me, texting is for one or two words or at the very most a sentence. Anything that requires discussion should either be done face to face or on the phone in my opinion.
I agree with Mommyneedsadayoff and think the parent should have been the one apologizing not the provider.
Is it professional to vent on Facebook? Meh, I have no idea because I didn't grow up in the age of social media and although I participate in it, I again follow the rule of being big/adult enough to own anything I post.
I have learned over the years that everyone has a different definition of professionalism (I view wearing yoga pants or PJ's pants all day as unprofessional for example) but honestly I think it comes down to what type of relationship each provider has with their clients and what they value (in each other).
For me, I value and open honest communication and none of the passive aggressive back and forth stuff that you see so often today.
Everyone's offended by something. I can't control what offends others but I can certainly control, monitor and own what I say and do. Even if it's offensive to others it's still mine to own. Whether that means defending my stance or simply walking away from the situation all together.
In this particular situation I think there are some good lessons to be learned in hindsight as there always are.
One of them being if you don't want pee on your couch, then don't let non-toilet trained kids (this child is NOT trained) sit on the couch or use PP's rule about being old enough to ride the bus before you can sit on the sofa.
Another lesson...own what you post. If you feel it, think it, say it or print it where someone else can hear or see it then own it. If the provider doesnt feel she will ever be able to buy new furniture until she changes careers, don't apologize for that. It's how you feel and you (general you) shouldnt have to apologize for feeling a certain way.
My grandmother passed away earlier this year. She was 93. She always taught me that how I feel is MINE and no one else ever has a right to make me feel bad for how I feel. It's the actions we take BECAUSE of how we feel that we need to stop and consider.
: But I would still never use social media for venting about my professional or personal life...but just my opinion
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