Would You Be Offended?

[midaycare]

I wouldn’t be offended. It is their child you would be potentially providing care for. I would have shared, Mr. Doe you’ve asked me the role of my 12 year old in my program. I’ve shared it. Do you have other questions unrelated to my 12 year old?

I see the big problem as him not thinking she "works".

[NeedaVaca]

I think it's a good idea to have a lot of your own questions written down, turn the interview back towards them. Interviewing goes both ways and parents tend to forget they are also being interviewed.

[midaycare]

I think it's a good idea to have a lot of your own questions written down, turn the interview back towards them. Interviewing goes both ways and parents tend to forget they are also being interviewed.

I do this. It works well

[Solandia]

Yeah...no.

My dh is a health & safety guy, he might check every fire extinguisher that he passes, and will ask about most common procedures & safety plans. But he wouldn't be in-your-face and looking for a "lie" or interrogating/rewording questions. That guy sound like a douche.

I am continually surprised that MORE parents do not ask about safety plans/emergency plans. Those are very important, and it is shocking how many caregivers have NONE, or don't even know their own plans well enough to explain them when asked. So a caregiver being hesitant over explaining this stuff is a red flag to dh.

[Cat Herder]

:: I would have laughed and gave him a thorough rundown of my written emergency plan outlines, complete with phone tree, transportation options and secondary location plan. He sounds like an algorithm kind of guy and I can respect that. One guess who is an algorithm kind of gal....

** My educated guess: He wants to hear baby will be up and safe from possible harm from every other human (other kids included) when not under >>your<< 100% active supervision until such time as baby can defend him/herself and report back to papa.

IMHO, He wants to know why you did not go back to your old career to predict if you will or won't leave them hanging when another job option comes in. Algorithm people want to form their own family algorithm, unscheduled change from any source is not welcomed. ::::.

If this was a 4 year old I would probably have a different response..

[KidGrind]

I see the big problem as him not thinking she "works".

We come from different perspectives. As long as I get paid, what they think on their dime is their business.

I offered the OP an example of how I handle a DCP asking the same question over and over.

[sugar buzz]

I've gotten three angry texts from them so far this morning. I just feel sick. He lives in our neighborhood and was referred by a man my husband works with.:confused:

[Unregistered]

He is angry because he failed the interview? Maybe he was not aware the interview went both ways? An email requiring no further contact may be needed.

[CraftyMom]

I've gotten three angry texts from them so far this morning. I just feel sick. He lives in our neighborhood and was referred by a man my husband works with.:confused:

Had they stated if they were interested in the spot? What did you say to them?

I think you definitely dodged a bullet

[Unregistered]

I'd keep a record of all texts and emails too. Gut feeling is he may attempt to stir up trouble, as I suspect he is used to getting his own way.

[Blackcat31]

We come from different perspectives. As long as I get paid, what they think on their dime is their business.

I offered the OP an example of how I handle a DCP asking the same question over and over.

I agree...

I don't care what they call me or what they think I do or don't do as far as a profession or career... As long as they pay me on time and respect my policies.

I've gotten three angry texts from them so far this morning. I just feel sick. He lives in our neighborhood and was referred by a man my husband works with.:confused:

Why are they angry?

Because they wanted to come to your program and you said no?

[TheGoodLife]

I've gotten three angry texts from them so far this morning. I just feel sick. He lives in our neighborhood and was referred by a man my husband works with.:confused:

What are the angry texts about? Is he mad you didn't accept them? I'd respond once saying, "I'm sorry, I do not feel we are a good fit and I wish you the best in your child care search. Please refrain from contacting me again."

What a jerk!

[Cat Herder]

I've gotten three angry texts from them so far this morning. I just feel sick. He lives in our neighborhood and was referred by a man my husband works with.:confused:

Why? What is he upset about?

[midaycare]

I agree...

I don't care what they call me or what they think I do or don't do as far as a profession or career... As long as they pay me on time and respect my policies.

That's a deal breaker for me. I don't care what they call me, but not thinking what I do is an actual "job" or "work"? That's just disrespect and signs of bad things to come.

But to each their own! I like working with parents I get along with. Call me picky

[KiddieCahoots]

That's a deal breaker for me. I don't care what they call me, but not thinking what I do is an actual "job" or "work"? That's just disrespect and signs of bad things to come.

But to each their own! I like working with parents I get along with. Call me picky

I agree.....
For a working relationship to start off on the right foot, feel respect has to be a part of it, not just respect for $