DCB Injury

[CraftyMom]

So I was changing dcb and I checked out his chest. It looks totally fine... MAYBE a little swollen on one side of the bone and then there's the scratch in the middle. I said "oh man, bud, how did you get this ouchie?" ... not really saying it to him, but just thinking out loud. He very clearly said "my mama hurt me" and then dcb4 said "yeah my mom poked him too hard" the what did she do now?

So I asked "oh bummer, that stinks when that happens. How did she poke him too hard?"

Dcb4 says "she has too long fingernails and she accidentally poked him"

Ugh, I'm sick to my stomach now. I know you have to take what they say with a grain of salt which is why I didn't outright ask them in the first place, but they both said it was mom without me probing, kwim?

Definitely document that conversation!

I would tell mom "You'll never guess what your boys just told me!" Then hand her a term letter. I would not want these kids around. All that stress and it was Mom????

[NeedaVaca]

If what the kids say is true then it sounds like mom freaked out when SHE hurt him and was totally ready to throw you under the bus if anything happened. That is SCARY....

[Naptime yet?]

Crafty, I feel for you, this entire thread gives me nervous belly! Stay strong!

[daycare]

I second the way too much drama and move on....AND that says a lot coming from me because I deal with some major drama as you all know.

[craftymissbeth]

I just got off the phone with my rep and she says that if the parent or hospital file a report that they'll be out to investigate but based on my side of things it just doesn't add up. She said "take a deep breath and consider it a blessing that they brought their kids to you another day after the incident". Duh because if I abused their kid they surely wouldn't bring him back!

She also said that there's really no way that it would be red and raised only during the time she had him but before he left yesterday and this morning there's only a tiny scratch there.

She instructed me to fill out the incident form, attach my emails to/from licensing, and stick it in his file. And to document EVERYTHING! You ladies are so smart

I'm going to make a decision this afternoon after pick up on whether I keep trying with this family or not.

[taylorw1210]

This is obviously just speculation - but it sounds like she got too rough with her too rough boys, freaked out because she left a mark on her son, took him to the ER, and then attempted to start a cover story about how it must have happened at daycare.

I'd hand her a term letter immediately.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

If what the kids say is true then it sounds like mom freaked out when SHE hurt him and was totally ready to throw you under the bus if anything happened. That is SCARY....

That is what I was thinking and my stomach dropped when I read your story.

[Kabob]

I agree with the others. I would so be done with this family. Money is nice but just think of the stress you went through. Do you really want to go through this again? Odds are you will since their behavior is not the best and mom's sounds even worse.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

I agree with the others. I would so be done with this family. Money is nice but just think of the stress you went through. Do you really want to go through this again? Odds are you will since their behavior is not the best and mom's sounds even worse.

Exactly. Next time mom hurts one you will be blamed again.

[Kabob]

Exactly. Next time mom hurts one you will be blamed again.

And the next time could be worse. What if he hits his head or breaks an arm at home? Will she blame you for that? Then you have to defend yourself again. Now that you know her true colors maybe it's best to cut your losses and run. She made a pretty serious accusation already.

Good luck! :hug:

[MarinaVanessa]

So I was changing dcb and I checked out his chest. It looks totally fine... MAYBE a little swollen on one side of the bone and then there's the scratch in the middle. I said "oh man, bud, how did you get this ouchie?" ... not really saying it to him, but just thinking out loud. He very clearly said "my mama hurt me" and then dcb4 said "yeah my mom poked him too hard" the what did she do now?

So I asked "oh bummer, that stinks when that happens. How did she poke him too hard?"

Dcb4 says "she has too long fingernails and she accidentally poked him"

Ugh, I'm sick to my stomach now. I know you have to take what they say with a grain of salt which is why I didn't outright ask them in the first place, but they both said it was mom without me probing, kwim?

Document, document, document

Add what you told DCB and what DCKs said to you.

I would start advertising now with the contingency that the "new" client can start in 2 weeks from the day they bring you all enrollment forms so that you can give ypur DCF 2.week notice once you have a replacement lined up.

[TwinKristi]

So I was changing dcb and I checked out his chest. It looks totally fine... MAYBE a little swollen on one side of the bone and then there's the scratch in the middle. I said "oh man, bud, how did you get this ouchie?" ... not really saying it to him, but just thinking out loud. He very clearly said "my mama hurt me" and then dcb4 said "yeah my mom poked him too hard" the what did she do now?

So I asked "oh bummer, that stinks when that happens. How did she poke him too hard?"

Dcb4 says "she has too long fingernails and she accidentally poked him"

Ugh, I'm sick to my stomach now. I know you have to take what they say with a grain of salt which is why I didn't outright ask them in the first place, but they both said it was mom without me probing, kwim?

Aren't you supposed to report any suspected abuse as a mandated reporter?? I just may document THAT as well and fax that to CPS! Gotta cover your bases!

[Lucy]

Definitely document that conversation!

I would tell mom "You'll never guess what your boys just told me!" Then hand her a term letter. I would not want these kids around. All that stress and it was Mom????

YES! Absolutely do precisely ^

That is the perfect way to do it.

[craftymissbeth]

Aren't you supposed to report any suspected abuse as a mandated reporter?? I just may document THAT as well and fax that to CPS! Gotta cover your bases!

But I don't suspect any abuse :confused:

I told my rep what the boys said and all she said was document that, too.

[Lucy]

Aren't you supposed to report any suspected abuse as a mandated reporter?? I just may document THAT as well and fax that to CPS! Gotta cover your bases!

Yes, good point!!!

And if you decide to "keep trying" with them, you're opening yourself up to this happening again. I'm totally not trying to be harsh here, but this incident spells T.R.O.U.B.L.E !!!!!!!

No 2-week notice, GONE TODAY at pick-up. Refund anything they've paid ahead. You're asking for trouble if they stay.