Not Sure What to Think - Peanut Allergy

[nannyde]

Big mistake taking her call. Less said over the phone is best. Email gives you proof.

[crazydaycarelady]

Dodged bullet - blessing in disguise.

[Baby Beluga]

Oh boy, this mom sounds like a piece of work.

I will never understand the mind set of parents who feel the need to make another person adjust to them verses the parent finding a place they fit in to. Many many centers are completely peanut/nut free. I wonder what this moms reasoning is for trying to find (and likely change) an in home vs enrolling her child in a center where peanut/nut free rules are already in place?

[sharlan]

I would not be able to accommodate this child, either.

I'm sitting here right now drinking a smoothie with peanut powder in it.

I think the mom knew and was trying to pull one over on you.

[Rockgirl]

I don't understand how she expected you to change your HOME to a nut-free environment. I know some schools and centers have gone nut-free, but this is your home! Sigh....entitled people!

[nannyde]

Oh boy, this mom sounds like a piece of work.

I will never understand the mind set of parents who feel the need to make another person adjust to them verses the parent finding a place they fit in to. Many many centers are completely peanut/nut free. I wonder what this moms reasoning is for trying to find (and likely change) an in home vs enrolling her child in a center where peanut/nut free rules are already in place?

Money

Home daycare is cheaper AND she will have the ability to act the way she has acted so far ..

It's no big deal
Do this
(THIS btw is a HUGE deal)

[laundrymom]

Money

Home daycare is cheaper AND she will have the ability to act the way she has acted so far ..

It's no big deal
Do this
(THIS btw is a HUGE deal)

[Unregistered]

DCM did call me last night and I am still furious and upset. She told me that it was very unprofessional of me to accept a child, then reject her when discovering her care might require ''a little bit more work.'' I asked her if she read my email, that I had a child whose diet is dependent on peanuts. That it wasn't a matter of just a little more work. She got sarcastic and said ''Right, she just has to have peanuts or something terrible will happen.''
So right there I cut her off and told her there were plenty of childcare options in our city, and good luck. But then, this: What if they all discriminate against us like you have? I told her that I am not discriminating against anyone, and I am hanging up the phone. And I did. And now I am praying I never hear from her again.

You did dodge a bullet, but relax there's nothing she would be able to do. You did great because you followed your intuition and handled it fast.

She can get a nanny or have a public daycare accommodate her, and personally I will bet you won't hear from her. Apparently she's been down this road a few times, .

[Unregistered]

I have a quick question. When this lady filled out paperwork did she fill out a medical history? If she did and didn't mention the peanut allergy (which I would guess most of us think she knew before applying to your daycare) she lied by omission yet another thing on your side. Get that doctors note TODAY! And as others have said get all your ducks in a row. Maybe even a call to licensing letting them know what's going on. Good luck!!!

[nannyde]

I have a quick question. When this lady filled out paperwork did she fill out a medical history? If she did and didn't mention the peanut allergy (which I would guess most of us think she knew before applying to your daycare) she lied by omission yet another thing on your side. Get that doctors note TODAY! And as others have said get all your ducks in a row. Maybe even a call to licensing letting them know what's going on. Good luck!!!

Naw she doesn't have to disclose.

It's a good idea to put a sign on your door saying "We heart nuts", answer the door with a reses peanut butter cup, and have a pack of nutter butters sitting on the table at EVERY interview.

A good offense is a good defense.

They have the right to not disclose. That needs to be dealt with. Obvs... see this thread

[LysesKids]

Naw she doesn't have to disclose.

It's a good idea to put a sign on your door saying "We heart nuts", answer the door with a reses peanut butter cup, and have a pack of nutter butters sitting on the table at EVERY interview.

A good offense is a good defense.

They have the right to not disclose. That needs to be dealt with. Obvs... see this thread

In my paperwork it requires them to list any known medical or mental issue be disclosed so that I can properly care for said baby; it also says in my contract that omissions of known issues is grounds for immediate termination - am I wrong for requiring that info?

[Blackcat31]

In my paperwork it requires them to list any known medical or mental issue be disclosed so that I can properly care for said baby; it also says in my contract that omissions of known issues is grounds for immediate termination - am I wrong for requiring that info?

Some things are required by law to be reported and some things are not. Depends on the condition. I would check your state licensing regulations to be sure.

I also wonder about this in certain situations being we are self-employed and have the ability to require certain things that other places can't...kwim?

To be safe and sure, I'd check with licensing.

[KiddieCahoots]

Naw she doesn't have to disclose.

It's a good idea to put a sign on your door saying "We heart nuts", answer the door with a reses peanut butter cup, and have a pack of nutter butters sitting on the table at EVERY interview.

A good offense is a good defense.

They have the right to not disclose. That needs to be dealt with. Obvs... see this thread

::::::...........Ohhhh... does that bring back memories!
"I want another butter, peanut butter, sandwich cookie" ::..........

Sorry everybody....carry on....

[Tasha]

I have a quick question. When this lady filled out paperwork did she fill out a medical history? If she did and didn't mention the peanut allergy (which I would guess most of us think she knew before applying to your daycare) she lied by omission yet another thing on your side. Get that doctors note TODAY! And as others have said get all your ducks in a row. Maybe even a call to licensing letting them know what's going on. Good luck!!!

She did fill out a medical history and checked no for no known allergies.

[Tasha]

In my paperwork it requires them to list any known medical or mental issue be disclosed so that I can properly care for said baby; it also says in my contract that omissions of known issues is grounds for immediate termination - am I wrong for requiring that info?

I don't have this in my contract but you better believe it's going in now.