Do You Think We Are Completely Biased?

[Unregistered]

I started reading here when I was looking for a provider for my 3 yo. I have to admit, I had to stop coming, even though initially I really enjoyed reading here (not a provider bit a working mom - 8 kids so not inexperienced).

I would read all the venting about kids that cry or are picky or are generally difficult and the advice I'd always just term, there's better kids and parents. And that made me very nervous. My little girl had a very difficult time adjusting to care and I'll be honest, you all (mostly) seemed a little heartless. Now I just try to remember that people don't usually talk about the good, they talk about the bad. And I hope and pray that my day care provider doesn't term us for crying. :-)

[CraftyMom]

I started reading here when I was looking for a provider for my 3 yo. I have to admit, I had to stop coming, even though initially I really enjoyed reading here (not a provider bit a working mom - 8 kids so not inexperienced).

I would read all the venting about kids that cry or are picky or are generally difficult and the advice I'd always just term, there's better kids and parents. And that made me very nervous. My little girl had a very difficult time adjusting to care and I'll be honest, you all (mostly) seemed a little heartless. Now I just try to remember that people don't usually talk about the good, they talk about the bad. And I hope and pray that my day care provider doesn't term us for crying. :-)

I don't think anyone here terms just for crying. Kids cry, especially those first few weeks. It's the ones that cry incessantly all day for more than a reasonable amount of time, making it difficult to carry out everyday tasks while caring for multiple children. Usually there is something else along with the crying that also isn't resolved within a reasonable amount of time and disrupts the entire daycare.

Providers will do what they can to help the child adjust first, working with the parents.

Nobody here (that I know of) terms a child for crying when they are new.

[hope]

I am biased. When I started out in dc I was nieve and made a few mistakes. Once I was burned a few times from parents I looked for some answers to help me figure out how to build a better relationship with parents to make it work for both them and me. I love my job from 5 minutes after drop off till 5 minutes before pick up. I absolutely despise my job when it comes to dealing with the parents. It has made me bitter towards most parents. I will always love the kids and enjoy caring for them. I come here with my problems to find ways not to term. If I were relying solely on my opinion alone I would term most of my families. Lol! The other providers on here are biased bc they have seen and dealt with the same issues time and time again.

[lblanke]

Yes (coming from a parent), but not in a bad way. Many of you have just seen before. Once you have been there, done that, it becomes easier to tackle the next time it comes up.

[sugar buzz]

I think it has helped me stay more objective, now that my kids are in school...being on the other side, as well. (In particular, there's a school secretary who has total disregard for any parent who walks into that office. You can sense her annoyance while you're turning the door knob...) I also wish that more parents would post here, in order to understand other perspectives on the more grey areas. However, issues like not paying and not following directions are more of a respect issue and universal to any business.