Newborn Won't Eat & Cries..HELP!!

[Unregistered]

Shame!

I am extremely frustrated with the way you all are speaking about this parent as though she intentionally decided to allow her breastfed child to starve. She does the right thing by breastfeeding. If she's a first time mom she's had a child for a whole 6 weeks. She's no expert. She's doing the best she can. I wish you'd all take some parent 101 classes.
You're speaking about this parent as though she's a liar and negelctful. Shame on you!
I hope she finds someone willing to work with her.

[Little People]

I am extremely frustrated with the way you all are speaking about this parent as though she intentionally decided to allow her breastfed child to starve. She does the right thing by breastfeeding. If she's a first time mom she's had a child for a whole 6 weeks. She's no expert. She's doing the best she can. I wish you'd all take some parent 101 classes.
You're speaking about this parent as though she's a liar and neglectful. Shame on you!
I hope she finds someone willing to work with her.

A 6 week old baby comes to daycare at 8am and is finally picked up by dcd at 4:30 and baby still has not taken a bottle and mom is still working till 9pm and baby still did not eat for dad.

So let me see...that would be 13 hours with about 2oz of formula IF THAT. So you think that it is ok for a baby to go that long without formula??
When mom KNEW at birth she MUST return to work. She KNEW baby would HAVE to be at daycare. Then why in the world would mom go AGAINST me and not introduce a bottle to this baby??? She had over 2 weeks before she brought the infant!

Again I stand by my original posts!! I would NEVER have even considered sending my child to daycare if she could not take a bottle, I would of taken a few more weeks to get her ready. Again mom was WRONG and I felt so sorry for that little baby.

And you know what....I really hope she did find someone who could help her too. I was not going to be a part of watching a infant that could not eat while in my care!! THAT MAKES ME A GREAT PROVIDER...FOR CARING!!

[Little People]

I am extremely frustrated with the way you all are speaking about this parent as though she intentionally decided to allow her breastfed child to starve. She does the right thing by breastfeeding. If she's a first time mom she's had a child for a whole 6 weeks. She's no expert. She's doing the best she can. I wish you'd all take some parent 101 classes.
You're speaking about this parent as though she's a liar and negelctful. Shame on you!
I hope she finds someone willing to work with her.

Then why did the mom not start her on a bottle...KNOWING she enrolled this infant and KNOWING that we spoke that she needed to start the infant on a bottle?? She had over 2 weeks to do this!!

You stated she is doing the best she can then why would she bring a 6 week old baby to daycare knowing she did not work with the baby on taking a bottle?
Again I stand by my original post!!

[Blackcat31]

I have a newly enrolled first time mom who wants her child to have breast milk instead of formula. She works full time and knows her child has tobe in care with someone other than her or her DH for a minimum of 8 hours per day, 5 days a week.

Her solution? She pumps her breast milk and puts it in a bottle so that the child gets the breast milk and it's benefits but puts it in a bottle so that the child will actually get the food she needs. I personally think that was a bit clever....good job on her part...she knew her responsibilities as a parent and still maintained the benefits for the child. As provider, I applaud her efforts to make everyone happy and to make it work!!!

[cillybean83]

I am extremely frustrated with the way you all are speaking about this parent as though she intentionally decided to allow her breastfed child to starve. She does the right thing by breastfeeding. If she's a first time mom she's had a child for a whole 6 weeks. She's no expert. She's doing the best she can. I wish you'd all take some parent 101 classes.
You're speaking about this parent as though she's a liar and negelctful. Shame on you!
I hope she finds someone willing to work with her.

Um...she did intentionally decide to allow her breastfed child to starve....so I don't understand the disconnect.

She knew when the baby was born that she had to work, she still DECIDED to exclusively breastfeed

She DECIDED not to pump

She DECIDED not to introduce a bottle

She DECIDED to go against the providers wishes of having baby bottle fed for a week prior to starting daycare

She DECIDED to take over an hour to come feed her starving child...when she was 20 minutes away

I don't know about you...but I see a pattern forming...

Just because you CAN make a baby, doesn't mean you're ready to be a parent, and obviously if you don't have enough sense to know that your kid needs to eat...then maybe that "mother" is the one who needs a parenting class, not the providers who want a baby to be able to eat when they're hungry...

[MyAngels]

I have a newly enrolled first time mom who wants her child to have breast milk instead of formula. She works full time and knows her child has tobe in care with someone other than her or her DH for a minimum of 8 hours per day, 5 days a week.

Her solution? She pumps her breast milk and puts it in a bottle so that the child gets the breast milk and it's benefits but puts it in a bottle so that the child will actually get the food she needs. I personally think that was a bit clever....good job on her part...she knew her responsibilities as a parent and still maintained the benefits for the child. As provider, I applaud her efforts to make everyone happy and to make it work!!!

There must be a movement afoot, here. Every infant I've had over the past few years has been breastfed exclusively, and their loving mothers made sure that their babies were already experienced with taking their milk from a bottle before they started care. Imagine that, a mother who does what she needs to do to make sure her helpless infant will be able to eat comfortably at daycare .

I can't even imagine (really - I literally can't) how awful the OP felt having to care for this poor child.

[nikia]

Im still stuck on its illegal to be a sahm:confused: maybe impossible without a large bank account in this economy but illegal I must check into this ::

[Little People]

Um...she did intentionally decide to allow her breastfed child to starve....so I don't understand the disconnect.

She knew when the baby was born that she had to work, she still DECIDED to exclusively breastfeed

She DECIDED not to pump

She DECIDED not to introduce a bottle

She DECIDED to go against the providers wishes of having baby bottle fed for a week prior to starting daycare

She DECIDED to take over an hour to come feed her starving child...when she was 20 minutes away

I don't know about you...but I see a pattern forming...

Just because you CAN make a baby, doesn't mean you're ready to be a parent, and obviously if you don't have enough sense to know that your kid needs to eat...then maybe that "mother" is the one who needs a parenting class, not the providers who want a baby to be able to eat when they're hungry...

Very well said cillybean!! I think we got some trolls on here trying to keep this thing going and think they will upset me ::::::

I don't wear my feelings on my shoulders

There are some moms that want providers to to the mothers work

Thank You for a great input!!

[Little People]

Im still stuck on its illegal to be a sahm:confused: maybe impossible without a large bank account in this economy but illegal I must check into this ::

That was a funny post:::::: Let me know too if you find that info

[MyAngels]

Im still stuck on its illegal to be a sahm:confused: maybe impossible without a large bank account in this economy but illegal I must check into this ::

Maybe we could use it as a marketing tool .

[Little People]

Maybe we could use it as a marketing tool .

Think we could make a big bank account from it

[cillybean83]

yup it's probably a troll...but still this kind of stuff makes me mad! You should have to pass a test to be a parent...because some of these so called mothers are EPIC FAILS when it comes to parenting...no lie.

[Unregistered]

Do you all really care for babies?

I was the "troll" who originally came here to state that I can't believe the ugliness on this site. And yet after my post, most of the posters here says that the mom was irresponsible for not introducing a bottle to the baby.

What you all fail to respect is MY original post, the reason I found this thread/site in the first place. I have been pumping every day since my dd was 6 weeks old. I have been attempting to feed her a bottle EVERY day since then. We have tried it when she's sleepy, when she's awake, in the morning, in the evening, with me holding her nursing style, with her propped in a boppy, with her sitting in her bouncer. Grandma has tried, Grandpa has tried. My husband has tried.

There is just a population of breastfeed babies that refuse the bottle. Do your research. It's real. I am one of those miserable moms who is desperate to try and teach my baby to take a bottle.

In addition to researching this topic, please also research the benefits of breastmilk vs. formula. Our hospital/doctors/pediatrician are all HUGE advocates of the benefits of breastmilk. There is even new research that is showing that women who breastfeed for 4+ years over the course of raising their family have a significantly lower rate of breast cancer.

All of this I say to explain to you that many educated women, like myself, ARE TRYING. DESPERATELY trying. And 'taking a few more weeks' I doubt would be productive in my case. I have tried since week 6, and she is now 13 weeks. I go back to work in 4 weeks.

So please, PLEASE explain to me what I should do to make it easier on you. Sheesh, kick a girl when she's down! What happened to 'care' in the word 'caregiver'? Don't mask that you believe you are truly caring by sending the child home. Partner with the parent. HELP them.

It's proven that many children REFUSE the bottle from the mom because they can sense that the "goods" are only a few layers of fabric away. So in all actuality, it is usually a spouse, or patient caregiver who helps these babies develop this skill.

Again, this is just sad to hear everyone of you patting each other on the back like "yeah, you tell 'em!"

[MyAngels]

I was the "troll" who originally came here to state that I can't believe the ugliness on this site. And yet after my post, most of the posters here says that the mom was irresponsible for not introducing a bottle to the baby. There is no question that the parent that the OP talked about was irresponsible.

What you all fail to respect is MY original post, the reason I found this thread/site in the first place. I have been pumping every day since my dd was 6 weeks old. I have been attempting to feed her a bottle EVERY day since then. We have tried it when she's sleepy, when she's awake, in the morning, in the evening, with me holding her nursing style, with her propped in a boppy, with her sitting in her bouncer. Grandma has tried, Grandpa has tried. My husband has tried. In your first post you stated that you'd been trying for three weeks, which means you started at 9 weeks. I'm sorry to say it, but you probably should have started with both the bottle and breast from birth if you knew you were going to be continuing to breastfeed once you returned to work. I realize that's not helpful to you now, but it is what it is.

There is just a population of breastfeed babies that refuse the bottle. Do your research. It's real. I am one of those miserable moms who is desperate to try and teach my baby to take a bottle. Perhaps you can arrange to take a bit more time before you can return to work? If not, I'm glad that you have a terrific provider all lined up.

In addition to researching this topic, please also research the benefits of breastmilk vs. formula. Our hospital/doctors/pediatrician are all HUGE advocates of the benefits of breastmilk. There is even new research that is showing that women who breastfeed for 4+ years over the course of raising their family have a significantly lower rate of breast cancer. I don't believe anyone has questioned the benefits of breastfeeding.

All of this I say to explain to you that many educated women, like myself, ARE TRYING. DESPERATELY trying. And 'taking a few more weeks' I doubt would be productive in my case. I have tried since week 6, and she is now 13 weeks. I go back to work in 4 weeks. If your baby just won't take a bottle you may have to arrange time througout the day to pick him or her up to feed them, as I'm sure you don't want your baby to go without food all day.

So please, PLEASE explain to me what I should do to make it easier on you. Sheesh, kick a girl when she's down! What happened to 'care' in the word 'caregiver'? Don't mask that you believe you are truly caring by sending the child home. Partner with the parent. HELP them.

It's proven that many children REFUSE the bottle from the mom because they can sense that the "goods" are only a few layers of fabric away. So in all actuality, it is usually a spouse, or patient caregiver who helps these babies develop this skill.

Again, this is just sad to hear everyone of you patting each other on the back like "yeah, you tell 'em!"

Hopefully you will be able to resolve this before you return to work. Good luck.

[Kaddidle Care]

I was the "troll" who originally came here to state that I can't believe the ugliness on this site.

Please make reference to which Unregistered posts you have made. It looks to me like this thread has 2 or 3 different unregistered posters.

Better yet, register and make up a name so that at least we can figure out what posts you are talking about.

This is confusing. :confused:

BTW - MY unregistered post https://www.daycare.com/forum/showpo...1&postcount=15