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I agree with using a medicine dropper.
Or what you can do is try to feed her BEFORE she is hungry. At 6 wks, she might be going through a growth spurt too.
Check the size of the nipple - breastfed babies do better with the slow flow (they are used to working for their food) and she could be stopping eating because it's coming out too quick.
<<HUGS>> - It gets easier though... And dont feel bad calling the mom. She needs to know that she has to work with you.Comment
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Whether she feeds by breast feeding or feeds her a bottle.... either way do NOT allow the kid back until you SEE her eat a full feeding of whatever the Mom is sending to your house for the baby. If she is on formula at your house then she needs to eat a full bottle formula in front of you before she stays at your house.
If you have a deal where the baby has never had formula or never eaten a full bottle you will have the same problem a couple of hours after this mom feeds the baby.
I do not do ANY nipple training and NO dropper feeding. That's one to one private duty care that either needs to be done by the parents or someone who just has the baby and nothing else to do.
When you are dropperful feeding the amount of energy the child is getting from the food doesn't even come close to the amount of energy they are burning from hunger and fussing. You can't keep up no matter what.
If you want the truth ask Dad. Ask him if he has bottle fed the baby formula and how much.
You may find out that the Mom did NOTHING... no formula and no bottle. If that's the case she needs to stay home with the baby until she gets day care ready. There's no amount of money worth one to one care of a hungry infant. You think you are in over your head today... wait till you have a week of this under your belt.Comment
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I agree with nanny de!! If I receive breastfed babies, they have to be bottle fed, and used to it, before coming to daycare!Comment
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Sounds like Mom may have decided you were "Base" just like on the playground when we were kids...:
: She only had to make it to 6 weeks and she was SAFE!!! I laughed so hard when I read the "works until 9pm"...she really covered home plate. 
Not everyone is born maternal...:confused:
I have had a few of those..they are the first one to throw out the "I have to work" but seem to forget that all of this was a choice they made. Not your choice or your responsibility, theirs.
I have had luck with the AVENT bottles, but this should be Mom's job like all PP have stated. Sorry you got stuck holding the bag.
- Unless otherwise stated, all my posts are personal opinion and worth what you paid for them.
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Why wouldn't a Mom make sure that her baby was ready to go to daycare? Eating is kind of a big deal. I'm bitter today anyway, but I just don't understand some people.
Before I had to go back to work (in a previous life), we transitioned my kids to bottles long before they went to daycare. My husband fed them since I was breastfeeding and I pumped, but still. If my babies had any issues I would have made sure they were resolved, one way or another, before they went to daycare. I don't get it.
Hugs to you. A crying newborn is not fun.Comment
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Wow this really ****s for you. My infant is 7 weeks and took to the bottle last week no problem. I did it because it was too difficult for me to BF when I was out at the grocery store, errands etc. It also gave me a chance to do housework without being interupted while my fiance takes care of him. Of course I pump however so the baby still gets BM.
My baby does not like the formula regardless of what kind I try. I bought some so that in case I was out and ran out or if we wanted a full day off without the baby and my mom or MIL wanted to care for him they'd have back-up (or if I couldn't pump enough). So far I've tried Enfamil (regular), Enfamil Soy, Similac Advance, Similac Isomil Advance (soy) and he's refused all of them. He just doesn't want it. I've heard of nipple confusion, not knowing how to **** from a bottle and such but I've never experienced it from neither of my 2 kids so far. They both went back and forth from the nipple to a bottle easily. Good luck to you.Comment
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Ok, here it what happened. Mom came to my house (it took her 1 hour 20 minutes!) when she works 20 minutes away! The baby was screaming, my other kids got woke up and was only asleep for 1 hour..brrrr. She came in and took the baby and went to my couch and BF the baby!! I told her I wanted to see her feed the baby (I had a bottle ready) she said that they were having some trouble getting her to take the bottle!! BURRRR
She said last night Dad could not get her to take the bottle either and baby cried from 4pm to 9pm, she said when she got home she BF the baby and the baby slept all night!! (This was the first time baby slept all night).
She said it took her longer to get to my house because she called the doctor. The doctor wanted to know if baby had wet diapers (well how can baby have wet diapers when she is not eating) I told her I changed 2 diapers and both were a little wet. The doctor told her that there should be no problem with BF & Bottle feeding! I ask her why she was not pumping and sending BM, she said I thought it would be ok to do both!
I told her that I could not continue to do this and it was not fair to the baby and also to me and my other DCK's. I told her I was worn out! And that I felt bad because my other children did not get musc attention yesterday and today!
Baby is off tomorrow and she said she would do bottles all day!! I don't believe she will and Thursday will be the same thing!! I just talked with my hubby and we have decided I am going to call her and tell her that it is not working for me.
Everyone gave me such GREAT advice!! Thank you so very much!! I have taken care of babies before, but never a BF baby. I have learned so much on BF babies. I think I will stick to 16 months and up!!!
Again THANK YOU for such wonderful advice!! All kids are gone and I am going to go flop!!
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You are doing the correct thing. I would tell the Mother until the baby is bottle ready for weeks and doing very well, on the nipple, I cannot allow her to come back to daycare. How ridiculous!!Comment
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Sounds like you're making the right decision. I wouldn't write off BF babies as a group though. Both mine were BF and ate like champs at daycare. The difference may have been that I pumped so they never even tried formula. I think it's the parents that are the issue - not the baby so much. Sounds like they were using the "easy button" (do what's easiest for them, not what's best for the child).
Enjoy your day tomorrow!Comment
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In this family's case I wonder if mixing formula with breast milk in a bottle would help...Comment
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I've had several BF babies also and not had issues with bottle feeding. Some brought their own breast milk and some did formula in a bottle only. I have never had any issues but I do agree wholeheartedly with what nannnyde said about actually seeing the baby drink a bottle before allowing the baby to stay. I've never had to do that but I think it is a good idea should issues arise. The family/baby may turn out to be a wonderful family and I personally wouldn't term but I would not allow the child to return until eating from a bottle.Comment
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Ya think?
They don't usually sleep through the night until about 3 months - poor thing was exausted!
Good for you! That mother is clueless - she needs to stay home and learn how to care for her child.Comment
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Wanted to give everyone who helped me with my update. I called babies mom this morning and told her I had prayed last night for the baby. She started off telling me, that when she got home she BF the baby again. Then she said when her hubby got home they fed the baby a bottle with formula. She said it was a struggle and took some time, but they did get her to take about 2oz. Then she said she BF again at 10pm and the baby slept all through the night. She said baby woke up at 5 this morning and she breast feed again and would be tring the bottle again today a couple of times. She still does not get it!!!
I told her that I was sorry, but I could not keep the baby because I needed to share my time with ALL my DCK's. I ask her if she remembered us speaking about "her feeding the baby a bottle for 1 week"? She said "yes" but it was hard and I found it easier to BF. I again said I was sorry, and that I felt she needed to take another 2 weeks off from work and get the baby on a bottle. I told her I had all the babies stuff packed and to call me when she wanted to stop by and pick it up. I also told her i would refund her 2 days that she did not use, she said no keep it, since you spent so much money buying stuff for her. That was nice of her, but I am still going to refund her the 2 days. She was very sweet about everything, but I could tell she was crying some when we hung up. I don't feel bad because SHE KNEW she needed to get this baby on a bottle! I do feel bad that the baby had to spend 2 days of non stop crying!
I did get another call last night for a little 18 month girl (full time) and I have an interview set up for 4:30 tonight.
Again THANK YOU EVERYONE who posted and gave me GREAT ADVICE!!
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Parent translations for "get her to take ABOUT 2 oz" means they got about a half ounce in her of drops that she actually swallowed.
You've given them an amazing gift. You have shown them that parenting the "easy" way can backfire in huge ways... like loss of money and loss of jobs.
She may have to go thru another day care or two before she understands that she HAS to make sure that her child can EAT when she's away from her. Sounds like a simple idea but obviously she had some magical thinking that if she just turfed the problem over it would be okay.Comment
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