What drew you two together in the first place? What common interests did you have before children?
I know from experience that sometimes men feel left out and hurt after kids come into the marriage because, let's be honest, as women and mothers...we put our kids first and our DH last because they are adults but THAT is really the beginning of the end when that happens. NOT that it isn't repairable..but it's work and effort on BOTH parts.
You say he is a good father...does he actively participate in the kids' lives and activities or is the bulk of it left on your shoulders?
Have you considered counseling on your own? Sometimes that is a huge thing...because you can learn techniques, tips and suggestions on how to communicate and manage a partnership.
Sometimes you feel as though you are saying something or telling your spouse something and they don't get it or understand what you mean and it becomes a sore spot so instead of finding ways to get through to each other the area or subject just becomes one you both avoid.
Marriage IS hard but you really have to decide if you are making the right decision for you forever or if this is really only a fix for a current problem.
IMHO, I feel partners owe it to themselves and to each other (and their kids if they have them) to give EVERYTHING they have to save their marriages before calling it quits.
Something lead you to him to get married in the first place, try to revisit that and see how you feel about it but I definitely think it would be HIGHLY beneficial for you to seek counseling. Sometimes it takes fixing ourselves to be able to be a partner. I'm not saying you need counseling and your DH doesn't....I'm saying I personally couldn't walk away without first trying everything I could. kwim?
Hang in there. I am glad you feel comfortable enough sharing here. It's a big step to reach out to others.
I know from experience that sometimes men feel left out and hurt after kids come into the marriage because, let's be honest, as women and mothers...we put our kids first and our DH last because they are adults but THAT is really the beginning of the end when that happens. NOT that it isn't repairable..but it's work and effort on BOTH parts.
You say he is a good father...does he actively participate in the kids' lives and activities or is the bulk of it left on your shoulders?
Have you considered counseling on your own? Sometimes that is a huge thing...because you can learn techniques, tips and suggestions on how to communicate and manage a partnership.
Sometimes you feel as though you are saying something or telling your spouse something and they don't get it or understand what you mean and it becomes a sore spot so instead of finding ways to get through to each other the area or subject just becomes one you both avoid.
Marriage IS hard but you really have to decide if you are making the right decision for you forever or if this is really only a fix for a current problem.
IMHO, I feel partners owe it to themselves and to each other (and their kids if they have them) to give EVERYTHING they have to save their marriages before calling it quits.
Something lead you to him to get married in the first place, try to revisit that and see how you feel about it but I definitely think it would be HIGHLY beneficial for you to seek counseling. Sometimes it takes fixing ourselves to be able to be a partner. I'm not saying you need counseling and your DH doesn't....I'm saying I personally couldn't walk away without first trying everything I could. kwim?
Hang in there. I am glad you feel comfortable enough sharing here. It's a big step to reach out to others.

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