Just Received a Text From DCM

[hope]

Sometimes I feel sorry for the dads. Lol These kind of moms drive me batty. Imagine what they put their husbands through. Haha So sorry you had to deal with that. Glad the dad stepped up.

My best days are when the dad's drop off and pick up. They are usually so much easier to deal with.

[Play Care]

Seriously he asked to see the toaster because you weren't intelligent enough to know that it was broken? What a bunch of doo doo! So do you think dcg is going to expect that her toaster is going back home with her at the end of the day? These people have alot of nerve really. I think if she questions the toaster again, you should tell her that if her daughter is so upset that it's broken, then she shoudl buy a brand new one for your house.

That and questioning how it could have possibly happend, and having to be shown... Really? You don't take your providers word?

I maintain that like attracts like, so it's very rare to have dcp's that are not similar in temprement. It happens, but I swear it's rare.

[daycare]

Here's your am text

Diva, we had to take the Pook to children's hospital last night. She had an anxiety attack because you took away the toaster. She should be released from the ward this morning IF you agree to apologize and give it back. We have a return to daycare Dr's note saying she has to have it back and not to do that again because it upsets her.

We are taking the day off to rest because we didn't get any sleep last night thanks to you but Pookie will be there a little early.

See you in a few. happyface

you are a very funny woman. I enjoy your sarcasm.

[CraftyMom]

you are a very funny woman. I enjoy your sarcasm.

How did I miss that comment from nannyde? That's hilarious! ::

[CraftyMom]

Dcd dropped off. He did ask to see the toaster because dcm asked how a cookie could have broken it. I showed him, and then he went to his car and came back with dcg's play toaster from home. Dcg gave us the replacement toy, dcd apologized and said DCM over reacted and dcg blew it out of proportion. I handed dcd a copy of my discipline policy and told him that any future questions, he should refer dcm to it. Dcd seemed embarrassed.


I was/am fully ready to term if it happens again.

That's a great end to it (hopefully that's the end)

Unless...did dcd TRADE toasters with you? Wouldn't that be something, so then dcg gets the toaster she wanted anyway :: kidding! I'm glad dad stepped up

[Blackcat31]

Dcd dropped off. He did ask to see the toaster because dcm asked how a cookie could have broken it. I showed him, and then he went to his car and came back with dcg's play toaster from home. Dcg gave us the replacement toy, dcd apologized and said DCM over reacted and dcg blew it out of proportion. I handed dcd a copy of my discipline policy and told him that any future questions, he should refer dcm to it. Dcd seemed embarrassed.


I was/am fully ready to term if it happens again.

NO WAY. I would have refused to show them the toaster just for the principle of it.

I ,the caregiver and owner of MY child care said the toaster was broken. I would not have shown anyone anything as "proof" of my words.

I have a DCM VERY similar and she tries to micro-manage my routine/policies too and it's too the point that I am exhausted and ready to term.

When ONE person becomes that much work, it's just not worth it anymore.

I sure hope you get a whole bunch of new clients fast so you can tell this DCM where to go.

I also don't think DCD was "manning up".... I think he was just doing what he could to keep the peace......men who are married to that type of woman/mother become VERY skilled at that. My DCD does the EXACT same thing... sheepish apology and everything. (sometimes the apology is feigned anger at mom's behavior but it's all the same song and dance so....)

[Sunchimes]

DCD is going to be in so-o-o-o much trouble when she realizes that toaster is missing. ::

[nannyde]

Put the toaster up and don't use it at all today. Hide it when they aren't looking and have her spend the rest of the day looking for it. Give it back to them tonight and tell them you don't need it.

It looks like they were doing something good but what they did was make sure she won. She gets a toaster to play with even though she broke one. She is going to want it back. This wasn't about replacing. A kid her age doesn't understand that. It is about you saying no toaster and her pitching a fit for one and them making sure she gets toaster after your no.

Put it up and hand it back and tell them no toys from home. The kid needs to be toaster free for months. She can get her toaster on at home.

[daycare]

NO WAY. I would have refused to show them the toaster just for the principle of it.

I ,the caregiver and owner of MY child care said the toaster was broken. I would not have shown anyone anything as "proof" of my words.

I have a DCM VERY similar and she tries to micro-manage my routine/policies too and it's too the point that I am exhausted and ready to term.

When ONE person becomes that much work, it's just not worth it anymore.

I sure hope you get a whole bunch of new clients fast so you can tell this DCM where to go.

I also don't think DCD was "manning up".... I think he was just doing what he could to keep the peace......men who are married to that type of woman/mother become VERY skilled at that. My DCD does the EXACT same thing... sheepish apology and everything. (sometimes the apology is feigned anger at mom's behavior but it's all the same song and dance so....)

This was my thought too when I read that DCD requested to see the toaster.

What do you not belive me, a grown adult that cares for your child daily? You trust me with her life but not my words that she broke our class toy..............

I would be so angry I would have told them to take that toaster and _____________it.

[Blackcat31]

Put the toaster up and don't use it at all today. Hide it when they aren't looking and have her spend the rest of the day looking for it. Give it back to them tonight and tell them you don't need it.

It looks like they were doing something good but what they did was make sure she won. She gets a toaster to play with even though she broke one. She is going to want it back. This wasn't about replacing. A kid her age doesn't understand that. It is about you saying no toaster and her pitching a fit for one and them making sure she gets toaster after your no.

Put it up and hand it back and tell them no toys from home. The kid needs to be toaster free for months. She can get her toaster on at home.

I agree with this but I would let ALL the other kids play with the toaster EXCEPT DCG.

[NightOwl]

Me too BC. She needs some time without the toaster. But that doesn't mean everyone else does. I think it's a win. Just because he brought a replacement, doesn't mean you're required to let her play with that replacement

[Josiegirl]

I agree with this but I would let ALL the other kids play with the toaster EXCEPT DCG.

OMG now wouldn't THAT wreak havoc with dcm??!! LOL

[CraftyMom]

I agree with this but I would let ALL the other kids play with the toaster EXCEPT DCG.

Good point, the whole idea was that she broke it after being told not to do something and didn't listen. The toaster was taken away. Now she's getting her way by dad bringing her own toaster.

FWIW I can't see ANY of my dck's nicely sharing a toy that they brought from home that they are now forced to GIVE to the daycare and let the others paly with it willingly. Just wouldn't go well. I would end up taking it away from everyone due to fighting over it I'm sure

[debbiedoeszip]

Dcd dropped off. He did ask to see the toaster because dcm asked how a cookie could have broken it. I showed him, and then he went to his car and came back with dcg's play toaster from home. Dcg gave us the replacement toy, dcd apologized and said DCM over reacted and dcg blew it out of proportion. I handed dcd a copy of my discipline policy and told him that any future questions, he should refer dcm to it. Dcd seemed embarrassed.


I was/am fully ready to term if it happens again.

I would do as Nannyde suggests by giving back the toaster. Tell the dad that you understand that he was trying to "make it right" but that what would really help to "make it right" is if he and mom support your discipline decisions in the future. Tell him that all the children, not just his own DD, are learning to listen to direction through the absence of the broken play toaster (broken because a child didn't listen), and that the lesson will go unlearned if you accept his replacement.

[rosieteddy]

I would take the replacement toaster and put it with the kitchen things.Then I would close the kitchen area for a couple of days .Noone plays there.Maybe rotate some forgotten toys back out.Then when DCM complains I would say I thought the "new" toaster was a replacement not borrowed.The policy is no toys from home.