How Old Is The Oldest You Have Had A Non Special Needs Child In Diapers?

[Crazy Baby]

I care for 3.5 year old twin girls who are not really even close to being trained yet. I only have them one day per week though, so am not sure what their parents are doing at home with them.

I recently started attempting to train my 2.5 year old son and it is not going so well, so I have backed off.

[Leigh]

4 years, 9 months. The child's parents had tried to train him way too young. He wound up with several blockages, and was very resistant to training. He didn't start using the toilet at my home until after the last blockage was resolved and I told him that I am done changing his diapers. Once he started changing himself, he started using the toilet. He has been using it 100% of the time here for about a month. At home, mom still changes him, and he still wears a diaper. She refuses to make him change himself, and she thinks I'm mean for not doing it. At home, he's also peeing in places other than the toilet or diaper: mom's clothes, the carpet...I don't understand why she puts him in a diaper!

[daycarediva]

I find the longer a parent waits, the harder it is. Right now I have a child almost 4, not even close to trained.

The rest are all 2-5, everyone but the just turned 2yo is trained (she has 1-2 wet diapers/week here, so close!!)

This is an old thread- and I just HAD to add that the child I was referring to above was terminated this year and was STILL not trained.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Nearly 4 (a boy). I have a 3.5yo girl here part time who the Mom has not even begun to try training so I'm waiting to see how that plays out.

[Unregistered]

Personally

I know a completely non special needs 11 year old who is still in diapers.

[hwichlaz]

I've never had a typically developing child still in diapers at age 4.

I've found, in most cases...if you wait until closer to age 3, they tend to train very quickly. Before that...you're watching the clock, running them to the bathroom constantly..and YOU are the one that's actually being trained, . A kid that is really ready will be mostly trained in less than a week.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Nearly 4 (a boy). I have a 3.5yo girl here part time who the Mom has not even begun to try training so I'm waiting to see how that plays out.

After this post last year I had a 4.5-year-old little boy (the size of a 5/6-year-old) who was not potty trained. I asked if there were special needs after a certain point and they said no. Their Doctor told them it was normal. I said I have never had a child this old not be potty trained...

My new cut off for attending here and NOT being potty trained is 4.5. I issued this change in my policies (previously there was no defined age they must be trained by) while that family attended here. It was uncomfortable to change a child that old.

[Unregistered]

5!! we currently have a untrained 5 year old showing no instr est! drives me batty! mom says it will come with time.

[Leigh]

5!! we currently have a untrained 5 year old showing no instr est! drives me batty! mom says it will come with time.

I had a nearly 5 year old who refused to train (his parents started him WAY too young trying to force train him). I finally stopped changing him. I told him that he could do it himself because he was too old for me to change him any longer. He was miraculously trained at my house after changing his own poopy diaper a few times. He didn't train at home until Mom put the choice in his hands a couple of months later by doing the same thing.

[Snowmom]

My own DC experience:
The oldest in my care was a 4.5 year old dcb who still used pull ups (held poop to the last possible second).

I do not initiate, nor am I responsible for potty training children. I support a "ready to train" child who has already started the process at home and been successful.
I require pull ups and I have the say as to when they stop using them here.

I do not believe there is a magic age or magic method. It happens when it happens and it's not worth stressing over.

[Blackcat31]

I do not believe there is a magic age or magic method. It happens when it happens and it's not worth stressing over.

I despise these types of threads.

Attaching a number to a developmental milestone is not appropriate and does nothing but make those that don't fit into that time-frame feel like bad parents.

Yes, parental approach can definitely influence success or failure but toilet training is a personal and unique skill that everyone needs to develop at THEIR own pace.

The only role parents or providers should take in these process is knowing how to recognize signs or readiness and to support those needs as they develop.

When that happens, training takes only a couple days and is not painful, stressful or lengthy.

[daycarediva]

After this post last year I had a 4.5-year-old little boy (the size of a 5/6-year-old) who was not potty trained. I asked if there were special needs after a certain point and they said no. Their Doctor told them it was normal. I said I have never had a child this old not be potty trained...

My new cut off for attending here and NOT being potty trained is 4.5. I issued this change in my policies (previously there was no defined age they must be trained by) while that family attended here. It was uncomfortable to change a child that old.

I had a child almost 5, the size of a 6/7yo, not trained (or even close).

I now require children over 3.5 to be trained prior to enrolling. *I* am uncomfortable with it past that age.

[Laurie]

I despise these types of threads.

Attaching a number to a developmental milestone is not appropriate and does nothing but make those that don't fit into that time-frame feel like bad parents.

Well said BC
Why do people feel the need to do this!?! I've never understood it.

[Annalee]

I had a child almost 5, the size of a 6/7yo, not trained (or even close).

I now require children over 3.5 to be trained prior to enrolling. *I* am uncomfortable with it past that age.

My experience has anyone over 3.5 yr old not potty-trained not in the norm for my daycare. I have never had a child in a diaper or pullup beyond that age.

[CeriBear]

I know a completely non special needs 11 year old who is still in diapers.

I really find this hard to believe. Even if this child did not have any developmental delays to be still wearing diapers at 11 is not non-special needs. Could this child have some type of physical problem that causes loss of bladder or bowel control?