Keeping peace with neighbors long

[Thriftylady]

I guess to me the back story is just that I feel like they use and abuse things. I don't want to put myself in a place they do that to me I guess. But you are right BC, free services are free services.

[Blackcat31]

I guess to me the back story is just that I feel like they use and abuse things. I don't want to put myself in a place they do that to me I guess. But you are right BC, free services are free services.

Its hard to separate emotions from facts sometimes so I totally understand...but break it down to what the real issue is....

which is that you don't want to give services for free but feel that putting a stop to it might reflect on you (make you a meanie to the DCK's that do want them to come or to parents that hear their kids complain later about not being able to play with their neighborhood kids) but you cant have it both ways...

A) you either sell the service to anyone who wants to buy it but only allow those who paid for it to use it.

or

B) just give it away to everyone for free and keep everyone happy (except you )


Once you break it down, the choice seems simple in my eyes and hopefully in yours as well.

[Thriftylady]

Well I guess when you put it that way, I just can't give free to anyone, because the whole neighborhood will want it and that will put me over ratio. And as others have stated the liability could sadly be an issue.

[Ariana]

I guess to me the back story is just that I feel like they use and abuse things. I don't want to put myself in a place they do that to me I guess. But you are right BC, free services are free services.

I think you feel bad because you don't like the parents because they are abusing the system and you don't want them to abuse you. That was the main reason for the backstory. To show that they aren't nice people who need a break. I think you would probably feel fine about having kids over for free if the parents were nice, kind and needed a break. The problem is that you are a nice person and they aren't and unfortunately kids get mixed up into the picture. I know precisely how you feel. You want to be nice to the kids but you can't stand the parents and indirectly you are doing them a favor which ticks you off!

Basically you have to either pretend that the parents don't exist or try and "forgive" them for being idiots and be nice to the kids OR you need to do what is best for you. Having anger and resentment building up inside is not good. What situation would make you feel best? Having them over every Tuesday? Not at all? 30 minutes every day? Find a solution that feels good for you