How Old Is The Oldest You Have Had A Non Special Needs Child In Diapers?

[Unregistered]

I currently have a 3.5 year old who has been showing signs of readiness for about 6 months. I have shared advice on how to potty train with her parents that I used with my daughters (potty-trained at 20 months, 2.3 years, and 18 months). The mom says the little girl is "just stubborn." She will go on the toilet sometimes when I put her on it, but she does not tell me when she wets. She weighs about 60 pounds and when she wets 2/4 times she wets completely through the diapers!! Also, diapers are EXTREMELY hard to get on her and she gets sores from where the diapers are too tight. I have mentioned that to mom as well and she says they just don't make diapers big enough. I want to suggest adult diapers, but I also want to push for potty training.
She does have a speech and language delay, but can say "wet" because I have been working on it A LOT with her. She is by far my most difficult child I have in my daycare and makes my days quite stressful :/

[Leigh]

I currently have a 3.5 year old who has been showing signs of readiness for about 6 months. I have shared advice on how to potty train with her parents that I used with my daughters (potty-trained at 20 months, 2.3 years, and 18 months). The mom says the little girl is "just stubborn." She will go on the toilet sometimes when I put her on it, but she does not tell me when she wets. She weighs about 60 pounds and when she wets 2/4 times she wets completely through the diapers!! Also, diapers are EXTREMELY hard to get on her and she gets sores from where the diapers are too tight. I have mentioned that to mom as well and she says they just don't make diapers big enough. I want to suggest adult diapers, but I also want to push for potty training.
She does have a speech and language delay, but can say "wet" because I have been working on it A LOT with her. She is by far my most difficult child I have in my daycare and makes my days quite stressful :/

Is she wearing a size 7 diaper? I can put a size 7 on my 50 pound, 5.5 year old if I run out of overnight pull ups (he still wets the bed about 10% of nights).

[Meeko]

I despise these types of threads.

Attaching a number to a developmental milestone is not appropriate and does nothing but make those that don't fit into that time-frame feel like bad parents.

Yes, parental approach can definitely influence success or failure but toilet training is a personal and unique skill that everyone needs to develop at THEIR own pace.

The only role parents or providers should take in these process is knowing how to recognize signs or readiness and to support those needs as they develop.

When that happens, training takes only a couple days and is not painful, stressful or lengthy.

Every child is different. Even those from the same family. I have two boys and two girls. (All adults now) My second boy decided at 22 months that he wasn't going to wear a diaper and wanted to be like his brother (3 years older). My husband smiled and said "OK" (insert eye roll) expecting to have a mess ten minutes later. Never happened. The kid REALLY wanted to be potty trained! Good thing too, as he's a big kid. 9lb baby....a month early Now 32 years old, 6'4" with shoulders in different time zones...

My youngest daughter was days away from being 3 before she trained. She's a bit OCD about cleanliness...has been since a baby. I think she was saw diapers as "safe". She worried terribly about "making a mess" on the floor and wasn't confident enough in her own abilities.

Two kids...same parents...totally different potty training experience.

[MOM OF 4]

I had a 5yo dcb that was not PT, but 2yo dcd was. The parent babied the boy so much because when he was little, he had a small procedure to repair a murmur. While her doctor told her he could live life as normally as ANY other child, she would not allow it. She was in fear something would happen to him. When I got him, he could not even take off his own pants (sweat type!) or put on a jacket. He was completely reliant on her, according to her. Her daughter, however, was fully PT, was able to put on and take off shoes, place on a jacket, and much more!

When dcb was here, mom had admitted that she was very fearful to upset her son, and never let him cry. It was a night/day difference between how she treated both kids.

I didn't put up with that nonsense at my home. I told her that I would not favor any children, and what my expectations would be of him, being he was a fully-capable child. She said "OK" and signed him up.

The first week was so hard, he wouldn't do jack! The second week, he was doing a lot more, and by the 3rd month, we not only had him changing his clothes, but we finally got him on the potty. It took 6 long months, and a lot of fits, and some really disgusting artwork in the bathroom, a clothed shower, and a lot of stress, but things finally clicked.

I firmly believe if she had just treated him normally, things would have been easier on both her and her husband, as well as the child (and me!).

Sometimes, parents have to just admit when they are defeated and call in for some help. I guess in a way, that's what my former DCM did. He did not go to Kinder in diapers.:: He was very close to not being allowed to go. He was fully trained in July and school began that same August

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I had a child almost 5, the size of a 6/7yo, not trained (or even close).

I now require children over 3.5 to be trained prior to enrolling. *I* am uncomfortable with it past that age.

Yes. It's far outside of my comfort zone and is why I put the 4.5yo age limit on it!

[Unregistered]

Is she wearing a size 7 diaper? I can put a size 7 on my 50 pound, 5.5 year old if I run out of overnight pull ups (he still wets the bed about 10% of nights).

She is finally in size 7, mom didn't think they made anything bigger than a 6, so I helped her look it up and found 7s. However she is not very tall and most of her weight is in her mid section. They are still very tight and dig into her sides.