Terminated Family is Hurt/Angry

[crazydaycarelady]

nannyde that s so funny! I used to have a friend who spoke her mind and didn't sugar coat anything. We always joked that I needed to put her on the payroll as my "secretary."

dani987 - don't feel bad - they would dump you in a heartbeat if they felt it was right for them!

[Indianadaycare]

SO sorry you've had to go through this! They took advantage of your kind attitude all along. I had a dcf like this years ago. I had a "bad feeling" during the interview, but took them anyway. Bad idea! It was a horrible, stress filled relationship for the whole three years! Ended badly; even though I loved their little boy very much and he and I bonded so well. Some parents are just....difficult! :roll eyes: Lesson to me: go with my gut instinct during initial interview and first two weeks! (when you can easily term during "trial period")
I would not have any more communication ever with them.

Now. Enjoy that wonderful feeling now that this family is gone!! :hug:

[Shell]

Oh please, how pathetic they just had to have he final word! I left belongings outside for my problem family, too. I didn't hear from them until tax time- dcm was the most unorganized person I had ever met, and emailed asking for the info. I gave it to her, just the info- no hello or any polite small talk, and she wrote back, "thank you". That was the end of them! Did you take care of the tax stuff? Glad this is over for you :hug:

[dani987]

Again, thank you so much. This whole thing was so ugly and hurtful but I'm over the worst of it and feeling great about moving forward thanks in part to encouragement and understanding from all of you. I'm sorry for anyone who has ever dealt with people like this (Indiana daycare--3years!!!?!) but it sure helps to know that I'm not alone. I did have to laugh when she said not to contact her--it made me think of someone getting fired, then yelling "I quit!" LOL

[cheerfuldom]

Just an update:
Throughout the weekend, DCM continued to send messages and wanted to meet with me to "have closure". I told her I wasn't comfortable with that at this time but she kept insisting. She needed to come and retrieve her belongings anyway because I had a supply of milk and she was using that as a reason to try to interact. I had all of her things ready expecting her to text me and say she was down the street, could she come by? at some random time. Sure enough, that's what happened. I wasn't home, but I told her that I would have someone at my house place her things outside and she was welcome to go by and pick them up. I had a cooler out and instructed my nephew to put the milk in it and put that and the bag of clothes, etc. outside on a little table on my porch. I was very careful to get everything but there there was a pacifier that we had lost while out on a walk and--Cheerfuldom called it!--DCM texted me saying that there should be one more pacifier! I messaged back that it had been lost but I would be happy to buy her another and send it to her. She called. I didnt answer. Then she texted to tell me that I'm ridiculous and to please dont ever contact her again. Not a problem!

ha. I knew it! Parents play the same game over and over and what they don't know is that we already know all the moves we can make and we are ready for it. One step ahead baby!

[cheerfuldom]

Closure = You.Are.Termed

What the **** does she want from you? Anyhow I need All Knowing Daycare Whisperer Extraordinaire & Professional Parent Reader NannyDe to break this down for me.

I do not get it.

Nanny says its like a break up. You dumped them and they are not happy. They want the upper hand and the last word if they cant sweet talk their way back into the daycare. She would have been "nice" to you in person, acted confused about what happened and try to guilt you into keeping them. Then when you said no, you would have had a confrontation on your porch. You did the right thing in refusing to see her.

[nannyde]

They can't square up how an employee can fire the boss.

[SignMeUp]

They can't square up how an employee can fire the boss.

[KidGrind]

They can't square up how an employee can fire the boss.

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Oh when will they understand to be my boss it will cost them a whole lot more?

[itlw8]

they actually do have a point. You broke the contract not them . So They do not have to pay you for any additional time if they do not attend.

As long as it is in your contract about no refunds then you should be fine on that point. But if not you may owe them a refund if they choose not to attend as you broke the contract not them.

[dani987]

they actually do have a point. You broke the contract not them . So They do not have to pay you for any additional time if they do not attend.

As long as it is in your contract about no refunds then you should be fine on that point. But if not you may owe them a refund if they choose not to attend as you broke the contract not them.

I did everything according to contract.

[Zeke]

I would do as most above said..

I would terminate immediately. IMMEDIATELY.

I had a family like this years ago.. in fact the baby girl was exactly the age as the one you have... and she screamed ALL DAY EVERY DAY. Mom said to call if it ever gets too bad. In 6 weeks I called 2 times... dad came *storming* up the stairs and said 'THIS is just NOT GOING TO WORK!' I was like, ya know, you are right- this is NOT working! ... he took his babe and stomped out. He was having a day with the oldest that day so actually had 2 of their kiddos enrolled. I didn't hear a WORD from them for THREE DAYS. I sent a term letter on the 3rd day and filled both spots. That eve I received a call they would bring both the next day. Told them they were no longer enrolled and the spots were filled... he cause a LOT of trouble for me On a funny note... the oldest one was kicked out of another daycare and a preschool after I was done with them... he was the WORST kiddo I have EVER had. The girl just screamed but the boy actually hit, kicked and was down right mean

NOT WORTH it... just boot them.

PS I have in my policy they must pay for the 2 weeks no matter WHY they are terminated. If the behavior of teir childre OR them.. is a result of having to term... you still should be paid for the contracted days