Worried About Termination

[sharlan]

Have no further contact.

Check with you licensing agency as you probably have to keep your records for a certain period of time. At one time, CA's was 5 years or so. I don't remember exactly what it is now.

[littlelionspreschool]

I plan on contracting my licensor this morning. Hopefully she can give me some advice!!

[Thriftylady]

I plan on contracting my licensor this morning. Hopefully she can give me some advice!!

I guess that is a good plan. I have never had a parent ask for anything other than I give them at enrollment. My concern would be that she is looking for something in the records to use against you.

[Blackcat31]

If I don't send any records, can she do anything legally? She is one that I could see filing some kind of claim against me. I was just at a training the other night and I think the trainee said we are required to give back any records or documentation if the parent asks for it. I might have to ask my licensor tomorrow.

What records?

She has NO right to any of the records we are required to keep on file for the child. We must keep them for I think 7 years after the child is no longer in our care so I am confused about what records she thinks you should send her?

I also agree with others...do not have nay further contact with her. If she calls your licensor requesting records, the licensor will tell her they are not her records to have.

[littlelionspreschool]

So the mom continues to text me....now she is telling me "since her child did nothing wrong" if we would do something to help her with closure. The mom said she took her daughter to the psychiatrist and they said she should have a "graduation" ceremony.....umm what?! Why would I go out of my way to see the family again (awkward!) and have a fake graduation ceremony for this poor child?! I would guess that over a week of not seeing us, the kid is probably pretty sad, but seeing us one more time isn't going to make her feel any better! If anything it would make her more sad to see us and know it's her last time. I didn't respond to any of the messages but I would love to text the mom and say the psychiatrist is nuts! You don't rub salt in a wound...."Hey xxxx, here are your friends and teachers you won't be seeing again. Happy "graduation"." :dislike:

[Thriftylady]

Oh I so would not be doing a "graduation ceremony". The whole thought of it ticks me off. When my kids left 8th grade for high school they had a "graduation ceremonty" THREE hours long and every kid walked and every kid got some award most of them were stupid. UM you didn't graduate yet, you went to middle school like you are supposed to do!

Oops sorry that turned into kind of a rant didn't it? You owe them nothing, and I feel sorry for this little girl because her mom is giving her the wrong picture of life and how real life is.

[Josiegirl]

Wow, the psychiatrist sounds as nuts as dcm. Was she making that up? I don't give dcks anything like a ceremony to kick 'em out. The 2 dcfs I had to terminate I said bye. That's closure right?
I wouldn't respond to anything she says at all. Did you call licensing for advice?

[laundrymom]

So the mom continues to text me....now she is telling me "since her child did nothing wrong" if we would do something to help her with closure. The mom said she took her daughter to the psychiatrist and they said she should have a "graduation" ceremony.....umm what?! Why would I go out of my way to see the family again (awkward!) and have a fake graduation ceremony for this poor child?! I would guess that over a week of not seeing us, the kid is probably pretty sad, but seeing us one more time isn't going to make her feel any better! If anything it would make her more sad to see us and know it's her last time. I didn't respond to any of the messages but I would love to text the mom and say the psychiatrist is nuts! You don't rub salt in a wound...."Hey xxxx, here are your friends and teachers you won't be seeing again. Happy "graduation"." :dislike:

Kids are resilient. And from the sounds of things, they have more issues than were created by you finally standing up to them. I wouldn't respond.

[sharlan]

I really doubt a psychiatrist suggested a "graduation ceremony". More like dcm wants more of your attention.

Stop all communication and don't respond to anything from dcm. Block her if you can.

[Controlled Chaos]

I had a dcm ask me to organize a graduation ceremony for her son too recently :: It was a amicable term, but I was not going to put a whole bunch of work into a fake event. I made dcb a sweet goodbye card, but a graduation You've got to be kidding me!

[Unregistered]

OMG that is so funny! I would block her number if you can and try to avoid contact. She just wants an excuse to get face to face with you, so don't give her the opportunity.

[KiddieCahoots]

OMG that is so funny! I would block her number if you can and try to avoid contact. She just wants an excuse to get face to face with you, so don't give her the opportunity.

This^^^ I really hope she isn't voicing this with dcg. That's what would be dragging it out for her.....dcm's inability to keep the drama at bay.

[Unregistered]

I agree. Sounds like she is trying to rope you back in to control the outcome and have the last word. She's behaving like a jilted ex. Good job ignoring her.

[Unregistered]

I don't know, it kind of feels like if the parent is suggesting a graduation ceremony for their child, they are trying to look out for their kids feelings. An older child probably would be confused and bamboozled by a sudden change in care and although a graduation ceremony is not possible (1. it's not what normally happens 2. under these circumstances the chance of drama is too high) but it doesn't seem unreasonable to do something to offer closure to the kid. Maybe tell the parent, "We aren't able to hold ceremonies for our friends who are moving on, but we'd love to present xxxx with a book signed by all our friends and teachers, I'll pop it in the mail next week." That way you show you're trying to meet them halfway so she can't complain about the way you handled it, you are giving the child support, but you don't have to see them again.

[Gemma]

I really doubt a psychiatrist suggested a "graduation ceremony". More like dcm wants more of your attention.

Stop all communication and don't respond to anything from dcm. Block her if you can.

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