Arm Baby- Advice Needed :)

[Oss_cc]

I agree- I think she has gas, food intolerances, food allergies, reflux, something like that. What to DO about it? She has taken her into every place she can think of and everyone just poo-poo's her (young first time mom syndrome I think) and tells her it's normal.

Yeah, that's just silly. If her tummy is hard and she's in pain, it can CERTAINLY be because of mom's diet. With my DD, I had to avoid beans like the plague. A couple bites of hummus (by me, while BFing) would destroy her poor tummy. :/

I agree with a PP, try a blander diet, maybe try eliminating the common offenders first (dairy, beans, etc.)

[JoseyJo]

I agree with a PP, try a blander diet, maybe try eliminating the common offenders first (dairy, beans, etc.)

Can someone give me a list of common offenders?

I know dairy, beans, apples, sulfury veges

[Unregistered]

I'm probably going to be the odd man out but for a baby that young, I agree with the doctors and nurses and would be responding to her each time she cries. There's a difference between holding her constantly and responding to her needs/wants. If she's very gassy, she's fussing because she's uncomfortable. I'd maybe ask the dr. for ideas on preventing/relieving the gas. It could be your dd is eating something that's causing the gas.

This is how I would handle this.

[debbiedoeszip]

Can someone give me a list of common offenders?

I know dairy, beans, apples, sulfury veges

Here's a link that can help identify the bland foods for mom to eat. Under the heading "Solutions" is the list of foods. Good luck to your DD.

[nannyde]

Josey I will give you and your daughter a consult if you would like some help. I think I can help a lot. Would you like that? Free of charge of course!

[Crystal]

Josey I will give you and your daughter a consult if you would like some help. I think I can help a lot. Would you like that? Free of charge of course!

Take her up on this offer, I assure you that you, you're daughter and your grandchild will all benfit from it.

Nan....what a sweet offer! happyface

[JoseyJo]

Josey I will give you and your daughter a consult if you would like some help. I think I can help a lot. Would you like that? Free of charge of course!

Thank you so much NannyDe! That is SO sweet! Since I posted last I talked to my DD about what ya'll said and about the bland diet website. While she was talking she gave me lots of different info than before (she is always like this- for some reason in her brain whatever is happening now has always been happening so it is hard to get a clear picture of the overall story).

I have been trying to be background advice but I decided I needed to find out exactly what was going on. Over the last 2 days I have got in the middle of all her "business" in regards to the baby. I *think* I may be on track to getting it fixed. I took away the positioner, no more co-sleeping, no more swing sleeping. Right now GB is sleeping in her bassinet w/ no binkie

I think what was causing the problem was my DD letting GB get WAY too tired. I told her she can't take the easy way out and not deal w/ her until she is screaming- she needs to be paying attention to her cues and start a sleep routine when she first starts getting tired. Her tummy has been soft all day. I think it is because I haven't been letting her get worked up enough to get into a screaming fit and get air into her tummy.

I WILL take you up on that NannyDe if this doesn't fix the issue though

[Heidi]

Thank you so much NannyDe! That is SO sweet! Since I posted last I talked to my DD about what ya'll said and about the bland diet website. While she was talking she gave me lots of different info than before (she is always like this- for some reason in her brain whatever is happening now has always been happening so it is hard to get a clear picture of the overall story).

I have been trying to be background advice but I decided I needed to find out exactly what was going on. Over the last 2 days I have got in the middle of all her "business" in regards to the baby. I *think* I may be on track to getting it fixed. I took away the positioner, no more co-sleeping, no more swing sleeping. Right now GB is sleeping in her bassinet w/ no binkie

I think what was causing the problem was my DD letting GB get WAY too tired. I told her she can't take the easy way out and not deal w/ her until she is screaming- she needs to be paying attention to her cues and start a sleep routine when she first starts getting tired. Her tummy has been soft all day. I think it is because I haven't been letting her get worked up enough to get into a screaming fit and get air into her tummy.

I WILL take you up on that NannyDe if this doesn't fix the issue though

:hug: awesome job, Grandma!

[cheerfuldom]

She doesn't want to hold her baby all the time. She wants her baby to be able to be awake (or asleep for that matter) for at least a few minutes without being held/rocked/walked/snuggled, etc. She is tired to the bone because baby essentially cries or fusses anytime she isn't being paid attention to. Even if you are holding her if you aren't walking, bouncing, moving she fusses. If she falls asleep and you lay her down she wakes and fusses. If she is in the swing she fusses after 30 seconds. If you sit holding her to eat she fusses. My daughter can't take a shower, do any type of chore, make herself food without screaming/crying/fussing. So pretty much everyone else has to do everything for her so she can rock/walk/tend to baby or we have to rock/walk/tend to baby so she can do anything. I KNOW this isn't how most moms or daycares do it. It would be impossible to exist this way without a family of 5 tending to the mother and child together.

Sounds like this is not the average baby then. I would definitely explore reflux, silent reflux, issues with moms milk (I had to do an elimination diet with my 2nd child and breastfeeding). It is certainly possible that baby is high needs and demanding and mom needs to find a provider that is ready to deal with that.

[cheerfuldom]

LOL! That is what I want to hear, just want it to really be true too My daughter herself was VERY fussy (we called it colic back then)- we tried everything but nothing helped. She finally outgrew it about 7 months old. She may have had acid reflux, they didn't check for that back then. I didn't work when she was little so I literally never put her down. I carried her in a football hold for the first 7 months of her life and co-slept with her (not because I wanted to but just because of the constant crying- those things brought it down to a constant whimper)

Grandbaby's tummy is almost always tense to the touch, she passes gas often and has a BM after each feeding. My DD has tried baby massage on her intestinal tract and that seems to help clear out the gas and make her more comfortable but it takes almost an hour to get all the gas worked out and during that time she is crying more because you are massaging her bloated tummy

Another question I have (I have done daycare for 5 years, but I never take babies!) She puts her on a positional sleeper in her bassinet (I'll post a pic of it if I can figure out how) or lets her sleep in a swing- the kind that lays almost flat- or co-sleeps with her just because she (my dd) is SO sleep deprived and she is willing to do anything to just get her to sleep! Suggestions?

Edited to add pics- can't figure out how to put them in the post but here's the link
https://plus.google.com/photos/10713...40108105519793

you might also consider a chiropractor. This works wonders for my 2nd daughter and she would pass so much stinky gas after each adjustment, it was crazy. the adjusments were done while I was holding her and very very gently.....it is not the crazy neck twisting and back cracking so dont worry about that...it is a small tool that clicks and baby did not even notice it.

[Casey ann]

You can't spoil a baby. New research shows this. She may just have a high needs baby. My 2.5 year old was the same way. Still is. My 5 month old is super easy going. I suggesting finding a small in home daycare that can meet the baby's needs. If you were upset, wanting to be held, etc, wouldn't you be mortified and sad if the people around you did not respond? A baby is no different. I'm not being rude and I wish you could hear my tone. It's loving, I promise! I'm super passionate about this.

[Casey ann]

Good job, grandma!!! You rock!! 👍

[Unregistered]

I was going to say that it soy da to me like a very tired baby.

Granted, tummy aches will keep her awake but some babies are just sooo sensitive to their sleep need yet so unable to sleep as needed that they get all out of whack.

Many moms don't realize that a 3 week old baby can only stay awake (without getting overtired) for 30 min max. They think the baby will just fall asleep whenever they need. Nope, some just don't!

She needs to watch her cues and give her the best environment possible to sleep (safe, dark, white noise, swaddle).

However, at the same time, she needs to know that optimal time to teach babies to sleep on their own is 4-5 months and that many fussy babies grow out of it by 4 mo.

It will not harm her baby to do her best to meet its needs as often as possible while still putting her down when she needs a break.

[Indianadaycare]

This. The bolded part is the next step. Parents need to make sure they find a provider that DOES offer what their child NEEDS.

There are so many different types of providers that if ALL parents did that, there would be so many less issues in regards to this issue.

I know there is a lack of infant care in some areas but I'd keep looking until I found the right one, no matter what. That is just SOOOO important imho.

I agree! I purposely take only 4 little ones; up to the age of four, so that I CAN provide that kind of infant care. The first year especially is formative for the child - how they will view the world, be secure to explore, etc. I would quickly respond to her cries whenever possible. Keep searching for the RIGHT provider.