Tweet
Ok so I have a dcb who's potty trained but been having accidents a lot. Today while in the busiest time of the morning he peed all over my couch while he was wide awake. Well venting I put a pic on fb of my pee soaked couch with the #daycarelife, and said this is why we will never have new furniture till I have a new career. Not once was the child disclosed, no age nothing. Well dcm seen it and texted me asking if he peed. I didn't lie and said yes. Well about an hour later her mother shows up to pick up the child. So, what should I do? I know she is mad or she would not have had her mom pick him up without letting me know. ๐๐ฉ
-
-
Just another reason I don't like FB. My sil post things all the time without names but we all know who she is talking about. NO, I don't do FB but I have family members who will call and ask who my sil is mad at now?:
: It is not hard to read between the lines. 
FWIW, I feel FB can come back to haunt us, just as it did you but just chalk it up to a lesson learned. 
-
Well you most likely don't want it to become the elephant in the room, so to speak. I'd probably call dcm and talk with her, to clear the air, apologize for posting the picture but also let her know that her ds isn't the only child to have ever done this( tell her to imagine what her ds did times many many over the course of your daycare career) and it was posted in a moment of frustration. Hopefully she'll see how things like that can make us feel. With that said, I think I'd keep business/personal separated, especially on places like FB, where as someone said it can turn on us in a heart beat!Comment
-
Apologize. Explain you were venting (and perhaps that you deal with potty training accidents a lot so its not just "her" kid) and tell her it won't happen again. Because really, it shouldn't. I feel like Facebook is really not the place to vent about work (any work/job). It never looks professional and well, it can come back to haunt you.
I do get it though...stuff like that can be incredibly frustrating and when we typically work alone its hard not to vent on social media. Some days I really want to...but, in the end I don't. My husband gets an earful some days though.
Comment
-
He may should have been in a diaper, but posting "no new furniture till I get a new career" can sound like the provider doesn't like her job leading to losing more kids. Just my opinion, but FB is not the place to air dirty laundry for the public to see. Again, just my opinion
Comment
-
Well my intentions was never to upset. Did I mean what I posted about furniture.. Absolutely! Do I get tired of my home being ran and destroyed by others children.. Yep! But I still provide a safe, clean and loving environment. I texted and apologized for any hurt feelings, and that's all I can do. Not having any other way to communicate other than social media is hard. I was frustrated and just needed to let it out. Post was taken down not long after it was up. So we shall see.Comment
-
I can't say if it was wrong or not, I am just not sure. But I try to never post anything like that. If I do it is in private groups, but even then I am careful. There is so much that can be wrong when posting something like that. Written word comes across much differently than spoken word, you loose tone of voice, facial expressions and such. So something that you meant one way can easily be taken another.Comment
-
This.Apologize. Explain you were venting (and perhaps that you deal with potty training accidents a lot so its not just "her" kid) and tell her it won't happen again. Because really, it shouldn't. I feel like Facebook is really not the place to vent about work (any work/job). It never looks professional and well, it can come back to haunt you.
I do get it though...stuff like that can be incredibly frustrating and when we typically work alone its hard not to vent on social media. Some days I really want to...but, in the end I don't. My husband gets an earful some days though.Comment
-
I'll bet there isn't one of us here who wouldn't agree with what you're saying. It definitely does a number on our homes and furnishings. I vent to friends/family but not where dcfs can see. I remember spending the whole weekend painting my entire living room, it looked so nice and I had worked hard on it. By 9 that Monday a.m. one of the dcks had made several dings in the wall by throwing blocks. I was so mad.
The same dcb made a hole the size of a half dollar in my kitchen wall(I had put him there in TO). I'm very glad he's no longer here.
Comment
-
Yes we all understand that for sure! But parents don't understand it. They see their kids only, they have no idea what a group can do! They often have no idea how one kid can get a whole group acting nuts! And many parents get their feelings hurt easily when you are talking about their child. I find it is better to vent in places with other providers (such as the members only forum here), that way I get my venting out but the parents should never see it. So I guess the lesson is just be more careful where you vent.I'll bet there isn't one of us here who wouldn't agree with what you're saying. It definitely does a number on our homes and furnishings. I vent to friends/family but not where dcfs can see. I remember spending the whole weekend painting my entire living room, it looked so nice and I had worked hard on it. By 9 that Monday a.m. one of the dcks had made several dings in the wall by throwing blocks. I was so mad. The same dcb made a hole the size of a half dollar in my kitchen wall(I had put him there in TO). I'm very glad he's no longer here.Comment
-
I see it as::
Yes. You deserve to vent.
Yes you could have handled it differently.
However. I wouldn't.
I would in fact, make a new post.
Again, mentioning the accident
Maybe
"Well, now that the craziness has calmed, let me apologize for my earlier rant. I don't want a new career, nor must I wait for new things. ,I like most people, get frustrated at times and need to vent. It happens. You move on with life. I'm human. It's not the first time and won't be the last.
Hope everyone has a great day "
If mom doesn't understand, well, her kid won't pee on your couch anymore. Huh?
I love my "no kids on the couches until you ride a school bus"
Of course, I only take birth to kinder. Lol. So none ever get on mine.Comment
-
I love FB. It is great for advertising (my business page) and it is great for keeping up with family who all live far away, and friends, and seeing when the zoo/aquarium/museum ect have events or deals come up. BUT I would never vent about work. It looks unprofessional. It looks like you don't have it under control. If my friend ran a homedaycare and complained about it online I wouldn't refer her to friends or family. I know it feels good to vent. Text a pic to a friend and vent privately. I have 3 friends I send the "I wish I could FB" stuff too. Don't share it publicly.
I would apologize in person in addition to the text. I would require a child having that many accidents to wear plastic pants or pull ups.
:hug:Comment
-
I agree with this. If it were my child, even without names mentioned, I wouldn't like that. Vent here instead!He may should have been in a diaper, but posting "no new furniture till I get a new career" can sound like the provider doesn't like her job leading to losing more kids. Just my opinion, but FB is not the place to air dirty laundry for the public to see. Again, just my opinion
Comment
Comment