Just Received a Text From DCM

[lovemykidstoo]

I still think that dcg is going to expect to take the toaster back home at the end of the day. No way is she going to leave it there. Still amazing to me how these people cater to their kids. I didn't even think of the angle that she won by dad letting her bring her toaster. She certainly did. She learned that even if she broke your toaster, it really didn't matter, she still got to play with one. I probably woudl have told dad he coudln't see the toaster because it was BROKEN and thrown away due to his kid

[MissAnn]

Egads....pick up time is going to be adventurous today.

[deliberateliterate]

Good point, the whole idea was that she broke it after being told not to do something and didn't listen. The toaster was taken away. Now she's getting her way by dad bringing her own toaster.

FWIW I can't see ANY of my dck's nicely sharing a toy that they brought from home that they are now forced to GIVE to the daycare and let the others paly with it willingly. Just wouldn't go well. I would end up taking it away from everyone due to fighting over it I'm sure

After giving it some thought, I change my response to DCD to the above. The kid just had her toy replaced and she sounds like the type to not share "her" toaster well. I'd put the toaster away for a long while...until it has long been forgotten. Then DCG doesn't have one at home or at your house. If questioned by mom, just tell her that you regularly rotate toys, and this one has been rotated until DCG doesn't see it as hers anymore.

[deliberateliterate]

And I didn't even think of the fact that DCD asked to see the toy before he offered the replacement. I guess to see if it was broken enough to warrant replacing!?

[Unregistered]

Did Dcd take the broken toaster with him? Maybe he is going to try and fix it at home and then Dcg can use that one.

[e.j.]

I would do as Nannyde suggests by giving back the toaster. Tell the dad that you understand that he was trying to "make it right" but that what would really help to "make it right" is if he and mom support your discipline decisions in the future. Tell him that all the children, not just his own DD, are learning to listen to direction through the absence of the broken play toaster (broken because a child didn't listen), and that the lesson will go unlearned if you accept his replacement.

Love this!

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Put the toaster up and don't use it at all today. Hide it when they aren't looking and have her spend the rest of the day looking for it. Give it back to them tonight and tell them you don't need it.

It looks like they were doing something good but what they did was make sure she won. She gets a toaster to play with even though she broke one. She is going to want it back. This wasn't about replacing. A kid her age doesn't understand that. It is about you saying no toaster and her pitching a fit for one and them making sure she gets toaster after your no.

Put it up and hand it back and tell them no toys from home. The kid needs to be toaster free for months. She can get her toaster on at home.

See I wouldn't send it home. Their child broke a toy by doing something she was told not to. I would KEEP that toaster but put it on my storage shelf for use after that little girl leaves my care (either outgrows the program or more likely gets termed).

[SquirrellyMama]

It would be really funny if dcg breaks the toaster from home also ::

Kelly

[lovemykidstoo]

It would be really funny if dcg breaks the toaster from home also ::

Kelly

or better yet if another child did. (insert evil laugh here)

[NightOwl]

I'm confused.... Did dcd bring the toaster as a replacement or as a borrowed item that he expects to take home? I just assumed he was replacing. Surely they didn't expect to bring it for dcg to play with there and then take it back home? That makes no sense.

[daycare]

I'm confused.... Did dcd bring the toaster as a replacement or as a borrowed item that he expects to take home? I just assumed he was replacing. Surely they didn't expect to bring it for dcg to play with there and then take it back home? That makes no sense.

I don't think that the DCD clarified if it was only to borrow or to replace the item.

I agree with all of you that said to put it up away from her. Mom and dad are setting her up for failure. You can't break the rules everywhere else then have mommy and daddy fix it. Imagine this child in a few years? 10 years, 20 years.

The only thing she will be playing with is the zipper on her orange suit and the bars she sits behind.

She broke the rule, parents need to back this up ans STOP trying to fix her mistake. She made a bad choice, she and the parents have to accept it and suffer the consequences.

[Butter Biskets]

Dcd dropped off. He did ask to see the toaster because dcm asked how a cookie could have broken it. I showed him, and then he went to his car and came back with dcg's play toaster from home. Dcg gave us the replacement toy, dcd apologized and said DCM over reacted and dcg blew it out of proportion. I handed dcd a copy of my discipline policy and told him that any future questions, he should refer dcm to it. Dcd seemed embarrassed.


I was/am fully ready to term if it happens again.

Wow! Good for you! I am glad that dcd was okay with it and was understanding.

[SquirrellyMama]

If dcd does ask for it back I would play dumb. "Oh, I thought it was a replacement for the one your daughter broke."

Kelly

[SquirrellyMama]

or better yet if another child did. (insert evil laugh here)

Much better ::

[KiddieCahoots]

Term.
This isn't going to stop. And I'm willing to bet that DCG is very difficult to take care of because she is so spoiled.

.......
I had this dcg and family! Toaster, books, dolls,.....whatever!
Dcm isn't going to turn over a new leaf.
If she hasn't apologized yet, she will most likely harbor ill feelings because her little pookie didn't get her way.
Start searching for replacements.