Newborn Won't Eat & Cries..HELP!!

[Lucy]

What I've done before is call Mom while the baby is screaming. They can't take the emotional pressure and it makes them feel really really guilty.

Also, if the baby is used to breast milk, the baby should get breast milk at your house. I've watched 2 siblings from one mom who would freeze them in ice cube trays, then put the cubes in a ziploc with the date on them. I kept a week's supply of the ziplocs in my freezer. Each cube was approx 1 ounce, so I'd just pop in 2, 4, 6, or whatever the baby was currently drinking. We had wide-mouth bottles and a bottle warmer the mom supplied. Worked sooo well, and that's how I'll require it from now on if I take another infant.

[Little People]

What I've done before is call Mom while the baby is screaming. They can't take the emotional pressure and it makes them feel really really guilty.

Also, if the baby is used to breast milk, the baby should get breast milk at your house. I've watched 2 siblings from one mom who would freeze them in ice cube trays, then put the cubes in a ziploc with the date on them. I kept a week's supply of the ziplocs in my freezer. Each cube was approx 1 ounce, so I'd just pop in 2, 4, 6, or whatever the baby was currently drinking. We had wide-mouth bottles and a bottle warmer the mom supplied. Worked sooo well, and that's how I'll require it from now on if I take another infant.

I did call mom while the baby was screaming and it took her about 1 hour 20 minutes to get here, and she works no more than 20 minutes away. This morning when i spoke to mom, she had BF the baby 2 times yesterday after picking up and this morning. I did call her and told her i would not take the baby back. I told her i had all her stuff packed up and I would refund the 2 days she would not be using and she said "no I want you to keep it because you bought so much stuff for her" I said no that is ok. She sent me a text at 4:30 and said we are on our way to pick up her things and the money!! :: When she got here I ask her if she was taking off another week or two to get her adjusted to the bottle, and she said "I have only gave her the bottle since I picked her up from you yesterday" Another lie! And that she was not taking off work and family members would be watching her till they found someone else. She had just told me this morning she BF 2 times yesterday and this morning!! I think this would of been a nightmare of a mom! I am glad I ended it now.

[Unregistered]

Unbelievable...

So, I have a 12 week old BF baby who has refused, REFUSED a bottle from me, her grandma, grandpa, and husband, despite our best efforts over the last 3 weeks. I am not going back to work for another month, but was researching "baby refusing bottle" like I do almost EVERY day trying to figure out what I can do- I am desperate.

I am ABSOLUTELY horrified at this forum, site, etc. Do you really believe that this lady hasn't tried? Any really, the only person who can make even a possibility of this claim is the original poster here who was watching the baby.

I have done everything, EVERYTHING in my power to get my child to take a bottle. She just refuses. It's real. It's out there. Many, many babies experience this refusal.

I am SO, SO, SO glad that I have a caring, compassionate daycare provider who keeps her site small so she can actually tend to children who aren't perfect upon delivery. It's a partership, I pay her great money so that we can work together on issues that arise.

I just cannot believe the ugliness on this site. Unbelievable.

[cillybean83]

I think it's pretty stupid for a mother to breastfeed a baby, fully knowing that they are going to put their kid in daycare at 6 weeks of age, and then just assume that the baby will be fine with a bottle and formula...if you want to exclusively breastfeed your child for 6 weeks, not pump, not introduce a bottle, you need to be a SAHM. Period.

[cillybean83]

So, I have a 12 week old BF baby who has refused, REFUSED a bottle from me, her grandma, grandpa, and husband, despite our best efforts over the last 3 weeks. I am not going back to work for another month, but was researching "baby refusing bottle" like I do almost EVERY day trying to figure out what I can do- I am desperate.

I am ABSOLUTELY horrified at this forum, site, etc. Do you really believe that this lady hasn't tried? Any really, the only person who can make even a possibility of this claim is the original poster here who was watching the baby.

I have done everything, EVERYTHING in my power to get my child to take a bottle. She just refuses. It's real. It's out there. Many, many babies experience this refusal.

I am SO, SO, SO glad that I have a caring, compassionate daycare provider who keeps her site small so she can actually tend to children who aren't perfect upon delivery. It's a partership, I pay her great money so that we can work together on issues that arise.

I just cannot believe the ugliness on this site. Unbelievable.

who peed in your cheerios this morning? geez! Parents need to get a clue, providers aren't 2nd mommies, if you want your child to have a mommy all day who will coddle your baby and hold them 8 hours straight then stay home with your baby! I'm so sure you have a provider who does not mind at all that YOU haven't done YOUR JOB of preparing YOUR baby for daycare...you might just have a provider who doesn't have a backbone, or who is really desperate for the money and will put up with anything for a paycheck...

[daycare]

I can't stop laughing right now because the only vision I have is of my uncle who was so desperate to get his newborn son to stop crying while my aunt went shopping, he actually tried to get the baby to **** on his nipple thinking that he would stop crying. Lmao desperate times call for desperate measures

[Unregistered]

You are unique .. . .

So, I have a 12 week old BF baby who has refused, REFUSED a bottle from me, her grandma, grandpa, and husband, despite our best efforts over the last 3 weeks. I am not going back to work for another month, but was researching "baby refusing bottle" like I do almost EVERY day trying to figure out what I can do- I am desperate.

I am ABSOLUTELY horrified at this forum, site, etc. Do you really believe that this lady hasn't tried? Any really, the only person who can make even a possibility of this claim is the original poster here who was watching the baby.

I have done everything, EVERYTHING in my power to get my child to take a bottle. She just refuses. It's real. It's out there. Many, many babies experience this refusal.

I am SO, SO, SO glad that I have a caring, compassionate daycare provider who keeps her site small so she can actually tend to children who aren't perfect upon delivery. It's a partership, I pay her great money so that we can work together on issues that arise.

I just cannot believe the ugliness on this site. Unbelievable.

Well the difference here is that you recognize that you require "something above the norm" that a typical group care situation can offer and "PAY GREAT MONEY" so you will be accommodated. You also choose a provider with less children if I understand correctly. You are much different then the above situation. Most parents just assume the provider will make do or something like that. Almost all the parents expect the level of care you are paying for but THEY DO NOT PAY more. This is not about money but it is about treating a child and provider fairly and preparing for group day care. It is not ugliness. You think a provider that is desparate to get a child to eat and so concerned she is asking what to do, how to do it etc. is ugliness? Ugliness would be conitnuing to take this families money and letting this continue for another day or two days etc., while continuing to ignore the other children in the daycare that are equally as important as this baby! Why are parents so offended by reality. I am not a provider but a parent with 3 young childre. I have stayed home, worked, used home day care and a Nanny at different points in my children's lives. These provider's take care of YOUR CHILDREN and they are telling you what they need to make your child and his daily environment happy . . . and you are calling it ugliness. Think about it . . . .

[PeanutsGalore]

Ditto what everyone else said. This is important: you can not train a breastfed baby to drink from a bottle, (especially formula!) with ease! The mother, or preferably, the father has to do it.

My son would not have taken a bottle if it was formula, and he would not have taken it from me, because he would have wanted the real thing. He did take my breastmilk in a bottle from his father though. The most important thing is that the transition is hardest on the baby. I don't care how tired that mom is--she needs to pump and feed the baby her breastmilk from a bottle, or she needs to go cold turkey and feed it formula No matter what, it's best for the baby for her to do the work. It's not your job--unless you're just a very good soul.

[Little People]

So, I have a 12 week old BF baby who has refused, REFUSED a bottle from me, her grandma, grandpa, and husband, despite our best efforts over the last 3 weeks. I am not going back to work for another month, but was researching "baby refusing bottle" like I do almost EVERY day trying to figure out what I can do- I am desperate.

I am ABSOLUTELY horrified at this forum, site, etc. Do you really believe that this lady hasn't tried? Any really, the only person who can make even a possibility of this claim is the original poster here who was watching the baby.

I have done everything, EVERYTHING in my power to get my child to take a bottle. She just refuses. It's real. It's out there. Many, many babies experience this refusal.
I am SO, SO, SO glad that I have a caring, compassionate daycare provider who keeps her site small so she can actually tend to children who aren't perfect upon delivery. It's a partership, I pay her great money so that we can work together on issues that arise.[/B][/B][/B]I just cannot believe the ugliness on this site. Unbelievable.

UGLINESS ON THIS SITE?????
Why would you want to bash the OP...OH that is me::::::
First of all, you need to go back and READ all my posts on this issue!!
Would you of rather for me to let that poor little baby cry all day long?? Would you of rather for me to let that poor little baby go hungry all day long??

If a parent KNOWS they have to go back to work and is BF their baby, don't you think it would be in the baby's best interest that THE PARENTS should not only start out BF, but also bottle feed, so when the time comes for the baby to be left at daycare....THE BABY WILL BE HAPPY AND BE FED??

Sounds like to me you needed to get something off your chest...Sorry you are having a hard time getting your baby to take a bottle. I hope you are paying your WONDERFUL PROVIDER big BUCKS!! I stand by all my posts on this subject and will not and would not again take a baby that can not take a bottle, that would be child neglect and I want NO PART OF IT!!

But in your post you said you were not going back to work for another month, but then you also said "I am SO, SO, SO glad that I have a caring, compassionate daycare provider who keeps her site small so she can actually tend to children who aren't perfect upon delivery. It's a partership, I pay her great money so that we can work together on issues that arise

I would say that if your baby can not and will not take a bottle, and you leave her at daycare and she will not eat....Is that not child neglect on your part??

[Kaddidle Care]

So, I have a 12 week old BF baby who has refused, REFUSED a bottle from me, her grandma, grandpa, and husband, despite our best efforts over the last 3 weeks. I am not going back to work for another month, but was researching "baby refusing bottle" like I do almost EVERY day trying to figure out what I can do- I am desperate.

I am ABSOLUTELY horrified at this forum, site, etc. Do you really believe that this lady hasn't tried? Any really, the only person who can make even a possibility of this claim is the original poster here who was watching the baby.

I have done everything, EVERYTHING in my power to get my child to take a bottle. She just refuses. It's real. It's out there. Many, many babies experience this refusal.

I am SO, SO, SO glad that I have a caring, compassionate daycare provider who keeps her site small so she can actually tend to children who aren't perfect upon delivery. It's a partership, I pay her great money so that we can work together on issues that arise.

I just cannot believe the ugliness on this site. Unbelievable.

Well dear, welcome to parenthood. Just when you think you've figured out all the answers, they change the questions.

Making the commitment to breast feed is just that, a commitment. You may have to ask for an extension on your work leave but things should get better in another month when you can start to introduce cereal to your baby. You're going to have to wean the baby off 1 feeding at a time and be consistant about it. You can't try it at 9:00 am one day and Noon 3 days later. Your morning and evening feedings will be the last to go and hopefully you will be able to continue those two feedings after you go back to work.

You might want to start a thread on the Parent's forum asking for weaning suggestions or search the net.

Please don't attack the forum members here for being passionate about their jobs.

Nobody said it would be easy.

[Unregistered]

"I just cannot believe the ugliness on this site. Unbelievable."

I agree. Its in almost every thread. It makes me sad to think that people who make a profession teaching children to be caring individuals are actually harboring such feelings. Kindness is a way of life, not something you put on for show. Babies know when you hate their parents.

I had to feed my baby a bottle before I left the hospital. Required. I pumped from week one and had a stash all along. He drank from me, sitters and family, milk, milk and formula and straight formula. The week I had to pump and dump because of meds he almost drank nothing. From anyone. Two trips to the MD didn't resolve this.

Further - do not underestimate your expertise - educate the parents because they are in unfamiliar territory. Not everyone CAN be a sahm. Its practically illegal in some states unless you have a really big bank balance. Not everyone has a large extended family. I was really lucky to work from home during the early months.

The transition to care is something that has a lot of bumps. I can't imagine the agony this child must have felt. Everyone in the group has to work together, smooth the transition and remain kind.

[SandeeAR]

Just noticed this thread was over a year old and removed my post.

[Unregistered]

???

I agree. Its in almost every thread. It makes me sad to think that people who make a profession teaching children to be caring individuals are actually harboring such feelings. Kindness is a way of life, not something you put on for show. Babies know when you hate their parents.

I had to feed my baby a bottle before I left the hospital. Required. I pumped from week one and had a stash all along. He drank from me, sitters and family, milk, milk and formula and straight formula. The week I had to pump and dump because of meds he almost drank nothing. From anyone. Two trips to the MD didn't resolve this.

Further - do not underestimate your expertise - educate the parents because they are in unfamiliar territory. Not everyone CAN be a sahm. Its practically illegal in some states unless you have a really big bank balance. Not everyone has a large extended family. I was really lucky to work from home during the early months.

The transition to care is something that has a lot of bumps. I can't imagine the agony this child must have felt. Everyone in the group has to work together, smooth the transition and remain kind.

I am genuinely interested in what you mean as I am confused by your post. Harboring what feelings? an example of the ugliness? I am a parent and personally feel that these providers are trying to help.

[Unregistered]

Are we on the same thread?

Just noticed this thread was over a year old and removed my post.

The original post is just over two months old . . . It as made relevant again yesterday by the unregistered BFing Mom that introduced the "ugliness" concept. By the way, just trying to help in case you have something to say

[Kaddidle Care]

Not everyone CAN be a sahm. Its practically illegal in some states unless you have a really big bank balance.

Illegal? Please quote your source for that.

I wondered why Daycare providers were so busy. Who knew? ::