Need To Vent: Rude Parent

[MarinaVanessa]

Your DH won't be the one watching her kid or having to deal with her though. I'd have a hard time working with her after the fact, do what's right for you and don't feel bad about it.

[crazydaycarelady]

I think it is a blessing in disguise. She probably has the attitude that you taking 3 weeks off is ridiculous because she is one of those that thinks "you're just home all day anyway."

[craftymissbeth]

She just wants to have you back on board so she has someone three weeks from now for sure. She will find someone and then break up with you

Parents do not like being broken up with. They just don't. It goes against their idea that we work for them and they will tell us when we can't have their money anymore. It never crosses their mind that we would ever not want their money.

It also goes against their whole "I'm in the on up". When we term they are taken out of the one up. They say words to get back into one up so that when they quit they leave the relationship as the one up.

That's what I was thinking. Yeah, three weeks is enough time to find a new dc, but she needs you to let her back in just in case she doesn't find anyone.

[saved4always]

That dcm is crazy! She went through childbirth - does she not realize that most people in the US get 6 weeks off???

Sorry :hug:

This is exactly what I thought when I read the OP! I could almost see someone who had never had a child being this stupid, but someone who is a mom and went through childbirth herself??!!! Three weeks is barely enough time to recover physically, much less get into a new routine with your baby. What a rude, selfish woman. You are well rid of her.

On a happier note: Congratulations!!!! Enjoy your time off with your baby! happyface

[saved4always]

You're not the bad guy in this. It's one thing to express frustration in a respectful manner. It's a whole other thing to tell you you're a "joke" and that it's "ridiculous" to want to take time to bond with your baby. The frustration she feels would be understandable to me. The rudeness and child-like temper tantrum would not be. There will be other times when you will need to close with little notice -like when you or your kids are sick. What kind of response will you get from her then? If it were me, I'd stick with the original decision to term and not feel guilty about it.

Totally agree with this, too....she did have time to think before hitting send and she sent it anyways. It is not like the rudeness just popped out of her mouth, she put it in writing. IMO, that email is her true feelings. I would let the term stand.

[Kabob]

I actually feel really good about my decision to term now. The package should get there tomorrow and I sent a nice letter explaining that the term still stands and why. My dad is visiting right now to help out and he thought I was way nicer than he would be...dh is pleased that I sent a nice letter...

Hopefully I don't hear back from her and we can all just move forward.

Again thank you guys for all your feedback and support. It's good to know I have a place to go to share constructive opinions and get the support I need to stay in this business. I honestly never had so much drama working in any other business...

[SignMeUp]

Going forward, you no longer have a business relationship with her. So even if she does contact you again, you have no duty to respond
I mean, what's she going to do - make more inappropriate remarks, or ask you again to reconsider termination? ::::::

[nothingwithoutjoy]

She is also very part time (2-3 days a week tops)

Ok, talk about ridiculous...she had this temper-tantrum over a difference of two days!

I'm so glad you're feeling better about this. You were absolutely right. And she was so wrong to spew ugliness all over what should be a happy, peaceful time for your family.