My Husband Was Arrested-OMG I Need Help!

[littlemissmuffet]

If anyone has suggestions on how the OP and I might be able to connect without having to disclose who we are on here please share!

Open a new Hotmail/Gmail/etc email account with no identifying information (daycarelady01 or something) and post it in this thread for the OP to see. She can then create an email account to contact you and then you two can connect privately, but without revealing who you are to eachother.

[Lucy]

Any new updates? Is he home yet? How are things going for you? Your situation has been on my mind. I can't even imagine if I found this out about my husband. It must be a nightmare for you.

[Unregistered]

So just to give everyone an update- here's where we are at- he has found a counselor and an outpatient sex addiction rehab type center. It is top rated as is the counselor. I've made no decisions at all. I got an STD test and he did as well and we both came up clean. He has been to the counselor twice now, he goes again on Wednesday. I'm seeing a psychiatrist on Thursday and I'm going to to see his counselor next week with him. Right now, we are not having a sexual relationship. I need him to work through his problems and I need to make sure I have enough information before I make a decision to stay. I'm in no rush. Even though he has done this, he is still my best friend and I'm going to be there for him. He says he will do anything for me and prove his love everyday for the rest of his life, which is great but that's what he said in our wedding vows too!

I will admit I'm taking small doses of Xanax to get me through the anxiety. Very small doses and it is working wonders. The babies have really gotten me through this. I cuddled my 2 year old DCB today during naptime. He asked to cuddle and I needed it. I'm so grateful to have this daycare and have these babies to care for. It puts everything into perspective.

Now for the bad- I've been binge eating like never before. I'm not heavy- I'm a size 8, but in the last week or so, I think I've packed on a few pounds. My pants are really tight and I feel huge. I'm scared to weigh myself! Ugh.....

[Laurel]

So just to give everyone an update- here's where we are at- he has found a counselor and an outpatient sex addiction rehab type center. It is top rated as is the counselor. I've made no decisions at all. I got an STD test and he did as well and we both came up clean. He has been to the counselor twice now, he goes again on Wednesday. I'm seeing a psychiatrist on Thursday and I'm going to to see his counselor next week with him. Right now, we are not having a sexual relationship. I need him to work through his problems and I need to make sure I have enough information before I make a decision to stay. I'm in no rush. Even though he has done this, he is still my best friend and I'm going to be there for him. He says he will do anything for me and prove his love everyday for the rest of his life, which is great but that's what he said in our wedding vows too!

I will admit I'm taking small doses of Xanax to get me through the anxiety. Very small doses and it is working wonders. The babies have really gotten me through this. I cuddled my 2 year old DCB today during naptime. He asked to cuddle and I needed it. I'm so grateful to have this daycare and have these babies to care for. It puts everything into perspective.

Now for the bad- I've been binge eating like never before. I'm not heavy- I'm a size 8, but in the last week or so, I think I've packed on a few pounds. My pants are really tight and I feel huge. I'm scared to weigh myself! Ugh.....

If the psychiatrist is help for YOU then that is good. It would be good for you to talk to someone.

With any kind of addiction you must always look at 'actions' and never words. It is always what they 'do' and not what they say. This is very, very important.

I hope the best for you.

Laurel