Maybe I'm Just Crabby But...

[Kabob]

I'm getting really tired of my one dcm constantly bringing up how much of an inconvenience it is to her that I'll be closing "without warning" for 2 weeks (unpaid) when I have my baby.

She literally had the balls this morning to say that I originally said I would stay open using my sub the entire time (my sub that she didn't like me hiring mind you) and so she is upset I lied to her. I didn't. I originally said 1 week closed back in December but changed it to 2 weeks when dh threw a fit. So I told her accordingly that same month and then reiterated it verbally since then every month and also sent out a letter last week reiterating my pregnancy plan...2 weeks closed unpaid with my sub ready to take over when I go into labor.

She also said this morning that I needed to give her an exact day I plan to pop out this baby. Seriously? Her child was a month early with complications and I'm sure she wasn't asked to work through it...

I'm tired of it. She just won't leave it alone. I wanted to tell her if it's that bad then she should leave....she already is a pain in my rear due to her using over 10 hours a day (paid now but she will probably complain about that soon since it won't be noticeable to her until she uses a full week the next week) and has been just testing my patience on everything lately. I swear if she comes back whining tonight I'm just gonna write her a lovely goodbye note...save myself on some money on paying my assistant since that leaves me with families that only use 9 hours a day...

Ok...vent over...back to my regularly scheduled morning...

[cara041083]

I would tell her to leave. I wouldn't hire your sup. You wouldn't be able to really rest and enjoy your new lil one with a house full of kids. If your like me, I have a hard time "not doing" anything or taking over. I would give mom her 2 week and play stupid and tell her "well I figured it would help you since you needed an exact date and this way you can fine a new provider that won't need time off" But thats just me . I look to put people in there place

[cara041083]

Oh and I will add that I had this same thing happen to me while I was prego, I even had a parent hire there own sup to come to my house and watch her kids . Yep not gona happen. I ended up terming them, and glad I did

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I would tell her to leave. I wouldn't hire your sup. You wouldn't be able to really rest and enjoy your new lil one with a house full of kids. If your like me, I have a hard time "not doing" anything or taking over. I would give mom her 2 week and play stupid and tell her "well I figured it would help you since you needed an exact date and this way you can fine a new provider that won't need time off" But thats just me . I look to put people in there place

I'd do this, too. Or, I would say something like, "Well, I would bring Aidan to my delivery but I would prefer that to just be family time. YA KNOW?! "
An exact date....geesh.

Oh and I will add that I had this same thing happen to me while I was prego, I even had a parent hire there own sup to come to my house and watch her kids . Yep not gona happen. I ended up terming them, and glad I did

WOW! Now I have read it all.

[NeedaVaca]

Jeez...you want an exact date? Term, there you go (big smile) now she has her date. I would also be ready to put her in her place,especially if I was pregnant-I would not have the patience for that, nor is the stress good for the baby. I would call her out on ridiculous request...

[Kabob]

I honestly was so tired (3ish hours of sleep...yay insomnia) that I didn't have a snappy comeback when she asked why I simply couldn't stay open the entire time. I jumbled together something about not feeling safe or comfortable staying open after talking to my licensor. Sigh...I'll have to clarify that one....my dad is a contractor and plans to stay with us while I'm closed so that he can fix/add some stuff for us (install an extra door in the garage for instance) so I wouldn't feel safe with the kids around that plus I don't think I'm allowed to do that kind of thing during daycare. Plus, as already mentioned, I too am the kind of person that wouldn't be able to relax while there are other kids here...I would want to jump in too...plus this is my own home.

And let's just say I live in crazy backwards world and I did say I'd be open instead of closed back in December. It doesn't matter now because what I put in writing now is that I will be closed. And it's my business. If I want to say everyone must wear pink tutus one week and the next week I send a letter saying everyone wears pants only then that nulls and voids what I said previously. The past is the past and what is happening now is what matters. Besides...I could have complications and need to close longer. Who knows?

I get that I need to be reliable so I totally am planning on everyone jumping ship and I wouldn't blame them...but goodness I don't need to be badgered every week about it...I'm not going to be duped into doing something that would make my family very unhappy...

Plus...both my licensor and food program rep think I'm crazy for only closing for 2 weeks...they both have said that most providers around here close at least for 4 weeks (mostly paid) and think I'm cutting myself too short. My licensor told me to tell dcm to "get over it." ::

[MotherNature]

Ridiculous request. She must have had an elective c section if she is expecting you to know the exact date your baby will be born. Ugh.

[jenn]

She is ridiculous! It makes no difference what you originally said. You have given her more than enough time to make different arrangements. I would not tolerate the daily comments and questions. You told her what the plan is. Her opinion of the situation is not at all important. I would tell her that since she is unhappy with the situation, that she should start looking for another daycare. That way she can be settled in to a new place before your baby is born and she won't have to worry about the 2 weeks.

[KiddieCahoots]

Good God! This parent is nuts!
Sounds like she is just looking for you to give her an excuse to leave at this point. So give her one.....her 2 weeks notice! Lol!
The undue anxiety she is causing you and your baby at a time that is suppose to be joyful. Ugh! I'll never understand how some parents can act like this!

[Play Care]

She is ridiculous! It makes no difference what you originally said. You have given her more than enough time to make different arrangements. I would not tolerate the daily comments and questions. You told her what the plan is. Her opinion of the situation is not at all important. I would tell her that since she is unhappy with the situation, that she should start looking for another daycare. That way she can be settled in to a new place before your baby is born and she won't have to worry about the 2 weeks.

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[Kabob]

Good God! This parent is nuts!
Sounds like she is just looking for you to give her an excuse to leave at this point. So give her one.....her 2 weeks notice! Lol!
The undue anxiety she is causing you and your baby at a time that is suppose to be joyful. Ugh! I'll never understand how some parents can act like this!

I think she's looking for an excuse too. I really would be happy if she left at this point. She's the one that gave me an attitude and then backed off when confronted about it...she said she just was having a bad day but it seems now that she just is festering over my pregnancy and it is showing in the way she talks to me now. I get it. It's an inconvenience. I'm not expecting her or anyone else to stay. I'm not expecting to get paid during this. I just expect respect. I don't even know why I tried to justify my closure to her....me having a baby should be all she needs to know.

I guess I'm just tossing around the idea of giving her an easy out at this point....maybe I'll type up something during naptime....she's the only one complaining...everyone else has already made plans. Again, even my licensor was shocked at her behavior...she has had months to make a backup plan and yet again this morning was asking me what I expect her to do for 2 weeks...

Urgh...I don't know why this is bothering me so much...

[coolconfidentme]

The next time she brings it up I would smile & tell her, "Wow! It just occurred to me where your child's gets their repetitive nature from." ::

[Kabob]

The next time she brings it up I would smile & tell her, "Wow! It just occurred to me where your child's gets their repetitive nature from." ::

It doesn't help that her child happens to be in a difficult phase right now...her diapers are leaking again and she is teething on everything and not listening and is throwing things and screaming at drop off again and not napping quietly and so forth...gotta love "terrible twos". ::

[taylorw1210]

You know how to put an end to the comments quick?

Next time she makes one say, "DCM, this seems to really be an issue for you. Should I write up your 2 weeks notice of termination?"

Don't you dare justify or explain things anymore! 2 weeks is nothing after having a baby.

[kitykids3]

oh yeah, just give her the two weeks notice if the money isn't an issue. She and her child do not need to be causing you and your unborn baby all this stress. Quite frankly you've given her plenty of details and notice. There should be no discussion about it left til your baby comes. She needs to be a grown up and figure out her alternative plans and leave you alone. Maybe she'd be able to figure it out if she spent more time trying to and less time complaining to you.